I said Hi to my crush and he is starting to avoid me now?

[Anonymous]

(remaking because i forgot to detail) So me and this guy like each other. He doesn’t know I like him but I know he does because he’s told so many people at school and the way he acts when we are around each other. He is usually very obsessed with me like he follows me around in school and likes to stare at me all day. So on Friday while i was walking past him, for the first time I said “Hey” to him and he said “Hi” back to me and nodded his head up at me. Then later on the bus he tried to play fight a friend for a seat so he can sit on my side where I sit but the friend didn’t let him. So today i’m thinking, since I showed him i’m friendly and there’s nothing to be scared of, that he would try to converse with me. I didn’t see him all day at school until the end of the day at the bus which never happens because he at least see each other once in the halls. He intentionally goes to where he’ll know I’ll be. It feels like he’s purposely avoiding me and acting like I don’t exist which is confusing to me.
Im trying not to overthink but I can’t help it, Im scared I gave him the ick or something when I spoke to him and I regret it so bad. I just hope he didn’t randomly lose feelings and find me ugly all a sudden or smth. Any advice as to why this is happening would be appreciated. 💗

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man that is weird! honestly guys can be so confusing haha. here's what i think might be going on:

- he's shy! now that you've acknowledged him, he's nervous and doesn't know what to do. giving him an "in" made it real.

- OR, he had built it up so much in his head and now that you talked, the fantasy is gone. he needs to think of the actual real you.

- boys that age can be weirdly obsessed then aloof to play it cool. don't internalize it!

the good news is you know he's into you. i'd give it a few days and then try smiling/waving again when you pass to put him at ease. keep your interactions light and don't pressure him too much.

also focus on you - stay looking cute and radiating confidence so he sees what he'll miss out on! he'll be chasing after you in no time. try not to worry, kay? you got this!

[Asker]

Thank you so much, I’ve been worried lately because all this week he’s been acting like i don’t exist at all when just last week, he was actively looking for me everywhere and hyping me up towards his friends , and I haven’t been seeing him much lately so it’s been making me overthink if he doesn’t like me anymore and I made a mistake saying something to him. Thank you again for easing some of my worries <3

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww, girl, I totally get why you've been stressing about it! When a guy goes from acting all obsessed to avoiding you completely, it's only natural to start second-guessing. But try not to overthink - I really do think he's just freaking himself out now that things are progressing.

And hey, he was hyping you up to his friends just last week, right? No way a guy does that if he's lost feelings so quick. Dudes don't talk us up to the homies unless we really got 'em whipped lol.

I know it's easier said than done, but try your best not to let it ruin your vibe. Stay confident in yourself - you're awesome! And who knows, maybe his friends will rope him into actually talking to you soon if he keeps being a wimp.

Keep your chin up sis. Boys are a mess, but it sounds like you totally got under his skin. I got a good feeling this'll work out, you'll see! Just be chill and let him come to you in his own time. You deserve a guy who's excited to be with you anyway. 😘

[Asker]

heyy update! i gave him my number yesterday for the last day of school, but he hasn’t texted me yet :( im scared he rejected me lololol

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww no wayyy, don't even stress girl! I know waiting for that text is super anxiety-inducing, but trust, there's prob nothing to worry about.

Boys can be so dang slow sometimes, it's ridiculous. He's prob just freaking out cuz he finally got what he's been dreaming of - your number! Give it a few days, I'm sure he's just psyching himself up.

In the meantime, don't cling to your phone waiting! Go hang with your friends, live your best life. The less desperate you seem, the less pressure he'll feel. And who knows, maybe he'll see your Snapchat story having a blast and that'll motivate him to text you ASAP!

But also, don't be afraid to shoot him a little "hey, got home safe?" If he still hasn't reached out in like a week. Nothing clingy, just to subtly remind him you're waiting. I'm sure it'll all work out, try not to overthink - I know how our brains can spiral! Stay positive, sis, you totally got this!!

[Asker]

ahh, i wish. i gave it to him when he was coming off the bus and handed a note with my name and number and he goes “what’s this” and just walks off with it. i’m hoping he didn’t lose it, throw it away.., and get icked out from it. ik it’s my overthinking and i can’t even text him because i gave it to him without him asking so all i can do i wait, aghh it’s eating me up inside 🥲

[Oliverlogan263]

Omg noooo 😩 That bus stop drop off was not the move, sis! I can totally see why you're stressed now.

But don't panic yet! There's still hope. Boys can be so clueless, he probably thought you were just being friendly and had no idea it was your number. Give him a few more days to work up the courage.

In the meantime, be extra cute and smiley if you see him around the neighborhood this weekend. Maybe do a little hair flick while making eye contact - something to really jog his memory of how much he liked you.

And if by next weekend he still hasn't texted, I say you shoot him a casual "Hey :) How's your summer going so far?" play it off like you're just checking in as friends. If he's interested, that'll get the ball rolling without putting too much pressure on him!

You've got this girl. Even if it doesn't work out with him, don't let it discourage you. There will be lots of other cuties begging for your number, trust! Keep shining your bright light - he'd be dumb to miss out. I'm here if you need me, ok?

[Emanon25]

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