Guy comes back after no contact?

[Anonymous]

So this guy decides to cut me off for 23 days- and then breaks it like that.
He continued to leave me on read. I need to understand what's up? Is he using me? I kind of moved on after 6 months of constant inconsistencies.

Updates

+1 y

Ohh let me go check! 👀

[TommyMountainFigure]

I cannot tell you what is going through his head, but I CAN tell you what you should do about it.

I literally just answered another question by saying I make it clear to anyone breaking up with me, be sure it is what you want, because once it is done, there will be no going back..

You need to be decisive with people you in a relationship with, that there can be no messing you about. Either you are together, or you aren't. Once they decide it's over.. consider it as good riddance to bad rubbish (assuming you have no desire to be just friends)

[Asker]

Thank you man that was really helpful! 🤗

[TommyMountainFigure]

You're very welcome.

[teamvic]

Hmmm two possible reasons

And I know because I've done this before,

There either was a new girl he found, left you, saw it didn't work then came back

Or wasn't that into you. Then randomly remembered you and thought about clapping yo cheeks then came back

[Asker]

Yes that makes sense! Thank you 👏🏼 Either or, do you think I responded well? I mean I kind of ignored him for a couple of hours, but had nothing to say to him. Feels like he's trying to get my attention by complimenting my pic. Like DUDE IF YOU SHOWED YOUR MOTHER MY PIC LAST WEEK WHY DID YOU DROP ME 23 DAYS AGO? 😂

[teamvic]

Oh he ain't show his mom that's just him flirting🤔😂

Also you ignoring for a couple hours, he probably didn't even notice haha

I mean I think you handled it fine, if you wanted to talk to him again or be nice. But if you have no interest in him then you probably should've just left him on a seen🤔

What's your desire with him firstly so I know what we can do to plan accordingly 🤔

[teamvic]

He's definitely trying to get your attention by complimenting your Pic girl he wants you😂 in one way or another

[Asker]

Well,.. if he did want me he would have not dropped me last month yknow? Also I kind of know the mother- and she set us up. And it's long distance. So we haven't met 😂 he's also introverted, but I mean if all of the above and he liked me, he would have just been with me or things would have progressed in 6 months yknow?

[teamvic]

Well you'd think but , let's say he liked you this whole time, why leave for that long?

As I said something or someone got in his life

If I liked a girl, even distance I'd talk to her as much as I could

[Asker]

Dayuumm! Thank you for putting it out like this. I needed to hear that 💯 I'd like to be friends with you already. You're very smooth to talk to ☺️

[Asker]

Do you think it would sound needy if I asked to communicate clearly about this with him? Or if we wanted to talk?

[teamvic]

I'm definitely down to be your friend😌 but only if we don't be strangers to eachother. and thank you haha

Ask him about why he left for 6 months?

I mean of you're into him I don't see how it could hurt but let's be honest. How likely is he going to tell you the actual truth compared to just telling you what you want to hear🤔

If you want to go ahead. I'm just saying be aware of the liess🤔

[teamvic]

Wait I'm still not sure. Are you trying to be with him or no😂

[Asker]

Ohhh yes please! Would love to get to know you. Add me on Telegram/IG: Omneyahg6 ☺️

[Asker]

Nah you're right. I just wanted him initially, but now i'm not sure if I want to... think I just wanted him to act right, because I understand the cultural barriers are crazy especially that I'm Egyptian. So lots of the things he does are so disrespectful. Anyhoo, I highly doubt I want the same things anymore tbh. Just don't want to fall out with the mom... and also want to have clear communication about this & put an end to it. He really messed me up the past 6 months, and when he reached out yesterday, I looked at my phone, and said I deserved so much better.

[teamvic]

I think I messaged youu on ig

[Asker]

Ohh let me go check 👀

[Explorer91]

Porbably just isn't as emotionally invested to you. It is easier to come and go because he isn't in love with you. Intent probably isn't to use.. but likes your company or likes talking to you or whatever when he is single or feeling lonely. When not feeling lonely doesn't need to talk to you, because he may not be in love with you. So its not a big deal to him. It might be like that. I definitely was like this to a guy befor.

[Asker]

Thanks girl that's very insightful! How do you approach a situation like this & demand clarity on things? Or just leave it as is?
Also did I respond to him in a way that pushed him away?

[Explorer91]

I am assuming you want a relationship with this person. The problem is if he doesn't want it with you there is nothing you can really do or not do. Eventually he will go away if he doesn't want the relationship. So I guess what I would do is find out if a relo is even possible with this person. If it is not. It will always be on and off.

[Explorer91]

like a relationship long term*

[Asker]

Yup. It's always been on/off... hot & cold. Thanks girl 🫶

[Explorer91]

Yes it usually means this person is feeling like the original thing I said about you. Doesn't see you long term but enjoys having you/ being around you/ with you as a default. I don't always think this is a bad thing. It means this just isn't the person for you and you have a chance to recognise that before its too late.

[DishLady]

You probably counted the seconds too... 23 days, 24 minutes and 53 seconds, right? 🙄

Why did you tolerate this for 6 months? A couple of weeks and you should be shaking your head and moving on.