Would you trust someone who cheated on their partner to be with you?

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[Finchie40]

Not right away , they would have a lot of walls to climb to prove to me that they weren’t just talking out their ass , Most people don’t have the balls to end a relationship with someone that they are unhappy with, they usually latch on to someone else thinking that someone else is going to save them and sweep them off their feet and protect them and support them and be there for them before they make their final decision to end their current relationship, setting themselves up with someone else before making the big move, a rebound basically , because they are scared to hurt their partners feelings and scared to tell their partner that they no longer love them the same and scared to admit that they are a selfish pos , instead of fixing what is right in front of them because most people in general are selfish people that only really care about themselves. Most girls that cheat on their men cheat cuz they are looking for someone else to save them , I have been the other guy to girls’ that lied to me about being single when really they were married , Most girls’ like to try to play a victim when things don’t go their way in a relationship, they make excuses to justify their own actions , I am not saying all girls’ do this, but a vast majority of them do , most girls’ feel they deserve better than what’s right in front of them and most girls ‘ are vulnerable to a man she finds attractive and that she feels has a higher status to her partner or husband. She will latch onto that new guy thinking he is going to love her and protect her and save her when really all he wants to do is fuck her. Guys that cheat on their partner mainly cheat because his partner constantly belittles him and criticizes him and withholds intimacy and affection from him , like he has to earn it from her , when a guy feels unloved and unwanted and unvalued in a relationship and feels like the relationship is one sided , it’s her way or no way in the relationship , he will more than likely been drawn to a girl that wants to make him feel valued and wanted , he realizes his partner doesn’t treat him like this new girl does and he starts to feel happiness with this new girl and realize his girlfriend or wife only cares about herself , basically pushing him to be selfish as well. Most men will not cheat on a girl that values him and respects him and loves him that doesn’t withhold intimacy and affection from him period , if he cheats on a girl that does that for him , he is a complete dumbass that dug his own grave, making him a selfish pos. Sadly I experienced both sides of the spectrum and witness both sides as well , I no longer rush into a relationship with a girl until I feel she isn’t selfish and knows the true meaning of a relationship we can only give , what we want to receive bottom line it needs to go both ways or it will not work , you can’t expect someone to sacrifice for you if you can’t sacrifice for them , you can’t expect someone to remove selfishness for you if you can’t remove it for them. Do not commit into a relationship with someone until you know you are clearly ready to wear their shoes like
You expect them to wear yours , or you will just be wasting your time period

[hahahmm]

Let's just say it's very risky because people tend to repeat patterns in their life. But there's different degrees to it from someone who was sneaky like a 007 agent to someone who told the SO on day 1 they were going with someone else. Not the same thing. If you're thinking about getting with someone like that I'd advise against it. It's like playing the lottery and thinking you're going to win. That's how slim the chances are that they won't do the same to you. You might win the lotto but it's not likely.

[provokeesmokee]

Nope. Once a cheater, always a cheater - unless they discover they're actually polyamorous and now know how to respect boundaries and communicate.

But personally, I wouldn't give a cheater a second chance. They can find someone else, there's enough people out there who haven't cheaten for me to find a good one without settling for a lesser person.

[DizzyDesii]

I would need the full story. Was it physical or only emotional? Was it just a kiss or something more sexual? How many successful relationships had they been in after that one? How many relationships have they physically cheated in? That last questions answer will determine whether or not its a dealbreaker

[DizzyDesii]

Some responses below confused me a bit. So to understand your question better, did they cheat on their partner with me? Or did they cheat on their partner but later down the road met me?

[OlderAndWiser]

If they cheat on their current partner to be with you, then the current relationship will fail and you will become their next partner. That means that you are the next one on whom they will cheat! That's such a great thing to look forward to!

[Pinay_ako]

How you got him is how you gonna lose him.

[coachTanthony]

Yes because I am different ha ha ha

[natured]

Honestly, I know many stories that started like this and ended differently, some got cheated on the same way, some had their happily ever after... So I would not really stick to the Idea of "HE WILL DO THE SAME TO ME" kinda bs because it's never true, once a cheater might not always be a cheater with his next flame... I think it's something you got to share with him...

[ByCureChris9669]

@natured do you give advice? :)

[Kelly6]

This statement is very true

[blueonblack22]

Nope. If she will cheat on him she will cheat on me. Should be the same for women too.

But honestly I’m fed up with women who go after taken men. It doesn’t give the guy and excuse to cheat but still they put that temptation right in front of his face while likely ignoring the exact same guy if he was single.

Men don’t feel “more” attracted to taken women. Women need to own up to this mental quirk.

[Kris31]

Yes i would. In fact we managed to go for 9 years after she left her boyfriend back then for me.
I think this really depends on the person if she does that on regular basis nope.
If it's her like first time you always should choose the person you like not the one you liked. Unless you like to be masochistically unhappy

[KingOfMe1]

But did she actually cheat though

[Kris31]

I mean she was with the guy for 2 months and then I stole her from him. Not sure what you define as cheating since it's very subjective

[KingOfMe1]

I mean it sounds like she left him for you not that she was with him and you at the same time

[Miristheiss]

Impossible scenario. I wouldn't participate on cheating so no woman could cheat on their partner to be with me.

I don't date people who have ever cheated so if I were seeing a woman and it came to light that she had cheated on someone ever before it would have been an immediate deal breaker.

[Anonymous]

Two have tried, and two broke up with their boyfriends to be with me (supposedly).
I didn't trust any of them.
Mainly because I don't trust women in general. I know them well enough to see how they rationalize their behavior. In their minds, they're doing nothing wrong because they're the victim

[BoopBoopBeep]

No they obviously have no moral qualms with doing it and I'm not such a narcissistic person that I can convince myself "it's only because it was me."

[Adam1978]

No morals are easy to loose, hard to maintain and build. So if you prove your not trustworthy, that will be it unless it was a really long time ago and you have been faithful since then.

[MrWolf]

Aye sure see a guy or a girl get backstabbed and become friend with the perpetrator what a smart move indeed. If he or she cheated expect the same to be done to you.

[xoxosilentgirl]

Nahh. It’s only a matter of time he’ll do the same to me.

[DermalPunch]

Well if I knew that fact no I wouldn't. I don't know people who just admit to being a cheater so if you know this then you probably helped them cheat.

[Sjoerd85]

If someone cheats to be with me, then that person will cheat on me when someone else comes around... Nope, not happening.

[Nikki1989]

I wouldn't know he did that in the first place. Their past is none of my business, and I wouldn't have the nerve to ask them about it.

[coolbreeze]

No because once a cheater is always a cheater.

[Sour-rose]

o hell no, that only means i can be next to have my heart broken.

[slatyb]

Maybe. I would wonder why they didn't simply end the relationship.

[Anonymous]

I think this is so common nowadays
That’s why it’s hard to find a good human to marry
Everyone has gone crazy already thinking they can find better and better and better than you and her etc

[Kerrytheman]

No. I wouldn't! I tried that once and of course it blew up in my face. First you are in this crazy kind of relationship know that one cheated to be with you. So trust issues from the beginning.