I've noticed this. I've greeted a couple people on their b-days, wishing them well. At times, I stop by to chat with an old friend.
Meanwhile, they don't reciprocate too much. It's been a while since hardly any of my classmates wish me a happy b-day nor asked how I'm doing, nothing. It's recently been me reaching out.
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On this April, very, very few people (with the exception of my family and close childhood friend off course) wish me a happy b-day.
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this used to happen to me. but then i stopped caring and stopped wishing other people happy birthday. oh well 🤷♀️ i'd just stop reaching out to people who never reach back out to me. this way you don't get your expectations of others up so high
yeah I'm getting tired of only me being the one reaching out lately. Meanwhile way back in March 2019, I had an important stomach surgery and could've died if they didn't remove the tumor (luckily benign but still big) that was causing me to have massive internal bleeding.
It's sad to hear that those people treat me as if I was one extra person on earth, as just their former school classmate and not someone they really care about. Oh well.
oh my goodness so sorry to hear about that stomach surgery! but i'm glad you're better now i hope!
Thank you and yes I'm perfectly healthy and stronger now.
glad to hear it
Because the people u expect to do it are not as close to u as u think u are too them
Yes, that's sadly the case indeed. They mean a lot to me meanwhile I mean so little to them. This has always happened to me even when I was a kid.
Stop investing time into people that don't care about u then hun
Yeah I had enough. I'll stop doing that. The ones that never wish me a happy b-day and hardly chat with me, I'll stop wishing them a happy b-day. This New Year is going to be full of changes.
Thats good to hear hope u have a good 1 👍🏽
The short and sucky answer is that sometimes you will care more about a person or people than they do about you.
I feel as if I've always been an empath, which might be the reason that's causing me to care more for someone than I should.
Being selfless is a factor as well, doing things because you want to out of the goodness in your heart vs mutual gain.
I get what you're saying. I think there is a limit though. If I continue wishing them happy b-day, contacting them on messenger and even tell them the hours I'm available, only for them to never once replied with a simple hello (it doesn't take minutes to text that), then yeah I had enough.
I hear you 100%, you have to set boundaries and act within them! All I’ll really say is to do what feels right in your heart. If that means you send someone a happy birthday or gift them even when they don’t return the gesture then that’s just what it is. But I understand everyone has a limit and it’s ok to stop doing what you do if it’s not reciprocated. Protect your peace at all costs!❤️