It doesn't matter what clothes a girl wears. Men should not be allowed to stare at them. Agree or Disagree?

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TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

Here's an analogy: A museum open to the public. In the museum is a statue of the goddess Aphrodite. But at the entrance of the museum, there are two officers with blinders that they hand out to any male who enters. They wrap a blood pressure monitor on his arm. The monitor is linked to an app on their phone and if it goes off within the proximity of the display, the officers arrest and drag off the guilty man.

That's how ridiculous the idea of controlling this is (that's not directed at you, Hawk; I'm sure you get the point of what I mean). A world-class view, but don't look, guys. The nerve! You are not allowed to look at someone dressed for attention in public because you should know they don't want you to look even though it looks like they do.

Women are beautiful to men in general. If they dress to attract, they should be prepared to get attention from not only the good-looking guys, but also guys they may not find attractive. That, I think, is the distinction.

The one thing I'd say is that women should be able to tell guys "No, I'm not interested in you" and be believed. The area where an obvious line is drawn is that her dressing to attract does not then justify rape. That's another topic, though, and one I'll leave alone for the moment.

WintersDaughter · Accepted Answer

Dress how you wish people to view you. If you want to dress as a slut, people will look at you as a slut and you don't get to complain.

Men will always stare, women will too. Dress how you want, but don't complain.

adventurous-1 · Answer

disagree, why should men be penalized for admiring an attractive woman when its perfectly alright for a woman to stare at a sexy man? if women don't like it then they should not do it because they are no better than the men they're complaining about. If a girl is dressed to impress doesn't she get mad if men don't notice her, else why is she dressed that way, if not to get attention? Don't women wear make-up to improve their appearance to get men to notice them? If you truly don't want a mans attention then you can dress down, forgo the make-up and cover yourself so nothing is showing that could entice a man to notice you. Just don't get mad and slam men when they ignore you and/or walk past if you like your invisible, especially if you need help with something. Isn't that after all what you wanted? When I was working out at a gym, women stared at me all the time but I expected that, Its just the way the world works. I was happy that my effort to improve my image was working. If I didn't want the attention then I would've stayed home and ate popcorn while sipping on a malt. Be careful of what you wish for, it may not turn out as you expect it to.

RingOfFire · Answer

What would those who think that staring shouldn't be allowed do about it? Arrest people for staring?

Next they will be arresting people for thinking about things that others don't approve of.

Men staring at women is a powerful natural instinct. In order for the species to survive men have to be visually stimulated. It's part of the reproductive process. We should be thankful for it because it's one of the reasons we are here today to talk about it.

But regardless, where your eyes gaze is your business and no one else's no matter how offensive others may find it.

DishLady · Answer

“Allowed”? Eyeballs are eyeballs. Unless you’re planning to blind everyone just to wear something inappropriate the looking won’t stop. It’s the catcalling and corresponding harassment that should be addressed — though if you consider all or some of this to be unwanted attention you should also take responsibility for what you’re wearing.

MisterWack · Answer

Women stare at guys all the time, like “hey that ones cute, you thinking of asking him out?”(in private with a gal pal saying it very quietly)

We can talk about appropriate ways to stare, approach, and ask out a girl however to flat out pretend that humans regardless of sex/gender/orientation don’t get attracted and fall in love / find people sexy is dumb. Normalize good behavior and non abusive, to flat out remove from equation isn’t going to help anybody. I’ve met a lot of young girls in my MS / HS days who would harass, peak, and never take no for an answer when it came to guys. There needs to be lessons on appropriate behavior, turning that attraction into a positive reaction, not a negative where you make the person feel uncomfortable/threatened/creeped the F out. Just my opinion.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

How do you define "stare," how do you measure it to know when a man is staring, and what is the penalty for a man staring at a woman? And does the same law apply to a woman staring at a man? Does it apply to a man staring at a woman who is a cheerleader on the sidelines at a football game? A model walking down a runway?

DizzyDesii · Answer

Staring in general is a bit much but there's nothing wrong with the opposite sex checking eachother out. Catcalling is when it starts going overboard but thats never bothered me. Im flattered

236color · Answer

Can we please stop criminalizing the male libido. Women, sorry we find you attractive and like looking at you, even when you don't find us attractive. This is not to say you should tolerate assault or inappropriate comments, but for Goddess sake, "Don’t even look at me!"

Drewtate · Answer

The only thing girls hate that being objectified is not being objectified.

tzdc21 · Answer

People are gonna stare if you wear something revealing, whether you like it or not. If you don't want them seeing you as a slut, then don't dress like a slut. If you do dress like one and they treat you like one, then you have no right to complain.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Looking is just looking; if a woman is actually harmed by that, exposure to anything that's genuinely harmful would probably kill her, and she needs to toughen up.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

How do you propose to stop that? People like to look at what they like to look at! Looking doesn't hurt anything! The best you can possibly hope for is that, when people have kids, they teach them not to do that sort of stuff.

chrissykerdock · Answer

if i wear a minidress and men don't look id be worried

Morgan_L · Answer

If I dress sexy or provocatively I want men to notice me😈. If I want to be left alone I will wear something that doesn’t Can’t really blame a guy for looking. But I like guys looking

AviatorTom · Answer

If someone, man or woman, sees something nice to look at, they should be allowed to look. Staring with googly eyes might be a bit much, but it shouldn't be illegal.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

As a libertarian, i think everyone should be able to do whatever they want as long as they aren’t hurting someone else or taking something away from them.
It doesn’t hurt to look. Doesn’t even hurt to stare. Even wolf whistling never hurt anyone.

JonCobretti · Answer

Nobody gets to tell you what you are allowed to do unless it's illegal

BadApple69 · Answer

Women’s form is like a work of art. If we cannot gaze at this beautiful art form then life isn’t worth living.

Now let’s be real… sexy short skirts, makeup, tight blouses are all to catch men’s eye… maybe they want a specific man or group of men but sorry… all men will look (unless they are gay).

L_xiro · Answer

He should try not to Stare maybe , I honestly keep thinking of that and I get to the point where I condemned both men and women for it , sometimes girls doesn't really gives you a choice while walking almost naked and from our side some men too will hunt women with their eyes as long as she smells like a women no clothes specifications needed , lol I get a brother who keeps staring at every single girl he smell , the point he almost convince me he had an X-ray vision ! And I had too a female friend of mine that still doesn't know about bra apparently! I swear when ever I met her winter was it or summer she literally almost naked like 3 pieces of clothes per maximum maybe for if we include shoes

patois · Answer

If you are out in "public" people can look at you all they want so long as you aren't locked in some sort of private area like a bathroom stall or dressing room. If you want privacy, the best thing to do is go to "private" property like your house.

Samantha_Stevenson · Answer

Who says what men are "allowed" to do

Makeushiver · Answer

I'm always surprised at the amount of men who have opinions on behavior that is none of their business. Like so ! such else in re. etiquette something done subtly & with discretion allows a small degree of breeding common courtesy. I suggest not grabbing your crotch at the same time, that is both behind the pale of discretion and subtlety.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I don't know how men are ok with staring because I'm worried about a woman just catching me doing a quick glance lol but men can look at whatever they want. It isn't cool to stare and it's kind of pathetic, but it shouldn't be illegal.

edmwarrior · Answer

It’s rude to stare, but they are free to do so. I try not to stare myself, but I often overthink and it becomes much like trying not to think of a blue elephant.

slatyb · Answer

Allowed? It may be considered impolite but it can hardly be made illegal.

animalwithin · Answer

You're a man. As long as she isn't underage, look at whatever the hell you want to look at unashamedly. If you have to ASK women if it's okay to look at them, you're already behind the eight ball on this one.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

Some women could wear a bikini and no man would stare. Another woman could wear a snow suit and men would line up to watch her walk past. The clothing is almost irrelevant to whether men will stare or not for those women me will stare at.

backdoorman · Answer

Women who obviously dress to draw attention to themselves forfeit their right to not get that attention.

Booklover_90 · Answer

It’s natural for men to look at women. Unless they’re a creep, there’s no issue here.

purplepoppy · Answer

Look don't stare, staring is rude and aggressive staring is threatening.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

There's no harm in staring. Seen plenty of women do the same thing to a jacked guy at the gym who's shirtless or wearing a tight t-shirt

Apple1996 · Answer

Nobody should be creepily staring at anyone regardless of clothes

handsomelad70 · Answer

It's boys being boys (even 70-year-old "boys") so girls, don't bop and bounce about braless-especially you buxom broads- and/or really short/tight cut-offs or skirts if you don't want us lads' looks.

jjj101010 · Answer

No u can’t stop people from looking in public places

The_Santa_Claus · Answer

Did you just remove Shitinsta Amy said?

DrPepper12 · Answer

That's crazy. Beauty is to be admired in music, art, poetry, why would a woman and her dress be any different?

jahaims · Answer

If you feel uncomfortable being stared at dress differently. Society doesn't have to conform for an individuals feelings.

Sharkstealth · Answer

People need to watch the YouTube videos of body builders shirtless in public. It's definitely a double standard.

dolemite58 · Answer

Allowed? How can you stop people from looking or staring? A girl can dress however she wants but to say people can’t react how they want to it is asinine

genericname85 · Answer

let's say you shouldn't expect privacy and nobody looking at you when you're in public.

LiamJHayden · Answer

"Should not be allowed" How? Criminalize looking?

SmolSlav · Answer

What do you mean by "not allowed" like it's legally enforced?

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

For real? 🤣🤣 Not allowed to stare! I'll simply answer that i'll look wherever i want!

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Staring is not an allow or not sort of thing. Now catcalling should not be allowed.

paledreams · Answer

Disagree. I'll glance as I please 😉🥺

sheikalana · Answer

Staring is rude.

Unit1 · Answer

That's Ridiculous

ICanSmellTheCosmos · Answer

Staring at anybody is rude.

Pinkandgirly · Answer

RESPECT WOMAN!

strateguy632 · Answer

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