Does he care at all?

[Anonymous]

He broke up with me almost 2 weeks ago and has not reached out at all. Does this mean he never cared or doesn't care about me anymore?

I'm sitting here crying my eyes out and he can just treat me like trash after a year and months together.

[TonyMetal___86]

The question is: why do you have to care about someone who doesn't cares about you? Popping your eyes out from crying will just bring you more pain, it seems that the last thing he thinks about is your tears, pain... etc

It hurts i know, but maybe that was a wake up call for you to find someone who deserves you, if he truly loves you, he won't let those tears pour out of your eyes, cause he can't take your pain, he will immedialty hug you tight and fix things up!

Your tears are precious, don't waste them on a p. o. s!

[TonyMetal___86]

Tnx for the mho

[Asker]

You're welcome.

[spartan55]

You haven't reached out either. I guess you never cared either.

[Asker]

I did reach out. Several times and it always ends the same way.

[spartan55]

Which is?

[Asker]

With it going nowhere

[Anonymous]

I get it, you want him to fight for you. I think that’s what any girl wants when she isn’t ready for the breakup. But this is not about whether or not he ever cared, it’s just over, he wants to move on and you need to start accepting it. If he misses you or has a change of heart he’ll come back, hell even if he is a user and just wants sex he’ll come back, but as of now that isn’t what he wants. I’m sure there were reasons he wanted to end things and you’ve been reluctant to accept.

[Asker]

This isn't easy. It hurts like hell. I feel so lost. I don't know how to accept it. I love him so much.

[Opinion Owner]

There’s nothing easy about it, love. You’re allowed to grieve, hurt, I mean it’s only been 2 weeks that is no time at all. Just as long as you keep moving forward, and not stay stuck in this space, where you’re waiting and hoping he will come back. When you put your feelings aside, and really just think about his behavior or the state of your relationship, was he justified in breaking up? Despite your own reservations, did he have his own motives? Only asking because this is how you make peace with the breakup, by looking at what went wrong, understanding where he’s coming from and closing that chapter for now. Even if you have your own reasons why being apart may be for the better, it can help too.

[Asker]

Oh he definitely had his reasons for breaking up but I feel horrible about it. I've apologized and apologized that I wasn't there for him because of my depression. But now that it's over I see my mistakes and wish that I could change it. Wish I could change his decision but I know I can't. It hurts so damn much. Letting go is hard. He was more than my boyfriend. He was my best friend. My person. We were going to get married and start a family. Just thinking about it is making me sick.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry. I’ve been there before and I know it’s hell. If you have any other friends (I know you say he was your best) or loved ones around, hang out with them, distractions and support are what you need right now. This is a hard time you’re going through and it won’t get easier any time soon, but just try keeping things in perspective. Him coming back right now would only work in your favor and is mainly about benefiting you. When you take selfish (no offense) aspect out of this, you know it needed to happen. He needs this space, and whether you agree or not, maybe you do too. Work on yourself, heal, grow, and who knows maybe in the future your paths will cross again. But not right now, and remember it’s not because he doesn’t care or feels so bad about you, he just can’t be in a relationship with you right now, and can’t be your friend either. Not until you’ve both gotten over the romantic aspects.

[Asker]

I understand.

[DishLady]

Stop crying over someone who doesn't care about you. He's clearly just selfish. Don't waste the tears.

[dudeinohio]

He moved on, plain and simple. When it's over, it's over.

You should, too.

[Asker]

I'm not sure about that. He called me drunk one time.

[spartan55]

@asker
That's called *drunk dialing' and it means absolutely nothing except he was horny. Ask me how I know.

[Asker]

Oh ok.

[noohair]

It does not matter. You can be free by going forward. If you live in the past you will be lost.

[smurfwrangler]

welcome to you post wall future