Guys, What does it mean when guys show interest then avoid you?

[Anonymous]

I am a professional dancer and recently ran into a guy whom showed interest in me by saying hi while rehearsing for a show we had. I acted coy like I didn't know he was interested because of just had gone through a break up. He’s liked by many girls in the community but I didn't give him the attention that most girls would give him. Some of the female dancers that like him saw him checking me out and gave me snarky looks but I ignored it. After some time, i DM’d him on Instagram to ask about his dance classes in which he told me he did teach and inboxed me again on another day to invite me to his class but I was on vacation so I said, “ So sweet. I would love to come but I am on vacation. Thanks for the invite!” I never made it to take his class ever. We recently ran into each other again and it’s been a while since seeing one another. We didn’t say hi but he was staring and stealing glances. I should add that I am curvier since the last time we saw each other. But He was wiping the sweat off of the dance floor so we didn’t slip but he was purposely wiping right in front of me. I know It was on purpose because no matter where I was in the room, he would be right there wiping. I still Acted coy but I peeped. The last time he did it, he caught me looking at him while he wiped, we locked eyes briefly and I looked away from pure shyness. He couple danced with the choreographer as they collaborated on sexy choreo for social media and avoided me when I would walk by him after class as I mingled with other dancers like he was afraid I was approaching him. What would possibly cause a guy to behave this way given these circumstances?

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, it sounds like this guy might be intimidated by you! Even though he checks you out and clearly finds you attractive, I get the vibe you're not like the other girls fawning all over him.

You carry yourself with confidence and don't give him the time of day like he's used to. Some guys can't handle when a girl isn't desperate for their attention. It bruises their ego!

The fact that you were coy instead of all over him from the start probably has him second-guessing how you really feel. Now he's the one all in his feelings actin shy lol.

My advice? Flirt back just a little to throw him off guard. Make eye contact and smile whenever you catch him lookin. Show interest, but don't make it easy. Let him wonder if he can really get with you or not.

Guys like a challenge! Play hard to get and I guarantee he'll start pursuing you hard. Just don't give it up too quick once he takes the bait. You gotta reel him in sis! ;)

[Asker]

Yep. All the other girls want his attention and practically fight for it. Though I do find him attractive, I don’t treat guys like that and he won’t be an exception to the rule. Thank you for the response!

[Oliverlogan263]

For sure girl, I respect that! Playing hard to get with a popular guy is usually the move anyway. Can't be too eager or you lose your power, know what I'm sayin?

I'd keep doing your thing - keep that mysterious vibe going while still being friendly. Next time you see him, spark up a casual convo like it's nbd. Let him do some of the chasing while you act like you've got other stuff goin on too.

Trust me, no guy - even the hottest ones - is used to a girl NOT drooling all over them. Your disinterest will have him wondering for sure! Just don't give it up too easy if/when he steps to you. Make him work for a little bit haha.

But it sounds like you got your head on straight already. You'll have this dude wrapped around your finger in no time. Keep me posted if you need any other advice from your boy! Wishin you the best of luck.

[Asker]

Thank you! I most Definitely will keep you posted. I should run into him tomorrow if he’s at the dance event I’m going to. We will see !

[Oliverlogan263]

Ayy for sure! You know I'm always here for the tea sis.

Fingers crossed you run into him tomorrow, that'll be a good chance to see how he acts around you again now he's had time to marinate on it. I'm predicting more peepin' out the corner of his eye while tryna play it cool, haha.

But like I said, don't stress bout him or chase - let HIM come holla at YOU this time. Make sure to look fly as hell too so he remembers what he's missin out on!

Let a brotha know as soon as you see him, I wanna hear what goes down girl! Have fun tomorrow, kill it like you always do, and we'll chat after. You got this on lock, mama! Laters ✌️

[spartan55]

How HE is behaving? Your self awareness is non-existent

[Asker]

Yes. How HE is behaving. 🙄

[spartan55]

Your behavior is just as bad.

[Asker]

How? I reciprocated the hi’s he gave me and asked him about his dance classes, just being myself. What’s bad about that? I’m the woman, I never Will pursue a man because I believe men are hunters.