How come when I overthink or need reassurance people say “it’s not all about you” I’m self conscious not self centred?

[Brunettexoxo]

Sometimes after a drink or two i will go over the same thing due to my bpd and Asperger’s like “are you judging Me” “are you sure what i did wasn’t super bad” “do you think that guy likes me” “sorry am I being super annoying” “omg you must be totally judging me you must think im weird”

I know it’s cringe and embarrassing it’s the reason im cutting back on alcohol and trying to manage my insecurities and rejection sensitivity better

[Anonymous]

I think it gets exhausting to some people eventually if you keep on asking for reassurance repeatedly. As an insecure person myself, I too need reassurance often but I realize that those reassurances should come from within myself. You gotta start questioning those intrusive thoughts, ask yourself “Why should I care if they’re judging me? Would I judge me for being blablabla if I were them? Would this matter tomorrow?” Basically start internalizing those questions and try to reassure yourself, challenge your intrusive thoughts

[Brunettexoxo]

Thank you so much this was super helpful

[Opinion Owner]

Aw I’m so glad! Best of luck to you, stay lovely xx

[In_Trance]

Because you don't believe you're good enough.
That's also why you jump from account to account; so there's less of a chance for people to see the pattern that you establish

[Brunettexoxo]

No it’s just I got a new phone again

[In_Trance]

Lol ok. You login to web based apps; the phone doesn't matter

Nice try though