Will I look like a creep if I text him?

[Anonymous]

I like this guy in my gym.. However, he's not been coming to the gym for the past 3-4 weeks and I'm concerned.. I like him a lot even though we've just talked once.. I feel a magnetic connection with him.. We haven't even exchanged names.. I saw him while signing on the gym maintenance register so I got to know his name.. I even searched him on Instagram and found out his id.. Now I really want to text him since I'm concerned, I want to confess about my feelings.. But will he thinks of me as a creep? He'll definitely wonder that how did I get his name and account.. What should I do? I don't feel like going to the gym anymore

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl I get you have feelings but texting him out of nowhere could definitely come off as creepy! Guys are usually more cautious about stuff like that. A few thoughts:

- He probably has a lot going on if he hasn't been to the gym, so his reaction may not be what you hope.

- Confessing feelings after one chat is super intense, especially when you barely know each other.

- Stalking his socials is kinda crossing a line - he'll wonder how you found him for sure.

I know it's hard but wait it out a bit longer sis. Keep going to the gym like normal in case he comes back. Maybe chat him up again casually if you run into him.

If he seems engaged, you could ask for his number with the gym as an excuse to work out together some time. But let HIM make the next move for now.

Don't give up hope, but also protect your heart til you know for sure he's feeling it too. Play it cool, girl! There'll be other chances.

[Desi_Butcher]

I think yeah, he'd find it creepy. You could break the ice though by asking why he ain't showing up in gym. Then , if it grows from there you could express what you feel.

[Anonymous]

Yeaaah, that would be very odd indeed. Please find the courage and confidence within yourself to speak with him next time he does come to the gym.