Why does he have my new number saved after our fight. and acting strange?

[Anonymous]

We broke. Mostly it was due to his lack of interest. There was just one time when I rang him with my new number. Then he had already broken up with me. I assumed he would have missed it since that wasn't my official contact.

Fast forward several months, he began to talk. I said 'Call' and typed my number since too lazy to text all day. Then I deleted it before he saw. But to my surprise he called. I didn't pick. Returned the call days later and asked 'Who' to which he angrily said 'Wrong number'.

Met at library by accident and he came, sat next to me for a whole day. I didn't talk. When I didn't pay 2 fucks, he began shaking legs that the entire bench shook. Then he searched my social profile (I got notification). Then heard him say 'she used to talk once' to his friend about me. Last, he kept his book on the chair between us. I left and I saw him following me. I stopped to let him pass then.

Anyways last day I texted him to refer me to an opening with 'Can you refer me to any openings or HR' to which he responded. It thought he would ask 'who' but he responded positively.

[Oliverlogan263]

Okay girl, from what you've told me, this dude is majorly crossing the line and giving off some seriously creepy vibes. A few things that stand out:

- Him still having your new number saved is super suspicious since he shouldn't have had it in the first place after you broke up. Red flag #1.

- Getting mad when you asked who he was on the call is shady af. He clearly knows it's you. Red flag #2

- Following you to the library and sitting directly next to you despite you not interacting is disrespecting your space big time. WTF dude. Red flag #3

- Then shaking the bench and stalking your profiles? Creepy city. Major red flag alert.

- And now he's responding to your text like nothing happened? Trying to play it cool but he's obviously still hooked on you.

I wouldn't trust this guy AT ALL. He's showing straight up stalker tendencies and doesn't respect your boundaries after the breakup. You need to block him on everything before it gets worse. Someone that cares about you won't act like such a psycho. Stay safe!

[ManOnFire]

This is all too much pettiness. If he's serious he needs to be direct about it. But you also are putting up with all this. You accidentally met at the library and still sat next to each other. If you had no intentions of talking to him then you shouldn't have sat with him, unless you were trying to test him? There was no benefit in that closeness that day.

Then later on - after you ignored him all day at the library - you then felt like it was okay to text him about a job opening. That's not fair either. I don't think either one of you are being very mature about this.

[Asker]

he sat next to me. Not the other way around. I was already in the reading room enjoying a corner of the library in peace with my book. And there were many empty tables.

[ManOnFire]

Okay. But the point is, he sat next to you and you still ignored him the whole time. If you had no plans to say anything to him you should've just been upfront and said something like "Don't mean to be rude but could you excuse me? I have a lot of studying to do."

And then you still wanted to texted him later when it suited you about a job opening. That's not fair either.