Do you want a traditional relationship?

Question

Traditional. Man works, the woman is a housewife/works a little but looks after the kids and cooks.

Drewtate · Accepted Answer

That's not a traditional relationship. It's a fantasy from the 1950s, 60s and 70s that only existed for middle class families of that period. Today it's a luxury if a wife could just stay home and look after the kids. It would also lead to some very bored wives because once the kids start hitting 14 and then eventually leave home she would have nothing to do except drink or/and have affairs. Believe me I used to work summers cleaning pools, cutting lawns and doing yard work for some upper middle class and wealthy families where the wives stayed home and they were always f*cking. When trump talks about making America great again he talks of that period in America where a man on a single wage could support a wife and kids, buy a house, have two cars in the drive, work all summer and pay for college etc which sadly doesn't exist anymore. Even my great grandfather during this time despite the racism got educated, got a decent paying job, had a decent car and bought a house.

Historically women always worked but now the difference is that most of the household chores is done by machines and labor saving devices. The washer washes the clothes. Dishwasher washes the dishes. Electric cooker heats up instantly, meals are already mostly prepared. Vacuums lift dust and there's now robot Vacuums. Diapers are disposable. Modern housework with all the modern conviences is a mere fraction of what it used to be.

What traditional good wife is like can be found in the bible Proverbs 31:10-31

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Honestly I like either way. I think I'd have a slight preference of the traditional way if I made enough money and have a loyal, supportive, and compatible partner. I'd prefer it slightly because it would make me feel like I'm being the masculine figure... the man that provides. I think one of man's greatest causes of happiness is being useful to their loved ones, especially in a masculine way.

I do however, want my partner to feel fulfilled in life and not feel like they're stuck just cooking, cleaning, handling kids, and watching shows. So if that means they start a business of their own or volunteer, or do activities to keep them busy like reading, writing, yoga, etc. then I would genuinely feel happy for them. Life is all about balance.

Realistically in this economy, I may not be able to have a family without dual income, but ideally I'd love to give the option to my partner to be a stay at home wife.

LittleMelissa9614 · Accepted Answer

Actually, yes. I would love to be a house wife. I rather focus on my future kids at home and taking care of things at home while my future husband works, as long as we're good financially. If we needed extra money for anything, I would work just part time so that way I can be home with my kids more, of course I would have a family member or a friend babysit my kids instead of hiring a babysitter. As long as my hubby and I can make time for each other and for the kids, I'll be happy with that. Because in the end we have each other and love each other very much. Making sure he and I keep the marriage happy and healthy and our relationship with our children healthy and happy as well, and we're all cared for too. Go through thick and thin, good and bad together.

Sirenboobzilla · Accepted Answer

Not in that sense. I try to imagine myself as a traditional housewife staying at home and being bored out of my mind. I like to challenge myself. I like to work.

I could see myself staying home for a few years after giving birth to raise our child up until they start elementary school. That much I think I can do. But past that I'd feel the overwhelming need to go back to work and feel like contributing something worthwhile that I can be proud of.

coachTanthony · Answer

Unfortunately most men these days can barely take care of themselves. Women need to work today and for the rest of their lives. The good days are over.

Account · Answer

No. I enjoy making my own money and I don't adhere to traditional gender roles.  They are not for me.

mobiusforniner · Answer

I did. And then when we got married I felt like I’m married to a little girl. No independent thought. Needs constant assurance. Unable to make decisions. Not happy with herself because she was taught her self worth came from outside validation. Sex was awful because she believed it was sinful for any other purpose than procreation

It's taken me over a decade of marriage to provide my wife the education and freedoms necessary to feel happy with herself. And life’s a lot better

but hey, if you want a submissive little girl who can’t think for herself, be my guest. Just know it ain’t what you envision it’ll be

provokeesmokee · Answer

I'm pretty opposed to every concept of trad life except for having a food garden.

I'm queer, poly, kinky, non-binary, and childfree.

Oddly, I find even trads want much of what I do: the time and resources to spend with the ones they love.

CalmUntilAbused · Answer

Absolutely. The bad part is that even a "modern" relationship when both spouses work would be an improvement over the currently most likely scenario where the woman simply lives off the man while contributing next to nothing to the family, which is a horribly warped version of the traditional relationship.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I never got around to having kids, and got remarried at an age where I didn't have to worry about kids.
So both of us worked.
It really depends on your income level, if you both have to work, or one can work outside the house and one can work in the house.

Brittanyroseee · Answer

No. I would rather work and make money for myself than spend it on kids and relying on a husband who could end up leaving me. Also don’t want to be stuck at home doing chores and taking care of a kid. It would drive me bonkers lol.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

It's normal in our country. If I just gave birth, and the kids are still small.. I'd like to focus on the family and maintaining the house. But when they grow up, I would like to work a little on the side, or maybe have a small business. 🥰

Anonymous · Answer

I'm a family guy. I think family is the key to a happy, fulfilling life. I want a woman who feels the same, and who embraces her role as a mother and understands it is the most important role in the world. And I am lucky enough to be married to such a woman.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Nope. We work. We tend house. Everyone in the house participates in chores. Whoever comes across them first does them. We all cook together. It's fun and faster that way too.

sage2021 · Answer

Please, refer to traditional women as HOMEMAKERS cause that's what they are. They are not married to their house

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

I already have that and its really nice

andreasderjuengere · Answer

''Traditional'' can be something else. Such as clubbing down a female of your interest and dragging her into your cave. Where personally, I side with the -traditional- Hippie Way :)

Babygirl_S · Answer

I'm definitely not a career woman. I hate having to hustle so much and prefer the peace that comes with being housewife. However, I have realised that no man in my country prefers a homemaker. They even specify which profession they want.

Apple1996 · Answer

I have a traditional relationship and it's great

nastyb · Answer

most men who want a traditional relationship can't even support a traditional wife and kids

Anonymous · Answer

no. to have no purpose, no career, no money, struggling to get by because only one spouse has a job, no. doesn't work in this century.

Eljay68 · Answer

What is traditional anymore who qualifies this traditional Behavior. It depends on the situation at the time

Moxie72 · Answer

I know way too many SAHM that are trapped in a marriage financially because they haven't worked in years. And hubby put there enjoying life with other women, not coming home, verbally abusive.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Yes I do. And I’m surprised by the number of women that also said yes. Are they mostly non-American? Being a housewife is definitely not something most women want here

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Not really. I’d rather work as a team with my wife and we both have a successful life

Agent_Elflord · Answer

Used to, but now that I changed my mind on having a family, I prefer women with careers.

Elmasekeri · Answer

I want to work so this type of relationships don't suit me

straightmax12 · Answer

A traditional relationship works because the people in the relationship isn't doing all the work

Anonymous · Answer

I want a man that can afford to make me a housewife 😂

CrabCakes11 · Answer

No. That sounds boring

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Oh FUCK nO!

Simslover92 · Answer

Yes I definitely do want that.

pinconon · Answer

yes I do

Peridot25 · Answer

I rather work and I don’t want kids.

magiusX26 · Answer

i want no relationship.

Redstang88 · Answer

Don’t want kids, so not exactly

Anonymous · Answer

Well yes but actually no.

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

God no.

ellefia · Answer

Yes I do

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