Am I bothering my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend got out of jail on last Friday night and I saw him on Saturday for a little bit. Now my question is since Saturday I haven't spoken to him all we do is text. Yesterday I texted him and all I got was one word answers, I feel like I'm bothering him and I feel like he doesn't want me around. He always says he will call me and doesn't? I'm scared to death he is back on Roxy's that's what put him there in the first place By the way. Is it in my head does he love me and I'm being clingy or do I have something to worry about. I truly love this man with all my heart and he says he loves me! should I wait til he texts me.. I'm so scared if he's back on the pills, he's going to have a drug overdose and die. I lost my uncle to that. I just don't know what to do I feel like I'm loosing my mind half time. Am I fighting a loosing battle? And we've been together off and on for two years. I'm so scared to text him becuase I feel like I'm bothering him or if I call he doesn't answer I'm truly scared. I don't want to loose him and I fear something bad is going to happened or has happened to him? is this anxiety? Is this me obsessing? Should I leave him alone?

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Also now he has his brother calling me every there day to check up on me I guess. should I ignore my boyfriend and not text or call him? I'm really scared? I don't want to loose him!

[toulouse]

if he wanted your help, that would be one thing id say stick with him. people need someone to believe in them . but if he is making you feel like you are clingy because you care.. leave him be.probably in his eyes you are clingy- but that is not really the point. the point ism he is disrespecting u. sounds like he has people to watch hi, & if he is mad at you for bothering him, he might use it as an excuse to do drugs just to calm down or get out of feeling pressured.

give him time. hell either come around or he won't but I would not chase him.

& try not to be scared. it will make you feel desperate& that will feel clingy to him. plus regardless of the reason if you want to be supportive fear will not aid you.

you can be there for him, if he needs you, but do not go up in his face telling him he needs you--he won't be able to see it.

[Minxxe]

he's probably catching up with people he hasn't seen for a while.

personally though, I wouldn't chase after a loser who isn't interested in me, take the hint leave him alone and go find someone better who isn't stoopid enough to get himself banged-up. What are you expecting will happen? He'll become an angel and suddenly start wanting you? that's not what men do, they run away like kids rather than deal with problems.

Preserve your pride, save your insecurity he's not worth it.

[Asker]

Well he was the one begging me to spend time with him.. And he was the one insisting to spend time with me and then he said they were trying to make him go back to where they extradited him from and I did talk to him yesterday and he said he was working and would call me later and then he said he got off of work late. So do you see y this would confuse me.

[Minxxe]

yes the way you explain it would confuse anyone. it remains however, that you have pride and should be in the driving seat, it is you who waited for him after all. Please do not chase after this loser, he will disappoint you and you're better than that. find someone worthy of your attention and worry.

[Asker]

i kno its hard because he just asked me on Saturday if I would be with him forever and how he wanted to make it happend for us and nothing was going to mess it up for us, but I'm gonna take your advice and not call him or text him and wait for him to contact me and if he doesn't than I kno where I stand and ivice versa.

[Anonymous]

This isn't what you want to hear, but you need to find a new man. This guy has way too many problems.