Trying to befriend a gym member?

[Anonymous]

How can I approach a guy at the gym and ask to be friends with him? Would the guy like that or not?

[Anonymous]

Start with a "Hi". See how that goes. I doubt any guy would dislike a girl indicating attraction in a quiet way. Though, I do think "asking him to be friends" isn't really something anyone should do above the age of 10; We make friends when we are adults, not ask people to be them. So, say "hi" one day, to show you've noticed him sufficiently often to want to persue getting to know him. If he's interested in getting to know you he will show a large smile, whilst returning the greeting. Pick it up from there. If you think you won't likely see him again, chat with him casually about gym related stuff and see how he responds to you. If he seems to enjoy your conversation, before you leave say something like "hey, would you like to keep in touch?" if you get an enthusiastic response, invite him to join you at some event you plan to attend, or alternartively suggest going for a drink sometime.

If you are gunuinely only looking for friendship, find some girls to be friends with; Why? Straight guys generally aren't looking for 'female friends", they may find a female they become friends with but it will be very unusual if they don't form other attachements, one way or another (even when it is purely a 'hey we like the same stuff' connetion, its abnormal for effections not to form and its always a risk of something romantic developing, I know strictly with a girl its also possible, but in general at least there is a good chance of finding a true, pure friend there). Some girls think "maybe a gay guy will be a good friend for me" I've friends of all perswasions, and a common tale with gay guys is the girl not being able to remain in the right mind set, and sadly a number of guys pretending to be gay as a way to "get closer" to a woman they like whos skittish about spending time with a straight guy.

So, relax, say Hi and remember to smile. ;) Good luck.

[molonski2]

Depends completely what he thinks of you and your look , just approach him and ask for help with something , either a machine or some exercise..

And from there you can get him out , he will be keen.

[Asker]

Truthfully I’m not average but not way above average either. I don’t want to overthink it but it seems like he avoids me and doesn’t look at me directly, so I just thought maybe he wouldn’t want me approaching him.

[molonski2]

Guys need a push , you are in the gym , so many reasons you can approach , just have a big crack at it.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice, it was really insightful. I’m a bit nervous but I will try to approach him when I see him again

[molonski2]

Dont be nervous , just remember so many reasons to approach in a gym , spotting , how to? , machinery , you can just com in with " Ohh Sorry to bother you , but I noticed you were great with xyz and would you mind giving me a little assistance? " " Sorry to interrupt , I know your workout is important to you " -- This kind of stuff , any guy would feel priviledged.

[Anonymous]

Just talk to him and ask him questions about himself. Be persistent if your interest maintains, because the gym can be a weird place for guys to approach women. I have missed my own share of opportunities, because I was too worried about being polite.

[spartan55]

No guy wants to be your friend.

[Asker]

Why is that?

[spartan55]

Girls typically make terrible friends.

[Asker]

I’m guessing it’s based on your own personal experience

[spartan55]

Not just mine.

[Asker]

So if I can’t befriend him then what should I do?

[spartan55]

Try to date him.

[Asker]

I will see, I’m not sure he’s interested in me yet

[Iron_Man]

It’s easy, your female just talk to him

[In_Trance]

Fuck around and find out