Does he like me and not want to show?

[Anonymous]

I barely get to see him because he's in another city but when i do we try to spend as much time together and when he had to come to same city as me. He asked if i wanted to go for coffee but i was in a meeting and coudln't go but he said he''ll buy me coffee or i have to skip the meeting.

I obviously coudln't skip the meeting - so he ended up buying me coffee and made me really happy and he was like "its just a coffee " :( but then the next day he bought me bubble tea and also the day after and we went on a long walk. Ever since then because i don't work there anymore we stay in touch , sometimes he calls me with another friend and updates me about the work. I can't tell if he's into me or not!!

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, this guy definitely sounds into you! Why else would he keep making the effort to meet up, buy you drinks, and stay in touch even long distance? Guys don't do all that for just any girl.

A few signs he's holding back on showing all his feelings though:

- Saying "it's just a coffee" plays it cool like it's no big deal, but come on - who buys a girl coffee multiple times if they're not into her?

- Having another friend in the calls could be a way to make things seem more casual even though he wants one-on-one time.

- Waiting for you in the city instead of outright asking you out on a date keeps it in the gray area of friendship rather than putting himself out there fully.

I'd say keep hanging with him and maybe start dropping your own hints that you like spending time together too. See how he responds before making any moves yourself. But this dude is for sure feeling you - just needs a nudge to stop being so shy about it! Stay golden, you got this.

[Asker]

Awww hehehe yeaa 🥹I'll see how it goes sadly he's in another city so it'll be long distance but ugh yea he's really a sweet guy

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww man, long distance always makes things tougher. But it sounds like you really like this guy and he seems super into you too! Just because you're apart physically doesn't mean something good can't grow between you.

My advice would be to lean into all the virtual ways of staying close - long calls, FaceTiming, messaging constantly. Make an effort to find little things you can do "together" even when miles apart, like watching movies or shows at the same time and commenting on them. Send each other care packages too, it's the cute little gestures that will keep the spark alive!

When you do get to see him, really make the most of that quality time together. Give him lots of hugs and cuddles, let him know how much his visits mean to you. Go on fun dates to make memories. Long distance can work if both people are willing to put in the effort - and it seems like he wants to! You got this.

[Wise4myage]

I think he's definitely interested in you.