How do I know it’s real?

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Guys genuinely how can you differentiate if a man actually likes you and want to be with you from a guy who just is lonely and is happy that your responding to him. Like what are a few major things that would make a guys intentions clear and transparent

sawno · Accepted Answer

I'd say the biggest tell is that the serious guy is clear about who he is, while the unserious guy will be trying to impress you in a more artificial way. So you'd want to look at other tells, like if he is always super agreeable and is kinda pretening to enjoy what you enjoy that's a tell he's not being honest.

Typical example:
Girl: I play tennis every weekend.
Guy: *Never plays tennis but tried it once 15 years ago* Oh I love tennis! We should totally play!
Girl: Oh thats awesome! What level are you?
Guy: I'm pretty good at it usually when I play it with my friends. Want to play a match with me this weekend?
Girl: Sure! Can't wait to beat you this weekend ;)

Girl: I play tennis every weekend.
Guy: *Hasn't played tennis for 15 years* I used to, but I haven't played it for many years.
Girl: What made you stop playing?
Guy: I once burned my hand and because my buddy I used to play it with had nobody to play it with his parents canceled his membership. So then we ended up doing other things, I was never to big into the game part of it, for me it was more of a social thing to do with my friend non competitively.
Girl: Ah, thats unfortunate. Did you ever play matches? What level were you?
Guy: I never played matches and never got very far into it, I'm also going to be pretty rusty after so many years but i'd still love to go with you and maybe you can teach me a thing or two and catch me back up to speed. Would be fun to do it again with you.
Girl: That sounds really fun, looking forward to it!

Same guy, one is actively trying to impress you. One is someone very honest who is trying to be himself. In the second example he will probably tell you honestly what he's after, but in the first example after you play that match and he can barely hold a racket you'd know he's likely to be dishonest about what he wants.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

It's how they talk to you listen to see if they're making it all about you or if they're making it about themselves and being selfish listen to the way they talk to their friends whether it's good or bad... How serious they are or how helping they are if they're talking to one of their friends badly times that by 10 because that's how they really are. . just showing you a nice part of them are they think a nice part of them so you don't know who they truly are they're trying to fake you out

What does he do for you anything or is it about him is he doing whatever you're both doing together for you or for him listen to the words because every lie that he tells you he's telling you the truth in the same sentence

Or listen and make sure he's not lying because if he's lying right in the very beginning you really really don't want him because that means everything is about him listen to his words look into his eyes he will tell you everything you want to know you just have to listen

spartan55 · Answer

Well how does he know what your intentions are?

MasterKS · Answer

talk, talk and more talk, people can lie or fake for sometime but not so long!

moneymagnet24 · Answer

If guy had sex with you and didn't block you after sex then he is simp n real..🤌

Anonymous · Answer

He makes you a priority.

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