How do guys feel when a girl texts first?

[coxoabean]

Do guys like if a girl texts them first sometimes, just to see how he's doing or something? When does a girl texting a guy come off as desperate?

[FarmBoy13]

It shows she is interested if she texts first. I like it. It doesn’t have to be every time but if she never texts first it makes a guy feel like he is bothering her or being desperate

[bobalife]

Interesting. I guess I make many guys feel that way because I rarely do it lol.

[coxoabean]

@bobalife same, this helped me realize I should text more. I often worry that a guy will take it the wrong way if I message first due to situations in my past.

[bobalife]

@coxoabean aws go for it girl!!! ☺️ tbh I’m still 50/50 on this.. 😭😂 I like a man who leads and set the tone…

[coxoabean]

@bobalife I know me too haha. I messaged him though and he's messaging back, so that's good.

[bobalife]

Omggggg how cute, yay, I’m so happy for you 🥹💕💕💕💕💕💕💕 I’m abit inspired by your bravery!!! Lol!

[getpucksin]

I think it makes someone feel wanted, so it does not come off as desperate

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Fucking hell lol 🤬

As hinted by @dudeinohio this is a very recent problem ! The rise of social medias have been defacing interpersonal communication, it has created a whole lot of twisted trends regarding untold rules of communication like the one you're mentioning. A way out of this system is to engage with other generations, to eventually understand that the system you mention is just one system in a specific framework that is social medias.

It's a terrible sight to contemplate how distorted communication may become for youngsters in this system. Deconstruct this system as soon as you can, for your own well-being !

[dudeinohio]

I don't know where this desperate BS came from that everyone mentions.

Just text the guy. They'll like it.

[coxoabean]

Well, I don't know either. It's something that needs to be worried about though unfortunately because many people seem to think that way:/

[dudeinohio]

Hmmm... never ever over decades have I thought a woman making her move was desperate.

[coxoabean]

Ok, that's good

[Berethor]

If a girl don't show interest in me then I tend to lose interest too, it okay for girl to text first.

[Ironco]

Nice answer...

[NathanDavis]

it doesn't "mean" anything to me...

I don't particularly "notice" that either, it just doesn't matter

[Finchie40]

It’s fine if I am attracted to her and interested in her

[Tarifa]

Glad. Happy. Flattered. Where is it written that guys should always make the first move?

[Nik1hil]

Love it,

It solves half our problem of looking like a creepy or annoying or stalker.

[keegen]

i personally like it when my girlfriend just randomly texts me because i get really busy with work and school and i love going on a brake and seeing her cute random texts

[bobby_bush_eater]

Unless she's randomly texting me for sex and I don't know her that well it rarely comes off as desperate, more so just interested

[jahaims]

Guys don't share universal thoughts and feelings just because we share a gender.

[nawtee_me]

I don’t mind being texted as long as it is not a lot during working hours….

[Anonymous]

Yes. It's nice when the effort I put in is reciprocated.

[Anonymous]

I prefer it that way, but that's probably because I like dominant girls.

[spartan55]

Yes, we like it. It's never desperate.

[RetroReviews]

It's nice... exciting

[Anonymous]

No it does not come off as desperate.🙄

[coxoabean]

Why the eye roll?

[Opinion Owner]

Because this is common sense to guys. And it's probably would be common sense to women if so many women didn't want to keep spreading this disinformation. We are a changing society. Some women will make efforts to men now. Now I personally don't care if they do or not. I think men or women should do whatever they feel. But the women who don't want to approach men, make efforts towards men, will keep spreading this lie because they feel it puts them at a dating disadvantage. And the women who maybe would approach men, don't because they erroneously believe it'll make men think they're desperate.

[DrPepper12]

Never desperate. Just normal for today

[bowenw]

I appreciate it.

[beefcakebradybatson]

I'd feel honoured.

[Makeushiver]

Happy

[Jmmmfi4]

LOVE IT