Is my partner bound to cheat if given a chance?

[Anonymous]

We were driving towards this random girl and he said “why is she walking like that” we get closer to her and he gasps and said “OH” like he was amazed at her beauty. She was beautiful. Not tryna be insecure but I’ve had a tough day at work and for him to do that just makes me feel like shit? Is this normal? Just wondering if I’m over thinking or maybe he should just keep it to himself next time. Instead of gasping at beautiful girls in front of me. I feel offended should I be?

[TonyV]

I don't think that's a sign of future cheating.
I get that girls are insecure about other women and get offended when their man likes the looks of other girls but I thought the goal of a relationship was to be best friends and that is what bestfriends would do, tap you on the elbow and say "check out that fit bubble butt in the cargo shorts over here looking like real life tomb rader".

So I don't know, I get that women don't like it, but it seems like the goal to me, I can't wrap my head around how women or even my. girlfriend claim to only be attracted to their man or how they want us to only. be attracted to them, lots and lots and lots of women are attractive and I don't think admitting their hot really means anything. It's almost concerning that women seem to think well fuck anything we find attractive cause it really comes across as them projecting, like they aren't really loyal to us they only stay with us cause we are the hottest guy they've found, they make it sound like other hot people are options and that's not how I see it, just cause I want to look at the woman with big tits in a unreasonably small low cut shirt that is like 1centimeter away from a nip slip dosent mean I won't toncheat on my girl.

[Anonymous]

Ok but you’re assuming what he meant what he said “oh!” So what you might interpret it as may not be what he meant. I wouldn’t think too far into this. A lot of times we’re our own demise when we think too much into things that we think are happening but really aren’t. No most Men aren’t cheaters either according to the first girl who answered. Women find a majority of men unattractive, something like 80%. So women find a majority of men unattractive how can her statement be true when these men will never get a chance to be w someone? Even if he found another girl attractive doesn’t mean he’s going to cheat. I’m pretty sure you r seen other men who you thought were attractive. Didn’t mean you wanted to get plowed by him. As much as we’d all like to think we’re the most handsomest man or prettiest girl to our partners, someone is always better looking. The difference is he looks at you as more than just looks, he’s sees your personality. That personality is what made him pick you among all the other millions of hot women out there who are hotter than you. I see a lot of women everyday at work who are hot that sure I would have taken a shot at when I was single. But I don’t. I’ve been w someone for 15 years. Trust me men will never stop looking. Now it’s different if he’s doing it intentionally. Like damn she’s hot, she’s got a nice rack, nice backside. That’s different. Now he’s just being disrespectful. You asking him to stop seeing other women in society as cute is like him asking you to stop being emotional. Only way that would happen is if you were dating a blind man.

[Nikki1989]

Not bound to, but most men are cheaters, or at least have thought about doing it. Your man wouldn't be any different.

[Kelly6]

@Rebecca2378 this doesn't mean he will cheat

[Summeroflove]

That really depends on his character for me personally if I truly love someone sure I can think someone else is beautiful but other then that feel nothing. If he’s like talking to girls online and watching porn among things like that. Many people who have the fantasy would act on it if given the chance.

It depends on his character. It’s just like I’m sure you can see other men who are attractive and you can cognitively know they are but emotionally you don’t feel anything they’re just another person

[ChicoFromThe305]

I think you might be jumping to conclusions by saying he will cheat because of this but he is admiring the beauty of other women infront of you which shows a bit of disrespect and lack of care for your feelings but it's possible he didn't think too much of it at the time, either ways I wouldn't say jump to assumptions that he will cheat but don't let this behavior repeat itself and for sure don't let his behavior escalate to something worse, as his partner you have the rights to communicate with him on what bothers you.

[LiamJHayden]

Straight guys will notice a pretty girl. Gawking is creepy, and is offensive while in a relationship.

Does this mean he'll cheat? If he's a cheater he will cheat given the opportunity even if the girl is not attractive. If he is not a cheater, she could rub up against him and he still won't bite.

[nawtee_me]

A beautiful girl is a beautiful girl… just because a guy is with a girl doesn’t make all other girls ugly. Yes he gasped at a beautiful girl in front of you. So he feels comfortable and secure enough with you to do that. It is not like he stopped to see if she needed a ride or put you out to take her somewhere. He noticed a pretty girl and is still with you so he must see you as even more beautiful….

[Finchie40]

It doesn’t mean he will cheat , but it shows he is disrespectful , and should of kept it to himself , Girls’ do this shit as well when she notices a good looking guy

[Juxtapose]

Why do you girls always think so lowly of men's character? Are you dating just straight up scumbags or do you have low self-esteem and think you can't keep a guy even if he's loyal.. for some reason?

[PreferNot2Say]

Women have been raised for centuries that they're always the victim.

Women cheat a lot more than men do. So her boyfriend should be more worried about her cheating.

[Juxtapose]

@PreferNot2Say yeah the whole victim narrative is annoying and if you're going to be so fucking paranoid then work on yourself before getting into a relationship I say.

[DrPepper12]

That's an individualized thing. If my partner does it I could care less it simply means that she's alive and admires attractive people. My wife has told me just don't make it obvious if I'm looking at someone.

[Joshydavid25]

I mean if he doesn't have a history of it probably not.. You are probably over thinking it although it is a bit disrespectful to react like that in front of you..

[AviatorTom]

Depends on your partner and the opportunity.

[Twalli]

If you don't want your guy to look at other girls, date a blind guy. Wandering eyes do not mean he will cheat. A wandering heart or cock is a different story.

[Jerre]

I would not be offended, just forget about it. He gave no indication of cheating just because he saw a pretty girl.

[OddBeMe]

Unless it’s benedict cumberbatch I don’t gasp at beauty.

[noohair]

You have am Assho! e boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Your partner? Yeah, probably.

[Billlewis]

I hope not.

[Staximus]

He's a dick

[scott04sa22]

Overthinking it

[woahhh152]

You are overthinking