If someone can’t get a girlfriend should they be desperate and take whatever they can get?

[Anonymous]

Like there is a thing as low self esteem but also I’m just naturally ugly and that isn’t gonna change so I’m curious if I should just take whatever I can get

[TonyV]

No, you need to ditch that mentality too, women can and will pick up on that, you're scaring off the average and pretty girls but even the less the attractive and overweight girls the girls you're referring to as "whatever I can get" well they don't want to feel like a last, desperate resort either, so they aren't gonna date you either if come up to them like they're the last pick in dodgeball. Just cause their 400pounds dosent mean they are stupid they can tell you're just desperately trying to hookup with anyone, and just cause you're desperate and are projecting your feelings of desperation onto them, dosent actually mean these "take what I can get" girls are as desperate as you, they will happily wait till a guy who appreciates them SD they are comes along, not just a desperate, depressed guy with no self esteem.

You can't love someone till you love yourself, so go to the gum till you get your confidence back and then try to date.

[CurioBlue988]

No, I say its better to be alone than have someone who doesn't truly like you. Be careful to not have transactional relationships, only take a girl who is 100% attracted to you and cares about you