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I have been talking to this guy for months now. We get along well. We understand each other and we both have an understanding of what it is we have going on with each other. We’re two people experiencing/ dating one another and if things get taken to the next level then it just does. I’m a single mom. I have a son so that way works best for me. We have/do have sex and we’re safe about it. We haven’t had many problems up until yesterday. I had a self care day recently. I got my nails did and I told him about it. He asked if he could see a picture of my nails but he didn’t want a normal picture, he wanted a more fun picture. He wanted me to take a picture of me grabbing my bare boob. The idea of it did seem cool and fun to do. I had taken the picture and told him I would send it but then I actually thought again before sending it and decided not to. My reason for not sending it was because when it comes to sending private pictures like that no matter how much you trust a guy, a picture is forever and you don’t know what could happen and how you can get exposed. I have a son to think about and I don’t want any pictures of me like that floating around for the sake of me and my son. That was the exact reason I gave him and he wasn’t mad but he was childish about me not sending it. Saying things like he could alway get someone else to send a picture like that but he preferred it to me. He told me I should have never took the picture if I wasn’t gonna send it and that he was gonna stop asking me to do things for him. He started to be very hostile toward me and that actually bothered me because it’s literally just a picture and outside of choosing not to send that I have done plenty of things for him that he asked of me. Things that I was comfortable with but the moment I have one small boundary, he says he’s not upset but he decides to treat me differently.
Why is he being so childish about this?
Anonymous
(25-29) 
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Ugh, that's so immature and frustrating of him to act that way, girl! You're totally right that once a picture like that is sent, it's out of your control what happens to it down the line. And as a single mom, you've gotta be protective of your image and privacy for the sake of your son.
Honestly him saying he could just get that from someone else is a major red flag. Like just cuz you won't objectify yourself on demand, he tosses you aside? That's selfish and disrespectful. You're way more than just a sexting buddy.
Don't let him make you feel bad for having very reasonable boundaries. You didn't do anything wrong at all by reconsidering sending that pic - you were being smart. And it's totally normal to draw the line sometimes in what you're comfy with. A caring guy should respect that.
If this is how he handles even minor disagreements, it's kind of a preview of how he'll act in a real conflict. Do you wanna deal with that drama down the road? You deserve way better treatment, girl! I say move on and don't give him another chance to disrespect you like that. Your worth isn't defined by nudes! His loss.
He sounds like an idiot and most probably sleeping with others too. He also implied that you're just one of his options. Why do you wanna be associated with such a person? You can't expect such men to be respectful towards you. Just stop contacting him and show him that you have self respect. If you're just dating him for sex, I feel it's totally fine. But if you actually wanna have a future with him or something , just leave this guy.
I’m having fun and I know he has other options just like I do but I can still have fun, like someone and even care about them all while still having boundaries and self respect like you said but he must not be use to that.
I have no idea where the self respect is when you sleep with him in the name of fun. But yeah not sending a photo shouldn't be a big deal when you're literally naked in front of him at night. You shouldn't mind it that he's being childish. You're having fun and he's too. I don't get the point of your questions.
Me choosing to sleep with one guy as a single woman has nothing to do with my self respect or lack thereof but okay that’s a weird take. You can be a guys girlfriend and have no self respect. For instance a woman who still chooses to be a girlfriend to a guy who cheats and sleeps around and she knows, has no self respect. You see how that works? Self respect has nothing to do with who you choose to sleep with and under what circumstances but it all comes down to what you accept for your self knowing you want more or you know or feel
Like you deserve more or better. This ain’t the 1920’s. If you base self respect on choosing to experience a guy and not get serious with titles and things involved I would like to think you’re pretty uptight and my question was why he was being childish because his reaction was childish. Just because I sleep with him and he sees me naked in person that doesn’t mean I should be okay with sending a picture. Having sex with someone is just that and you guys continue on with whatever you have and no one ever has to know you guys has sex. Sending a picture like that on the other hand could easily turn bad and get put out for the public to see.
And I’m all for fun but when it comes to fun and dating both parties must agree on what their fun is. Which we succeed at for the the most part. This was the first time we had a disagreement with what we choose to do when interacting with one another on a more personal or private level. The sex is fun, it’s safe and it’s comfortable because we’re usually on the same page on the boundaries we do or don’t want to cross but I would assume you wouldn’t get that seeing as you related having fun and having sex with a guy to having no self respect. Word of advice, being serious with a guy isn’t guaranteed to get you any further with him or the relationship no more than it is guaranteed that having fun with a guy will get you further with him/the relationship. Enjoy the ride and be safe but when things like this occur along the way it’s nothing wrong with drawing the line somewhere and questioning odd reactions. Fun is fun, it doesn’t mean you blindly do anything. It just means you enjoy the moment and the time.
Actually you're very wrong and you don't even realise it. You just don't have enough self respect and probably has very low self esteem too. Self respect has everything to do with whom you choose to sleep with, see for example here you said the guy you're sleeping with is behaving childish, what made you come on Gag and create a question instead of blocking him since he asked for such a picture?
Instead you're asking others whether why he's behaving childish. You are subconsciously trying to make an excuse for his behavior instead of calling it out and blocking his @ ss. And yes I and many people would agree that people who likes to sleep around has no self respect, and it would have no difference even if it's the year 2200. Yeah, being serious with a guy isn't guaranteed to get anyone any further with a guy , but that definitely makes a huge difference between a 304 and a woman who values herself and is definitely not available for a booty call and again you wouldn't really get it.
And to answer your question clearly about why he's being childish, he doesn't respect you and views you just as a 304 who don't have any self respect.
You're a single mom. There are women you are serious about, and there are women you play around with. Care to guess which category you fall into? But hey, at least you were smart enough NOT to send that pic. Just shows you're not completely hopeless. Calling a man childish will not change reality. I mean the guy is probably childish. But not for this.
I fall under the category of a single mom whose dating and can choose to do what she wants and can also choose not to do what I don’t want to do. What you said had nothing to do with the question because who’s trying to change reality? I asked why he was being childish about me choosing not to send a photo and you’re talking about things completely unrelated to the question and the exact situation I described and that in fact did make him childish. He basically threw a tempter tantrum. You sound like a guy who thinks he knows a woman more than a woman knows herself but I also have to remind myself this is GAG. I take all advice with a grain of salt.
And this is why you fail. You have to understand the situation hun to understand why. You sound like the typical woman that repeatedly f***s up with men and doesn't understand how or why. A smart person wouldn't try to understand why he reacted this way. A smart person would know a quality guy most likely wouldn't even ask for this and if he did would drop it or make a joke out of it if she told him no. But you are not a smart person. Evidenced by the "childish man" you chose. Most likely the reason you're a single mom as well. Your foolishness is habitual. That's the reason I referenced your being a single mom. But you weren't even smart enough to deduce that. I say "good luck" to you. Because I know with your life choices you're going to need all the luck you can get.
And that’s where you’re still very wrong hence why I said you’re a guy who think he knows a woman more than she knows herself. You feel like because I’m a single mom I make terrible decisions and choose terrible non quality guys and run them all away. You don’t know me, my story or my situation apart from the little I told on here and you took that little and decided I wasn’t smart, that I need luck in life because you think you know all my life decisions and that I can’t take a joke about a guy I have been seeing asking for a private photo Lmaoo. If that isn’t insanity I don’t know what it is. I never said he was childish. I said his reaction was childish but you would know that if you saw past the single mom part. Secondly you say a smart person wouldn’t question why he reacted that way when in fact a smart person questions all things. Especially the things they don’t get but if you allow the world to tell you what does of doesn’t make you smart and you believe it, that’s on you. You question things to see things from a broader perspective not to change anyone or make excuses. Most people will make you feel bad about questioning certain actions made by someone you care for. These advice sites are so quick to forget that people are human and most of us know a bad guy when we encounter them and we know the difference between a bad non quality guy and guy who just doesn’t always say or do the right thing. That’s most people and lastly a guy asking for such a photo doesn’t make him a non quality guy but more so just a guy. His reaction doesn’t even make him non quality it just makes him a little childish like I said. A non quality guy is a guy with a fixed mindset and that seems to be you. You seem to be the non quality guy but I digress.
Also we all have chosen the wrong guy, that doesn’t make it a habitual thing. It makes a life and a you live and learn thing but I don’t expect that kind of thinking from an anonymous guy whose responses are set on making me believe I’m dumb, and who put me in a “category” to never be taken seriously by a guy because I’m a single mom lol. You’re unserious so in no way can I take you serious.
I totally understand this take if you never actually had a quality guy. You have no idea what one looks like or acts like. You have no point of reference. That's why you think you're right. 👍
You are right about one thing. Yes sites like this do generalize. But why do you think that is? Because if it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck, generally it's a duck. Smart people learn from thier mistakes. Not try to understand people who are mistakes.
I have no idea what a quality guy is but I can tell ofd off from your responses alone that you aren’t one? How does that work? Lmaoo things aren’t generalized because of things looking like what they appear. Things are generalized on these sites because people either project or they think think they know the poster beyond what they expose about themselves on here. A smart person thinks beyond themselves, a smart person looks beyond the surface, a smart person does much more than just learn from their mistakes, they accept it, make peace with it and they do things differently. A smart person surely doesn’t put people in categories and a smart person doesn’t assume anything about a person without proper facts. Once again proving to me, you’re that not so smart non quality guy. You’re everything that you swear I am and I came to that concision without projecting or generalizing but of course I’m the dumb one who picks non quality guys and has no idea what one looks like because a quality guy wouldn’t dare look like my way and it’s no way I can possibly have a great father in my life right? Lmaoo. You have a blessed day.
No. A quality guy would look your way, you probably wouldn't look his. But even if that happened he would in short order deduce your toxicity and hit the eject button.
Who's the one on here here looking for an answer for thier partner problem after clearly demonstrating this is habitual with them. Me? Or is it YOU! I would NEVER come on here and ask the women of this site for help. The vast majority of you are toxic. I'm only here to help. But you've got to want help for you to recieve it.
I wish you a blessed day as well. Because I know you're going to need it much more than I.👍
You’re on the same site as me thinking you’re giving advice but advice comes with helpful way of assisting someone to reach a healthy conclusion. You’re not doing that but instead you’re trying to convince me about everything you think is wrong with me from steadily mentioning that I’m a single mom and that I don’t and never will
know a quality guy and the new one is that I’ll never look and never have looked a quality guys way. Once again believing you have some mystical power to predict all this all based off this tiny preview on a social site. You’re a guy who in real life has no idea or clue but comes on here thinking he has the answer for someone else. Of course you don’t ask the women on this site for help because your goal isn’t to receive help from women on here but it’s instead to make the woman believe everything is wrong with her and until she sees that her dating problems won’t be fixed. You’re joke my guy.
You're so young.🤦♂️ I would never waste my time trying to convince you or any woman here of anything. I simply tell you Luke it is. Do what you will with that, do nothing. I really Dontrelle. But regardless of what you THINK of something doesn't change what is.
Don't care* not dontrelle.😆