Would you trust someone who cheated on their partner to be with you?

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Barry88 · Accepted Answer

If someone hasn't cheated before, it's not a guarantee they won't cheat on you. So from that point of view it wouldn't make a difference for me.

There can be reasons why someone cheated. I'm not saying it's a good thing to do, it never is. But a lot of answers below state "No" as an answer, although on average at least 10-20% of all people have cheated. For me, it wouldn't be a deal breaker. I probably wouldn't even ask, as I don't need to know all details about previous relationships. Would I trust a woman if she told me she cheated before? It depends on why, how often, etc. People can change. Someone who did it once when she was 20, drunk, and treated badly by her boyfriend at the time, that's different than when a woman around my age tells me she cheated on all her boyfriends because she can.

ZackBan · Accepted Answer

It has to depend on more than that. Like if she was happily in a relationship and found out I'm more her type so she left him for me then no she belongs to the streets.
But if she was in a disfunctional toxic relationship and after meeting me she decided to end it but that took time so she cheated first then I would understand how this isn't who she is but what she had to do.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

Most men don't - I knew a girl in university - she dated a guy for a year and a half and she was engaged - he wanted to marry her right away - she dumped her fiancee to date another guy she was beginning to like more - the second guy dated her for around 9 years before he agreed to marry her because he knew she dumped her first fiancee and he didn't trust her - also her first fiancee was willing to marry her when she was penniless - her second boyfriend wasn't willing to marry her until she completed her PhD from a top school and began to work as a medical professional - also her first boyfriend was fit while her second one was very fat but he was smart and had money.

TazWax · Accepted Answer

Not at all at 20/21 I was sleeping/dating this guy who was about to get married and he called off the wedding for me and all and showed up at my house on the day telling me how much he loved me and wanted to be with me and I told him no thank you. Everyone was shocked that I said no but why would I wanna be with somebody who cheated on their college sweetheart that they claimed to be madly in love with their whole engagement help plan and pay for a wedding all while sleep like trying to talk about the future they could have together and going on trip buy gifts and stuff?

btbc92 · Answer

The word  TRUST  shouldn't even be part of that sentence. Only a fool would believe it. Even if it is true. Why capitalize on your happiness at the expense of others? Is the "There is always a price to pay" really worth so-called love? I know there is no way in hell and back would I want somebody like that. My guilty conscious wouldn't let me.

Anonymous · Answer

I would not. I wouldn't even let a man do that though, that's so trashy. If I was interested in a man who was taken, and he was interested in me, i'd tell him to break up with his girlfriend or leave me alone. I am kind of in that situation right now with a guy I used to date. He says he's dating someone now but he still flirts with me, then says he has to be loyal though, then flirts again. I told him that he can leave me alone since he has her now but he still tries to get my attention yet he thinks he's being loyal to her just because he's avoiding seeing me in person but flirting is still flirting... I just ignore him because it's crappy both towards her and me. Like make your mind up.

Anonymous · Answer

I fell in love with a married man. He didn't tell me at first then he told me. He had an ex-girlfriend when we were seeing each other at that time. Then they broke up. I felt he loves me even he's married. I still continued to be with him because I never felt so loved and cared before. I did everything to keep him with me though I felt insecure a lot of time. He promised that he's going to marry me after he's done with his marriage. I was so happy that I am going to be with him soon then he impregnated his wife that shook my trust in love and myself. I left him on his way. I have been cheated earlier and again I am cheated. I can't trust on people anymore. I am afraid that I'm replacable. No one would want to stay with me. I'm okay with myself but not with a partner. People can do horrible things to you that makes me question someone ability to love me. So be dumb like me to trust on people who have cheating history.

Apope16 · Answer

People dont cheat because they are cheaters. People cheat for specific reasons that likely are not a forever condition. It could be that during that time they were broken and hurting or immature. Or it could be because the relationship was bad. Usually people cheat out of depression or desperation.

People are not stagnant. Their true essence is the same but people actually change. They can grow.

newlysingleca · Answer

No. If you like someone else then you should break up first. Actually if your eyes start roaming then you should break up because obviously the person you are with is not holding your attention. And I am not talking about looking but really looking. I know most of you know the difference.

Mikeilito · Answer

Poor baby what’s wrong, life’s ugly sometimes but it all passes never give up this ones no good fuck him, hold your head up and get up, never look back shit like that ain’t worth the pain, it’s a lesson best learned NOW, make life easier younger, keep trying to get that lesson down till you get it you’ll waste to much energy posative on the negative it takes years off your life , I’ll cry for you if it helps I’ll carry the burden for u now be happy!

XxMIDNIGHTxX · Answer

NO WAY people who cheat are just plain sad but some people deserve second chances I once knew a guy who cheated on me but didn't really... this girl just kissed him to make it look like he cheated and I saw but I gave him a second chance

Greeneyes78 · Answer

No! Been there... done that... have the t shirt to prove it. I was in a relationship with a man that was "going through a separation"... hmmmm NOOOO... was far from the truth. She found out and then they did "separate" we ended up together and he pretty much did the same thing to me. Call it Karma!

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. It shows weakness and cowardice because most of them aren't honest enough to come clean and genuinely work through it or call it off. I know anyone can make mistakes but it's how those mistakes are dealt with and learned from. You mentioned "partners" which indicates no redeeming qualities are present.

Sensmind · Answer

I would probably say no 95% of the time - I will give 5% benefit for maybe it was a bad relationship or you are star crossed lovers and you know it - Back to the 95% there would be always a part of me thinking she could do it to me

bluegrass89 · Answer

No. Just walk away. Heal yourself and be alone so that you know you can grow stronger😉 Those pain will healed, but your trust has crushed and won't be the same anymore. Doubts and insecured will keep linger in your imaginative brains.

angecandy · Answer

It drpends on what kind of cheating. If he cheated by only flirting, then it is alright. If he cheated once by kissing or having sex with another girl, then i hould leave him.

Lstratt1984 · Answer

Nope. Cheat once, you'll cheat again. I mean, come on... I ain't no Brad Pitt so you'll cheat once someone better looking comes along. Remember that last boyfriend of yours? Yea. lol

Hannibal_Lecter420 · Answer

Why would I trust someone who has cheated repeatedly? I wouldn't mind having something like friends with benefits but I'm not going to talk about what keeps me up or my personal life.

BeachMaster · Answer

Umm.. No.. I'm good. Think about it if they did that.. They are obviously going to do the same thing behind your back right.

dmgstarfleet · Answer

Best guide to future performance is past behavior. Goes for you too who was willing to go out with someone already taken

ariadneR · Answer

there's a saying. Hiw you got them, is going to be how you lose them. I've seen it happen, it's happened to me

ChronicThinker · Answer

That's like trusting someone who shot themselves in a foot with a gun.

Madhatter920 · Answer

No. If they would do it to them, why would I think I'm somehow special?

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. If they are a cheater, it is not worth the risk for me. Getting cheated on is literally the worst possible thing that someone could do to me. I only date women who have the same morals and are loyal.

Goma15 · Answer

No, I don't believe so. I think there would always be part of me that wondered if they would do it again.

Flower7 · Answer

No, I wouldn't. If they did it before, it would be easy for them to do it again.

Yads_Is_Back · Answer

No, and I also respect their partner so therefore they did that stupid move for nothing

Ámayas_20 · Answer

Fuck no, if someone is a scumbag then they're a scumbag.

spartan55 · Answer

Come on, really? I'd never knowingly hook up with a cheater to begin with

clampfan101 · Answer

Why would you try to get to a partner by cheating with them? Just in case they say no? And why would you want someone who’s comfortable with you cheating with them?

willisg · Answer

Either you have trust or you don't that it.  I would be honest with her and tell her I would not be able to trust her.  If she ask and says let me prove it please?

Liam_Hayden · Answer

I would not knowingly be with someone who was cheating. If I found out she did, I'd drop her immediately.

Unit1 · Answer

Only cuckolds and cuckqueans do. They'll do it again.

1828avaava1828 · Answer

I just think there are smarter decisions to make than that 🤗

grega239 · Answer

I dated women who cheated in their previous relationships. I'm no longer willing to date at all because of that

tom_wolfenstein · Answer

No, I don't trust her. But I do love her. But we aren't together anymore. And I think it is because of trust issues

Silver158 · Answer

lol no, I'm assuming they cheated on their partner with you? If so take it as you had fun and move on or remain friends with them if that's an option but don't relationship.

es20490446e · Answer

I would think they behave differently around me only due to context.

douride2 · Answer

I would never trust a cheater. I won't ever happen.

JimboGB · Answer

I know people change over time but I still wouldn't be able to be that trust in them.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Hell no, anyone that stupid deserves what's coming to them...

coryan · Answer

No way. I was told once "you lose them how you get them" and I have found that to be true with myself and others I've known.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Nah... if she cheated with you she will cheat on you.

simplelikeme · Answer

Nope... because sooner or later they will do it to you too.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

That will just make me think how many guys she's currently dating.

Budvizer · Answer

Trust noone, it is the best way to not get betrayed.

hannahbaskins · Answer

no. they cheated once, they'll probably do it again

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Of course not. But a wise man will never trust a female anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

As long as they acknowledge their past and try to do better

AzureGirl · Answer

No, I wouldn’t trust a cheater.

Hepy82 · Answer

Absolutely NOOOOOO...

NewZion · Answer

Trust? No. Have hot sweaty sex with? Yes.

worldscolide · Answer

No... Never.. Once a cheater always a cheater.

Anonymous · Answer

Not enough to tie the knot

Anonymous · Answer

Nah. I do not like male cunts

Twalli · Answer

Never date that person.

Mrsao · Answer

What reasons and why trust a cheater?

becki · Answer

Once a cheat always a cheat

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

Nope.

kyliesz · Answer

nope

ecfresh · Answer

Nope

sdtabot · Answer

No, I won't.

bigmisssunshine · Answer

No i wouldn’t.

br3nnabee · Answer

I definitely say no. Straight up.

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