Should I be concerned or they just be playing games with me?

[Anonymous]

So at my job I come across few man they are all married I’m the single one, anyways there are two guys both are married with kids, from day one one of them guys kinda was too friendly with me and maybe showed a little interest bc his friend was walking One time and calls him out and says hey are you bothering her ( referring to me) there are many more situations anyways, yesterday I was having a conversation with the friend of the guy (both coworkers), he starts mentioning how maybe him being rude to you (me) means he likes you than he goes well he found out that you have talking to a guy I was like okay? He goes you don’t think he got to him I was like his married why should it concern him so speaking of this do y'all think his friend is just messing around or he being serious bc this conversation is getting weird

[TommyMountainFigure]

Playing games or being serious isn't really the issue. Both qualify as inappropriate behaviour in the workplace, and you should report it! As soon as possible.

[Asker]

Why you think that?

[TommyMountainFigure]

Because a workplace should not be a breeding ground for those intent on making inappropriate sexual advances.. Whether it be a joke or not!

[Asker]

Of course there was nothing sexual. But I think. He was just joking?

[TommyMountainFigure]

Sorry, when you used the term 'too friendly' I jumped to the conclusion that meant of a sexual nature!

[bobalife]

Yes it’s a clear sign you should be concern. It’s weird as he’s married and a co-worker. Best to keep your distance if you value good morals & keep it professional.

[Asker]

Right?

[DishLady]

If you feel uncomfortable tell them to back off. Also, report it to HR. This isn’t ok.

[Asker]

Why should I report

[DishLady]

That’s how it goes… if your ACTUAL descriptors for this situation are “it’s getting weird” that’s not a positive thing, and if you sit and accept that attention it will just escalate. That sort of thing has to be mentioned to HR.

If however it’s something you WANT to have happening and you’re just misrepresenting it there to make yourself seem interesting and attractive then you’re simply being stupid… so there’s that factor as well.

[Asker]

It’s been happening over a year now

[Nikki1989]

It is inappropriate conduct, and it needs to be reported.

[Asker]

Why you say that?