Do you sympathise for guys who can’t get a girlfriend no matter how hard they try?

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D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I voted that I don't. They'll be complaining like it's difficult to get a chick... No, it is not. 90 minutes a day... makes me look like I do.

Do you sympathise for guys who can’t get a girlfriend no matter how hard they try?

All it takes is some work and it's not that difficult to get whatever type of woman you want and as often as you want. Now when some guy looks like he can't bench what I curl with one arm... Just what the fuck do they expect?

HIT THE FUCKING WEIGHTS!!!

They need to do some work... I mean they want pussy so bad and want to cry about not getting any, but all you have to do is 90 minutes a day and the girls will be trying to get you and not the other way around.

So... when I view them doing that, I see people that are not even trying and then complain about it.

I guess you can make money too, and advertise your money... but you're going to look good to thieves too. And the types of women you'll attract from that... it's not going to be good for you. It's fine, but spend the money on yourself. Be wanted because you make her lick her lips just thinking about your junk inside of her. Just hit those fucking weights.

GreatBigCircles · Accepted Answer

It really depends what kind of guy you're talking about. The guys who fail to find meaningful relationships because they feel socially isolated due to being unable to find good ways to meet people, yea. Outside of bars and dive spots, there aren't many places where it's acceptable to casually roll into a conversation and join new social circles if you're not already part of several. And even then, the acceptability of that is in bars and dives is dwindling, and it requires a guy to be comfortable in that sort of place too.

If you mean the kind of guy that flails around trying to superficially impress women without even knowing anything about them and not interested in learning, and are an endless source of spaghetti? No, I don't feel that sad for them.

Reem12345reem · Accepted Answer

if a guy tries hard to get a girlfriend and doesn't get a girlfriend at the end means he thinks that :

1) he thinks he's not worthy or doesn't deserve a rltp deep down

2) he thinks he has to try hard to get a rltp altho it's not that hard

3) he has limiting beliefs about himself or about relationships based on what his parent's rltp was

4) he's picky and believes all women are cheaters or manipulative

5) he doesn't have the requirements that women seek for in a guy like money and other things

and i picked that i don't sympathise bc by doing this im just letting the victim mindset of this guy who tried hard to get a girlfriend grow , maybe showing compassion and understanding his situations yes but sympathising for him will just convince him that he's weak , which I believe that no one is weak we just have things to heal from.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

To an extent. Beauty is subjective so someone will always find even the most unattractive (to me) attractive. It may not be a mutual liking but its quite possible. So rather than judge solely his looks, I’d honestly want to evaluate his personality by spending maybe a week around him. It will be completely platonic and I will give him my honest opinion at the end of the week of regarding if I’m seeing an issue that other girls may see. I wouldn’t know whether to tell him its an evaluation because he may fake his persona. But if I don’t tell him then he may expect romance and think I’m leading him on. In the end, if i see nothing wrong, then other girls would need to give him a chance romantically or platonically to see if they saw an issue that I didn't see.

stepyo99 · Answer

No, I don't sympathize for guys who can't get a girlfriend because the secret is that it's just a numbers game. Stop caring about if the social situation is "appropriate" or not and ask as many women out as you want. If a girl likes you, she'll like that you approached her regardless of where or when. Literally the only thing that matters is rules number one and two: Be attractive. Don't be unattractive. If you weren't born a 6'4" Chad, lifting weights and wearing well-fitting clothing can go a long way.

And I especially don't sympathize for those birth control-popping cat ladies who cry about "where have the good guys all gone?" one minute and then the next cry about how they get hit on by strangers. The one and only cause for how terrible the dating pool is today is loser femcels and feminists. Every last one of those barren genetic dead ends deserve their loneliness, depression, and anxiety.

milknhoneyy · Answer

Unless the reason is that they are a cruel or nasty person, yes I do. Everyone deserves love, and I desperately wish all those with so much of it to give had an outlet for it and a chance to have it reciprocated.

Men who just want an object they can abuse and keep around for pleasure deserve nothing.

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Answer

Not particularly. Maybe if I knew them to be a genuinely good guy that I knew personally, but a lot of times that's not the case and the actual good ones find what they are looking for. The rest usually have something they need to work on or in the worst case scenario, feel entitled to a girlfriend.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

The question is why do you want sympathy? I know I don't. I haven't had a serious relationship in 20 years. I'm the king of 4 month dating. I've hit that mark multiple times in the last 20 and it's nobody's fault but my own. Sympathy in this situation just tells me you want people to feel sorry for you when you're the problem and can work on fixing it. I know I'm the problem, not the women I've dated. The first thing you need to do to fix something is admit that there is a problem in the first place. Stop looking for sympathy, it's a waste of time. Time that can be used to fix the problem.

catiecatie · Answer

Depends. I have a guy friend that hasn’t had a girlfriend and he’s a year older than me. He wants to date me but I’m not trying to be mean, but he’s just not my type. Some times it can be hard to know if they are dating someone or not. Social media doesn’t help in some cases. But my crush doesn’t look like he’s dating anyone but that’s what I can see.

BigRed1987 · Answer

I used to feel bad for my best friend, he’s been single a very, very long time and the longest relationship he’s in was a little over a year.

I found out from his ex that she caught him in multiple lies, etc.
Much more recently, my friend told me about this girl he “hooked up with”, how she…did something that hurt him bad, I felt horrible for him…up until he drunk called me one night and said how amazing that girl is, that he just isn’t ready for commitment. He’s 35 now…he has 0 excuses to be in a relationship.

I used to feel bad, but now I see it’s 100% his fault

Count_de_Monte_Volo · Answer

Those guys don’t think enough about dealing with a bad relationship. We are hyper-sexualy-active because of the media, corporations and governments. We’re not supposed to be hooking up as much as we do. Some people are better off without a relationship but don’t know it because that is never promoted in movies thus it is taboo in society.

hahahmm · Answer

I was always a competitive guy. It's like asking, does the Olympic athlete feel sorry for the guy who came in behind him and didn't earn a medal? Nope. BUT that said, if he is asking me for advice then I would absolutely give the guy 100% helpful advice/opinions. I've known guys in my life who would never help another guy, ever. Point is, if a guy is trying to help himself I can respect that. If he is just claiming to be a victim, it's wasting my time to think about it much.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

I do but I am also aware that for many of these men it’s a self-created dilemma. I know a few guys who simply have no idea how to talk to women or to bring their “A-game”. It’s not really too hard to figure out. Get in some reasonable amount of shape, learn how to have a conversation (not just talk TO women but WITH women), dress decently, don’t live in Mom’s basement, and maybe have some passions and/or life goals to give you some ambition and depth.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Nah.

It honestly isn't that complicated. But it can be hard, because you need to love yourself before you can really love someone else.

And men who tend to whine about not getting girls aren't known for the self-awareness needed for self-love.

lightbulb27 · Answer

yes and I try to help them out as most issues are solvable but often the underlying problems with humans have are what is preventing their success in the first place. Lack of willigness to change. I went through this myself for a long time.

This applies to women as well, but they seem to function a little different.

When you get past your barriers and do the necessary work on yourself and make the effort, then life changes.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

Absolutely I do. It's always been fairly easy for me to get a girlfriend, but I've seen the way some guys are treated.
Between the superficial things they like about me and the amount of bullshit I can get away with, you really get a glimpse as to how shallow so many women are.

Why do I care if it doesn't affect me? Because men have to band together, and I actually want to see other guys have success with women. It's better for everyone when there's peace in the dating world

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Yep.

I know how annoying and frustrating it must be to try so hard at something and still not get the results, although for me, it doesn't apply to relationships, it applies to cooking, lol, but can apply to anyone in different situations.

That being said, I don't have much sympathy for those who are assholes to those who reject them, simply because they were rejected.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Nope, not in the slightest. I was one of those guys for years. To meet and date required me to get out, work at it, change myself, change my perspective towards women and towards life, and fail multiple times. No amount of sympathy or hand holding is going to teach you boys how to be a man.

Hermitess · Answer

I am a woman that can’t get a man no matter how hard I try, so I definitely sympathize. Loneliness is unbearably depressing and I just recently got out of a mental health facility due to the extreme loneliness and depression I’m feeling by not having a partner in my life.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly, the more I look into things like the marriage institution and how often the law lets women get away with theoretically stabbing their boyfriend in the back (false sexual assault/abuse allegations etc), the more they are probably better off without one, they just have not realized it yet.

I want to believe in love, I really do. The problem is seeing my parents' marriage, the relationships I have had and see my friends go through, and finally the fact that they know they can do it with little to no repercussions, my faith in it is really hanging by a thread.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I sympathize with them to a certain extent. It sucks to not be able to romantically connect with anyone, but it kind of begs the question of why they're struggling.

I know a bunch of great guys who fall flat with women because of nothing more than bad luck; the stars just never allign for them. I know other men who fail with women because they are simply off-putting people.

BlackJeep · Answer

No. They need put in the work on themselves and level up. With how many women are out there looking for a good man, all he would have to do is be a good man and he'll have options.

DextroShade · Answer

A lot of guys are struggling with 1 in 3 men reporting no sexual activity in the last year. In the past most of these men would have found wives, but today feminism and social media have turned most women into entitled whores; a majority of them are fat as well. There is a severe shortage of marriable women in the West which is why men with the means are going overseas to find wives. This is has caused the destruction of the family and is literally an existential threat to Western civilization.

May1787 · Answer

I don’t think they’re really trying as hard as they think.  The guys I know who complain just don’t try to be better, attractive, desirable.

JesseP1nk · Answer

Honestly? No! When women do not wanna be with you its because you do something wrong. You need to figure it out what you do wrong and work on yourself. Its ok to ask help.

slatyb · Answer

I'm less sympathetic if they blame it on other people.

Chthou95 · Answer

And then a lot of you wonder why Fresh and fit and Andrew tate are so popular amongst men who struggle to attract women. You guys don't care about these dudes but the minute they start listening to these guys, then you complain and say they shouldn't be taking advice from those men. Pathetic blue pillers 😂

_SillyShoes_ · Answer

If they're a kind, honest and no b*****it person then I absolutely feel bad for them.  Everyone who wants to, and is a good person, deserves someone to love. Period.

Sarahr123 · Answer

I come from a very orthodox background and thank God most of us are save from the likes of such frivolous

EricSummer · Answer

Generally I do not have a lot of empathy. It's difficult to sympathise with a guy only because he cannot get a girlfriend.

okeydoke · Answer

It depends. If it’s an incel thing, then no. If it’s someone with a physical or developmental/psychological disability that makes it difficult to communicate and date, then definitely.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Not even a little. I feel like more often then not the guys who can’t get a girlfriend just don’t put the effort into being worth dating.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

If a guy is nice enough, he can get a girlfriend, even if he is poor or uneducated.

Anonymous · Answer

maybe just don't try at all, maybe that's the problem. you try too hard, it's obviously going to be a turn off. trying too hard may look desperate.

Avicenna · Answer

Yes, as long as they are not being picky and/or being self-sabotaging. Also they need to be willing to try new approaches.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Yes I do because for a long time I believed I was extremely unattractive and even when girls admitted they were attracted to me I never believed it and would shut them out

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I definitely do. I know how hard it is to not be able to get a boyfriend no matter how hard I try so I not only sympathize, I empathize.

CantMissIt · Answer

Women have no empathy for men the sooner you learn that the better. A lot of men have no empathy too.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Honestly I don’t. If they’re trying that hard then they could’ve been had a girlfriend or they are trying too hard

DarkLegacy · Answer

Hark at all the woman saying no, they needn't come to us for sympathy when they cock things up and make shitty life decisions.

kerrieK001 · Answer

I used to until I eventually learned that it's mostly their own fault.

Sanser · Answer

I sympathise... I had a bad time in my life that I felt really alone and its a frustrating feeling. No one deserves to feel like that.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

LOL.. No. The problem with these dudes is that they desire pretty girlfriends when they aren't handsome themselves. Plenty of 3's and 5's desire a boyfriend too but get ignored.

msc545 · Answer

It is really disgusting to read that many people blame the guys who are being rejected instead of blaming the women who are doing the rejecting.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t get men either so I won’t give sympathy to men. No body owes men anything. Nor am i owed a boyfriend.

Shamalien · Answer

Yeah I do but generally I think guys who try hard enough and make it a priority figure something out eventually

Sasha0426 · Answer

Honestly, it depends. If they do something knowingly that makes them look creepy or an asshole, then no. But, if not any of that, yes.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

I used to. Not as much. What work are they doing on themselves?

Anonymous · Answer

I mean, I don't know. I feel bad if someone is lonely, but most of the time this particular guy rarely does himself any favors, so it’s hard to really feel that badly about it.

Meropatrick · Answer

If you r not getting Something then you didn't try enough or u tried the wrong way

Twalli · Answer

Having been one until 27, I understand what they're going through. At a certain point we'd agree on a date with any girl who asked us.

Anonymous · Answer

The reminder that Society is more likely to give sympathy for women than they are towards men who are lonely and single and are struggling to attract someone

LiamJHayden · Answer

No, but I do empathize if he is not agro about it.

zebronics · Answer

You have the option to get married in a traditional way.

grega239 · Answer

No. I barely care that i can't get one, so i really dont about others

Raaj4you · Answer

Yes, I do. Single life sucks. I can't give all the girls what they want, that is perfection.

OddBeMe · Answer

Yes because I feel it’s all just a sitcom level misunderstanding.

shades777 · Answer

only if he was willing to improve himself or change, otherwise why should i care?

Anonymous · Answer

No one cares lol, the world only cares about women and men with influence. These women that say the care, are the same women that wouldn't look our way and don't mind sharing certain men with other women

normandi · Answer

No... they can always get a hooker the cheapest sex the one you pay for

Billlewis · Answer

This should be an interesting thread.

menina · Answer

I do, because not everyone is lucky in love.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Nope, not my problem.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, because they're the common denominator therefore the problem.

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