He started going to the gym after making me his girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I'll be honest, I'm a "thicker" woman. I don't go to the gym at all or workout. I'm 5'3" and 167lbs but not overly gross looking, it kinda evens out on me but bmi wise I am overweight. My stomach is a little but "chubby" but nothing crazy. This great guy made me his girlfriend a month ago. When we first met he told me he also never goes to the gym. We have had s*x and now he's starting to go to the gym... I mean good for him but I'm a little worried on if he's trying to get more muscle to find someone better? He already was in my opinion, average weight and smaller than me chubby wise. So I'm feeling a little insecure about this, any thoughts?

[kylee2437]

Girl you are at a prime age where taking care of health should be essential before you hit ages where it becomes harder to maintain. Instead of viewing his new interest as an insecurity point for you, you should use it as motivation to go to the gym with him or even matching his energy and helping him with creating some healthy meals for the both of you. You are missing serious opportunities when you are using this to hate on yourself vs opening up new ideas for yourself.

[osmanthus]

Maybe he just wants to look good for you? Maybe he has some health condition that requires him to lose weight or to build muscle? I wouldn't worry too much about it if he's already with you, anyways.

[osmanthus]

It might also be the fact that if he wants to commit to you and wants to stay healthy for the long run then that would mean that he has to go to the gym. You can join them if you want.

[Anonymous]

If he's spending time with you as he'd normally do, I wouldn't worry about him trying to impress someone else, he's probably improving his looks for you to enjoy. I'm doing the same for my girl, putting in a lot of gym effort to get beach body ready for our vacation together.

[spartan55]

How about he is trying to get in better shape for you? Na, that couldn't be it. It's ALWAYS another girl... so predictable.

[avery58]

What's wrong with trying to improve your looks and health? You should go with him and take care of yourself too, if you want

[Asker]

I never said there was nothing wrong with it, I wish I had time to, I am just feeling confused because he hasn't before and suddenly is

[Asker]

Which I fully support him to do, I just am wondering if maybe seeing me in non-muscular shape made him think a certain way haha

[avery58]

He's more likely doing it for himself. I mean for his health not to get other girls. But the more fit and into a fitness lifestyle he gets the more likely he'll appreciate the same healthy habits and looks on the opposite sex since he'll know the hard work it takes to attain those results, but that doesn't mean he's going to cheat.