Is my boyfriend negging me?

[Anonymous]

I wore a figure hugging dress for my friend's bday and they all complimented my body a lot (girl talk lol) and said how slim- curvy nd sexy I looked. I told my boyfriend all this and he said, noo u don't have an hourglass figure, ur like an inverted rectangle. He further said that my hips aren't very wide so I can't be an hourglass, and that my legs aren't thick they're normal. My self esteem broke and I cried for hours (not in front of him). I'm currently not speaking to him and wondering whether he was trying to neg me or not. Was he?

[ohsheeT]

It's a form of manipulation he doesn't want you to be happy he doesn't want you to look good because then he feels that he can always have you instead of pumping you up and telling you exactly but in a positive manner and how beautiful you are in a positive manner he's insecure and he doesn't want anybody else looking at you like that because he's afraid of losing you maybe that's just completely crazy...

When you truly love somebody and there's positive flowing around he should have grabbed a hold of you and put his hands on each side of your body and you know what I really like is this right here and ran his hands all the way from your shoulders all the way down to your thighs I mean even got down on his knees and went all the way to your ankles and then sliding his hands back up your calves to your back thighs to your ass and just told you everything that he loves about you instead of tearing you down

And try to remember this too you're going to be judged from everybody in this world every single day whether you know that you're being judged or not who gives a fuck you judge yourself you look at yourself and you see what you see and you boost your own self up and love it love it become it because who cares whatever other people think it's only matters what you think because when you really love yourself when you really like yourself you're going to become that person it's all about you and your happiness there's other people that are always going to try to bring you down because they are so unhappy forget that you should look to your boyfriend and smiled and said now I know I got it baby I know what I have and flipped your hair and turned around and walked away don't let his words bring you down you don't need to be there you need to be where you want to be happy that way your life flows perfectly and better and great and you get good things in life when you're happy so smile and love yourself fuck what other people think or say because it's none of their business anyway it's only yours make it happen become that hourglass I could tell just by your words you are hot

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl that really sucks, I'm sorry that happened to you. That was super out of line for him to say, especially after you were just proudly telling him how good you felt getting compliments.

To be honest, it really does sound like he was trying to "neg" you and put you down to make himself feel bigger or something stupid like that. No supportive boyfriend would react that way and actively try to destroy your self-esteem.

Boys can be insecure idiots sometimes. He was probably jealous that other people were admiring your body and giving you attention. So he lashed out to make himself feel better by tearing you down. What a tool.

You did the right thing not talking to him and taking space. Don't let him get away with treating you like that! You deserve someone who builds you up, not rips you apart. If he really cared, he would apologize big time. But honestly, anyone who "negs" their girl is a jerk not worth your time. You can do so much better, girl! Keep that sexy confidence - don't let anyone steal your shine.

[Anonymous]

If you're in a relationship, you might want to reconsider dressing so sexily for other people to see—unless you want attention from everyone, that is.

[Asker]

Umm it was a normal figure hugging dress. With all due respect ur completely missing the point here.

[Opinion Owner]

I read it, and he isn't happy about him, so either compromise or break up, I guess. Have a great day.

[Asker]

It was an all girls party because we're an all girls group of 5

[moneymagnet24]

@anon don't be dumb she clearly mentioned it's girls party.

[spartan55]

She didn't clearly mention it at all...🙄

[Opinion Owner]

@spartan55 Exactly.

[Opinion Owner]

@moneymagnet24 Relationships require more than just "you" after you make the decision to enter one. Being self-centred in this relationship would be to ignore his sentiments.

[RavVid]

I think you are taking your boyfriend amiss.

Your girl friends said your were slim and curvy. Curves come from a tight waist because from the waist there is the swell of your hips. I think you are confusing curvy with hourglass and it is not the same.

Hourglass is obese in my world; certainly too fat. Woman tend to say they have an hourglass figure, as a cope, when they are verging on obese. The outside of your hips should be vertically in line with the outside of your arms at the shoulder and your upper arms should not look fat. That sets what looks really good in the female form.

Sounds to me you have a tight waist and consequent sharp dangerous curves :) Be glad of that and your boyfriend saying you are not hourglass/too fat/obese.

[OhLongJohnsoning]

Why does it matter so much if you're an hourglass or not

[Anonymous]

Well your height and weight?

[Asker]

5'7,60-61kg

[moneymagnet24]

Sad to hear this Babe...😏
You deserve better..