If you find out that your partner cheated before any romantic involvement with you, can you trust that he/she won't cheat on you? If so, how?

[Anonymous]

I can

I can't

[WonderBell99]

Given my partner's history of cheating, I would be wary and keep my guards up, but I would also refrain from judging them too quickly. Sometimes, people cheat for whatever reason... we don't know how the relationship was, we don't know what type of situation they were in etc. While it is absolutely a horrid act, I would try to remain neutral and have a conversation with them. Some cheaters change, and this relationship is not necessarily the same as his previous one.

It is okay for you to be concerned. I would be too. I also think it is important for you to discuss this with your partner and lay out your concerns in a calm and composed way. Ask them what happened and why they cheated. Do they feel remorseful? Have they learned from their actions? Are they sure they would be faithful to their future partners? You should also find out if they have cheated on more than one ex. If they have, you might want to reconsider this relationship again. Often, people who are often unfaithful with multiple partners tend to be dealing with a lot of underlying issues that need to be worked out with therapy.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Isn't "before any romantic involvement" the same as before we became a pair?

[LazerBean]

I think the question is speaking about dating someone who has a history of cheating, not that the person cheated on you specifically.

[Asker]

@LazerBean yes exactly. Thank you

[Asker2022]

Once a cheater always a cheater.