Does he not like me?

[WinCx3d]

He won’t ever initiate hanging out but if i do he always has open availability like he always says “im free for you , i always have time , you can come over and see me whenever you want “ etc but he won’t ever initiate

I asked him to the movies this weekend but i said i want to go if he’s free and he immediately said “im not doing nothing “

Im confused if he just wants to hang out and that’s why he doesn’t initiate or it’s lack of interest

[Cormac995]

I'm not sure the guy is very clearly into you it sounds like he's basically at your beck and call so I don't think there's anything to worry about. I'm not sure but here's a couple explanations that could be possible.

1. He's worried he might come across as pressuring you or being too needy.

2. Maybe he feels more comfortable letting you pick the dates and times because it leaves the ball in your court and lets you come to him. That way he knows he's not monopolizing your time.

3. Character quirk some guys are just easy going and quiet he might be one of them.

The easiest way to answer this question though is just to ask him. This isn't some big question that's going to ruin the relationship if you ask it. If you want the answer it's probably as simple as saying. "Hey can I ask you something? Why do you always let me pick the dates and come to you?" That's the easiest way to get the RIGHT answer.

[DJB72]

He may simply have been hurt once too often to be prepared to try and initiate. If he's always able to do what you invite him to do that's not necessarily a bad sign. It means there's a strong chance he's happy to rearrange everything in his diary so he can spend time with you on your terms. How's that a bad thing?

Of course he may also be sitting at home in his mom's basement in his underwear because his Star Trek uniform is in the laundry...

Choose wisely 😉

[Booboolove69]

I’m sure he likes you, you seem very sweet, but some guys are just clueless when it comes to asking a girl anything …

[Anonymous]

some guys can be like that. although, his lack of effort is concerning if you were to get in a relationship with him.

[serious]

Okay, so how does it matter whether he is the one initiating it or not? There should be no ego here.

I mean whenever you do initiate he responds and reciprocates so that is what is important.

[Leon1]

Women pick the men, initiate reach out let him know she picks him and men would set up dates, speak to the parents, pay for dates, organized all the bs etc. if a girl doesn’t like a guy she won’t do that, if a guy doesn’t like a girl he won’t do that.

[Leon1]

In your scenario he is saying that he is available but he isn’t bothered to actually make concrete plans.

[Leon1]

If it’s the same guy from your previous post, he doesn’t like you just the sex.

[dragoblack]

If you are worried, just talk with him about it. There's a large multitude of reasons he could be acting that way.
It's super common introvert behavior and doesn't mean anything big by it, it's also trauma behavior from those initiative actions constantly ending badly, if he always has time, then with you having a busier schedule it's better to have your contact since he doesn't know your free times. And those are just a few examples of what it could be. Talking with him is your best option.

[WinCx3d]

But it feels like he doesn’t want me

[dragoblack]

Feeling can always confuse, but communication is always important

[slatyb]

He likes you, but you aren't a priority. What's he doing with the rest of his life? Does have any passion or is he just doing whatever is easy? What do you want? Have you asked for it?

[WinCx3d]

We work different schedules

[fish5505_87]

I think maybe he likes that he is in control, perhaps he's a little insecure, I would lean toward the first. He likes the fact that you initiate everything, and he is being gracious by allowing you freely into his schedule?

[Sevenpointfive]

he's trying to tell you he's broke and doesn't have no money honey. tell him to go to work

[chrissykerdock]

tell him you want your pussy eaten tonight

[GatinhoPequeno]

This is the correct answer.

[Billlewis]

It sounds like he's trying to back out.

[WinCx3d]

What do you mean back out

[Billlewis]

Trying to come up with an excuse for not going to the movies.

[WinCx3d]

He said we could go he’s not doing anything

[Billlewis]

Oh, okay. Good.

[Leon1]

So what’s the issue then? The answer is you already know, lack of interest.

[strateguy632]

No, he does like you.

[shortster]

You are in the friend zone.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he likes you only as a friend.

[eagle1951]

shy maybe