Do men ever recover from sincere guilt or shame?

[Anonymous]

Talking about deception or making unfortunate decisions.
Do you suppress it or come to terms with it? Would you rather forget about it or face it with dignity?

[SallyTho87]

It depends on the situation, the decision, how it affected me / my life, and what the result is.
I'm typically one to weight the pros and cons before jumping into anything. I articulate and do the best I can to ensure I am content with the choices I am making in the present.

I HAVE absolutely made some dumb choices whilst in my younger years, but it has helped me learn and grow from what I experienced. I did not do anything significant that would affect my life in the long run though. Ultimately, if I have severe guilt about something, especially if it was a conscious choice I made, no matter how upsetting or right I feel I am, I would certainly need to own up to it and face it.

Otherwise it's something that will continue to bother me until I accept my own actions, accept what I chose to do, and accept I cannot change what was done.

[DishLady]

Men are generally hardwired to move on. So... even if they're in the middle of a massive problem, they'll likely move on. This includes moral dilemmas, feelings of guilt/regret, etc.

Some guys cope by suppressing their feelings (which between us doesn't work 100% because it's like acid reflux and just hops back up when they least expect it). Some guys cope by addressing it in the moment and then letting it fade as much as possible into the past (like an old battle scar, which is possibly the healthiest option). Some guys hang on to it and harp on it regularly (which, aside from being unhealthy is also very irritating to everyone around them).

[Anonymous]

Both suppressing and comeong to terms with it have worked well for me. Right now I'd like to face it, but I might have to move on pretty soon.

[Asker]

Thank you for your openness 🍀

[Anonymous]

Deception? Like what? I try not to decieve anyone. So it's generally not a problem. If ever I did decieve someone it was warranted. Why would I feel shame about that? It's not a nice world. Sometimes you got to do unto others before you get done unto.

[Asker]

Like claiming you're thirty when you're actually turning forty. 🙃

[Anonymous]

Most men usually admit when they're wrong and take responsibility, unlike most women.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Some do some don't :)