Do you prefer a traditional dynamic in a relationship?

[HawkPerception]

Yes

No

[Zack-Bann]

Not necessarily traditional but certainly not the warped modern version of relationships


My ideal relationship has a lot of similarities with traditional relationships but it stops at a certain point where these relationships fail


I want my partner to be a real partner
A partner in bed, a partner in crime.


Not necessarily to break the law together, but to be on each-other's team no matter what
Both willing to take on whatever is needed to help the other achieve the next step in life


That being said I wouldn’t stop being a “man” in the relationship either.
Opening doors, picking up bill, and so on.


I don’t think a “50 50 relationship” means everything is split down the middle
I think it’s best when each partner puts in their 50 in their own way
It’s more about mutual effort and less about identity effort

[MrOracle]

Absolutely. My girlfriend is Filipino, and grew up with very traditional values and gender roles, and we're both much happier that way. Other than cooking, which I like to do a couple of times a week, she prefers to do the "women's work" (her words) and is very happy for me to handle the "man stuff".

She appreciates being protected and led, and having someone who is looking out for her best interests. I have fixed up her in-law unit a lot and I keep up on the maintenance of it and her car. And she shows real appreciation for the things that I do, just as I do for her.

I had about given up on finding a girl like her when we met, and it took 6 or 7 months to actually have real conversations with her as she was pretty shy the first time we met. But it's been 2.5 years and it's been very good so far.

[OlderAndWiser]

I am quite the traditional guy!

[Crimsyjo]

Yes and no.

I know you said to @SunnyCaliGirl you can't have your cake and eat it but it depends on your definition of tradition. Once upon a time a woman was treated as property with no rights and no means to support herself without a husband and had to marry. And many of those men were brought up disrespecting women, having affairs, being abusive or distant. And the woman stayed home and the man earned. So by that definition no. Why would us women agree to that?

But if by tradition you mean a woman is feminine and respectful and nurturing whilst the man is protective, respectful and dominant without being abusive - both partners allowing the other intellectual growth through social relationships and hobbies, both contributing to the wealth of the family unit if needs be, then yes. Traditional in sense of male and female characteristics as the world has moved on from the traditional model in some countries and a man can barely support a family on his one income. Here in UK it's even a legal requirement for women to go to work once the youngest child has reached five. If the husband can't support her on his money alone. And with housing prices and low wages it's not hos fault he can't.

[PeachyPie93]

I was in a traditional marriage and yes I still believe in love and marriage but I would never trust a man to fully be able to depend on him again. He has too much power in that dynamic where there tends to be financial and mental abuse often but he acts like you are the bad guy.

[HawkPerception]

Just sounds to me like you chose the wrong guy. Any decent man would never take advantage of that dynamic

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah I defo did but he was my first everything so I stupidly thought he truly loved me even tho I seen red flags. But even now after talking to many men I believe most men are not decent even when they pretend to be lol..

[Subgurl]

What people don’t realize is that traditional relationships aren’t at all like what is thought of now. Traditionally men and women both worked. The concept that a traditional relationship is a nuclear family where women stay home to cook, clean and raise the children while the husband works outside of the home is largely propaganda and not actually traditional at all. Historically, in the vast majority of families everyone worked.

[exitseven]

Yes, my wife styed home to take care of our kids and we lived on one income. We did not want our kids to be raised by strangers.

[Phoenix98]

Yes it's preferable but obviously only if it's finically viable when I'm married.

[queenofcardio]

No.. I prefer somewhere in the middle..

[HawkPerception]

What does something in the middle look like to you?

[Xawyx-2]

Depends on what you mean by traditional, in relationships I'm not really a traditionalist (I have specific type of girls I like, and they are mostly non-traditional).

[Fireguy17]

I need to be with someone who is independent, I have a crazy schedule and have no time to babysit someone because they cannot function on their own.

[Snowman84]

The trad wife thing is a fantasy, only republican blondes like Erika Kirk would go along with that kind of BS.

[Grond21]

That's not a traditional dynamic

[HawkPerception]

Do tell what is then

[Grond21]

That was pretty much only true in the 1950s. But traditionally, it has been the husband and wife having their joint business out of the home and everyone in the family works on it. Often multiple generations simultaneously. People have different roles, but it's a common endeavor.

[SunnyCaliGirl]

Yes very much so to a certian degree

[HawkPerception]

What does to a certain degree entail? The way I see it, it's either a traditional dynamic or not. You can't have your cake and eat it too lol

[Curiousboy01]

Traditional is fine in my opinion

[TonyMetal___86]

Yes sir!

[Little_Bumblebee]

No, not really.