Would you trust someone who cheated on their partner to be with you?

[Anonymous]

[Barry88]

If someone hasn't cheated before, it's not a guarantee they won't cheat on you. So from that point of view it wouldn't make a difference for me.

There can be reasons why someone cheated. I'm not saying it's a good thing to do, it never is. But a lot of answers below state "No" as an answer, although on average at least 10-20% of all people have cheated. For me, it wouldn't be a deal breaker. I probably wouldn't even ask, as I don't need to know all details about previous relationships. Would I trust a woman if she told me she cheated before? It depends on why, how often, etc. People can change. Someone who did it once when she was 20, drunk, and treated badly by her boyfriend at the time, that's different than when a woman around my age tells me she cheated on all her boyfriends because she can.

[collegerules]

I agree people make bad decisions and make mistakes. People can change, change for the better or worse. Especially now 30s and up if you're cheating then I don't know what to say but early to mid 20s most of us don't know what we want or who we want

[ZackBan]

It has to depend on more than that. Like if she was happily in a relationship and found out I'm more her type so she left him for me then no she belongs to the streets.
But if she was in a disfunctional toxic relationship and after meeting me she decided to end it but that took time so she cheated first then I would understand how this isn't who she is but what she had to do.

[jennifer_bloom]

Most men don't - I knew a girl in university - she dated a guy for a year and a half and she was engaged - he wanted to marry her right away - she dumped her fiancee to date another guy she was beginning to like more - the second guy dated her for around 9 years before he agreed to marry her because he knew she dumped her first fiancee and he didn't trust her - also her first fiancee was willing to marry her when she was penniless - her second boyfriend wasn't willing to marry her until she completed her PhD from a top school and began to work as a medical professional - also her first boyfriend was fit while her second one was very fat but he was smart and had money.

[Mikeilito]

Yes but there’s just things people don’t do if Yiur thier ace coon goon like buy moody better than you? I mean as a child to parents as a kid your mom bought a sibling a new car but got you a used one would you say you were loved more or smart enough to know your weren’t?

[RemoErdosain]

What a terribly sad story. The first guy deserved someone better, though

[TazWax]

Not at all at 20/21 I was sleeping/dating this guy who was about to get married and he called off the wedding for me and all and showed up at my house on the day telling me how much he loved me and wanted to be with me and I told him no thank you. Everyone was shocked that I said no but why would I wanna be with somebody who cheated on their college sweetheart that they claimed to be madly in love with their whole engagement help plan and pay for a wedding all while sleep like trying to talk about the future they could have together and going on trip buy gifts and stuff?

[btbc92]

The word TRUST shouldn't even be part of that sentence. Only a fool would believe it. Even if it is true. Why capitalize on your happiness at the expense of others? Is the "There is always a price to pay" really worth so-called love? I know there is no way in hell and back would I want somebody like that. My guilty conscious wouldn't let me.

[Anonymous]

I would not. I wouldn't even let a man do that though, that's so trashy. If I was interested in a man who was taken, and he was interested in me, i'd tell him to break up with his girlfriend or leave me alone. I am kind of in that situation right now with a guy I used to date. He says he's dating someone now but he still flirts with me, then says he has to be loyal though, then flirts again. I told him that he can leave me alone since he has her now but he still tries to get my attention yet he thinks he's being loyal to her just because he's avoiding seeing me in person but flirting is still flirting... I just ignore him because it's crappy both towards her and me. Like make your mind up.

[Anonymous]

I fell in love with a married man. He didn't tell me at first then he told me. He had an ex-girlfriend when we were seeing each other at that time. Then they broke up. I felt he loves me even he's married. I still continued to be with him because I never felt so loved and cared before. I did everything to keep him with me though I felt insecure a lot of time. He promised that he's going to marry me after he's done with his marriage. I was so happy that I am going to be with him soon then he impregnated his wife that shook my trust in love and myself. I left him on his way. I have been cheated earlier and again I am cheated. I can't trust on people anymore. I am afraid that I'm replacable. No one would want to stay with me. I'm okay with myself but not with a partner. People can do horrible things to you that makes me question someone ability to love me. So be dumb like me to trust on people who have cheating history.

[Apope16]

People dont cheat because they are cheaters. People cheat for specific reasons that likely are not a forever condition. It could be that during that time they were broken and hurting or immature. Or it could be because the relationship was bad. Usually people cheat out of depression or desperation.

People are not stagnant. Their true essence is the same but people actually change. They can grow.

[Silver158]

From my experience women either cheat because they're looking for a way out of the relationship they're in, have self-esteem issues that need to be resolved (and sometimes never are) or, find it exciting.

[RemoErdosain]

Regardless of the cause, though, a non-cheater would face the exact same situation and not even consider that option. They would consider having a conversation with their partner, solving the issue in some way, or breaking up if it's unsolvable. I think it all comes down to the mindset, and I have yet to meet a liar who stopped lying at some point in his life. That's basically what cheaters are

[newlysingleca]

No. If you like someone else then you should break up first. Actually if your eyes start roaming then you should break up because obviously the person you are with is not holding your attention. And I am not talking about looking but really looking. I know most of you know the difference.

[Mikeilito]

Poor baby what’s wrong, life’s ugly sometimes but it all passes never give up this ones no good fuck him, hold your head up and get up, never look back shit like that ain’t worth the pain, it’s a lesson best learned NOW, make life easier younger, keep trying to get that lesson down till you get it you’ll waste to much energy posative on the negative it takes years off your life , I’ll cry for you if it helps I’ll carry the burden for u now be happy!

[XxMIDNIGHTxX]

NO WAY people who cheat are just plain sad but some people deserve second chances I once knew a guy who cheated on me but didn't really... this girl just kissed him to make it look like he cheated and I saw but I gave him a second chance

[RemoErdosain]

Well, technically, he didn't cheat on you, if that was the situation

[XxMIDNIGHTxX]

@RemoErdosain yeah but it felt like it

[Greeneyes78]

No! Been there... done that... have the t shirt to prove it. I was in a relationship with a man that was "going through a separation"... hmmmm NOOOO... was far from the truth. She found out and then they did "separate" we ended up together and he pretty much did the same thing to me. Call it Karma!

[Anonymous]

Nope. It shows weakness and cowardice because most of them aren't honest enough to come clean and genuinely work through it or call it off. I know anyone can make mistakes but it's how those mistakes are dealt with and learned from. You mentioned "partners" which indicates no redeeming qualities are present.

[Sensmind]

I would probably say no 95% of the time - I will give 5% benefit for maybe it was a bad relationship or you are star crossed lovers and you know it - Back to the 95% there would be always a part of me thinking she could do it to me

[bluegrass89]

No. Just walk away. Heal yourself and be alone so that you know you can grow stronger😉 Those pain will healed, but your trust has crushed and won't be the same anymore. Doubts and insecured will keep linger in your imaginative brains.

[angecandy]

It drpends on what kind of cheating. If he cheated by only flirting, then it is alright. If he cheated once by kissing or having sex with another girl, then i hould leave him.

[Lstratt1984]

Nope. Cheat once, you'll cheat again. I mean, come on... I ain't no Brad Pitt so you'll cheat once someone better looking comes along. Remember that last boyfriend of yours? Yea. lol

[Hannibal_Lecter420]

Why would I trust someone who has cheated repeatedly? I wouldn't mind having something like friends with benefits but I'm not going to talk about what keeps me up or my personal life.

[BeachMaster]

Umm.. No.. I'm good. Think about it if they did that.. They are obviously going to do the same thing behind your back right.

[dmgstarfleet]

Best guide to future performance is past behavior. Goes for you too who was willing to go out with someone already taken

[ariadneR]

there's a saying. Hiw you got them, is going to be how you lose them.
I've seen it happen, it's happened to me

[ChronicThinker]

That's like trusting someone who shot themselves in a foot with a gun.

[Madhatter920]

No. If they would do it to them, why would I think I'm somehow special?

[Anonymous]

Nope. If they are a cheater, it is not worth the risk for me. Getting cheated on is literally the worst possible thing that someone could do to me. I only date women who have the same morals and are loyal.