Say something? or just leave?

[Anonymous]

long story short my guy bsf since 2019 has been peer pressuring me about being friends w benefits. i said no , he apologized & now he doesn’t talk to me. he watches me online but that’s all. should i block him and move on? or say “im leaving” so i won't ghost him and then move on? i think this was his plan anyways to leave me so I don't know if i should bother him and let him know that im walking out or not. i just know ghosting hurts and i am ready to leave. i deserve a better friends !

[ohsheeT]

Well it sounds like you already have your mind made up so just do it.

If you do and that's going to give an opportunity to him to prove who we truly is if he is truly your friend or if what. You really feel his intentions were if they are true... But no matter how you do it he gets an opportunity to either prove himself or not you don't have to prove yourself you didn't do anything wrong... But this way he gets to prove exactly who he is to you either you're 100% right.

Or he jumped the gun and he made a mistake but he gets to prove that to you and who he truly is

[Ευδεμονια]

I honestly am not favourable on ghosting people especially friends.
He made a proposal you rejected but this shouldn’t affect your friendship, I think if you two were best friends you should talk openly and directly maybe solving your issue… you can consider to talk in order to recover a bit a friendly relationship with him. Otherwise, if you don’t consider him a friend anymore, you can just ignore and detach definitely.

[Asker]

he doesn’t talk to me anymore. seems like he avoids me now

[Ευδεμονια]

Understood… have you ever tried to talk to him since then? If you have and he still avoids, I think you should cut ties definitely. If you haven’t, maybe you can give it a try and see what does he do.

[Anonymous]

Or you could fuck with his mind a bit. Postva bunch of random crap on the account he watches then make a backup account which he won't know about and post your real stuff there

[Asker]

good idea

[Arik_jade]

Yes... you should say him that you are leaving because it always good to say your side... otherwise he might think that he still have chance by apologise

[Asker]

would that be degrading to myself though? he already doesn’t talk to me on purpose. would me saying i’m leaving make him feel like “FINALLY she's GONE” ? do men think like this?

[Arik_jade]

It's not like degrading... you should realize him that the trick which he is using won't work on you... he is thinking that you will agree with him...