Would you trust someone who said they cheated in their last relationship?

[missindiana93]

[HawkPerception]

Once a cheater, always a cheater. There are truth in those words. If you do something once, you desensitize yourself to that negative feeling while doing it, making it easier and more likely for you to do in the future. It would be hard for me to fully trust someone that cheated in the past.

I personally put more faith in people that have been consistently good throughout their lives than those who tumbled and made a ton of mistakes they know were wrong throughout their lives. Someone who is consistently good/pure throughout their life will always have more of my respect. It shows how they've thought throughout the course of their life. They're likely more emotionally intelligent and have a good moral compass.

The truth is... I MIGHT be open to someone who cheated in the past depending on the scenario. If it wasn't full blown cheating like not actually being with the person physically, but maybe doing something like downloading a dating app and swiping because they found it difficult to bring up how unhappy they feel in the relationship, and just seeing the potential prospects out there... that I might be okay with.

But the better option is always someone who hasn't cheated at all and always communicates their thoughts to their partner.

[HawkPerception]

I would also respect the fact they were honest enough to tell me.

[Anonymous]

Nope

[IslaTheWitch]

it depends...

I would thread carefully...

but it isn't like they are destined to cheat on everyone they create relationships with... it's a matter of choice... and if he trusted me to tell me that... and I can see his genuine remorse... and if we click on other levels...

yes, I would trust him... and it would be my gift to him...

[Flower7]

Nope, I wouldn’t date a known cheater.

[AI Opinion]

Here to sprinkle some insight and charm on your love dilemmas! Trust is a diamond in the relationship minefield, and finding out someone cheated in the past can be a big red flag flapping in the wind. However, people do change. If they owned up and learned from past mistakes, here's your chance to pop on those rose-colored glasses and see if they align with your values and boundaries now. Just be cautious and protective of your heart, lovely! 💖 Keep it real and trust your gut! 😉

[Finchie40]

Only if they gave me a reason not to trust them , someone’s past is someone’s past , so the fact that they confessed that to me , tells me they are an honest person and that they more than likely won’t do it again because they were honest about it , the people You shouldn’t trust are the ones that act like they do no wrong that try to present themselves as this perfect person that does no wrong. Someone with common sense will know that person is talking out their ass cuz no one on this planet is perfect whatsoever. Just because someone looks good on the outside it doesn’t mean they are good in the inside , I prefer honest people over people that pretend they do no wrong.

[BadApple69]

Probably more them someone who cheated and didn’t tell me. We all have things in our pasts that others might not think of as good. They were not in our shoes. I have been cheated on and I’ve cheated in my past. I would rather people be honest about it than lie about it.
I get a kick out of all the people here that say they would never cheat. But every study I’ve read and even research I’ve done myself has shown that more people cheat than not cheat. As horrible as it is and as much as I hate saying it cheating is a part of life.

[scott04sa22]

The women 33F im seeing is far more prettier then me. There lots of reasons people cheat on their spouses. The most common reasons is their unhappiness on their current relationship. Probably the reason why people go after unattractive people is how deep the emotional connection they have together or they feel a higher compatibility with the unattractive person then their current partner. People find their long-term partners all over the place. Most people will disagree on this because everybody thinks you have to be rich to have a girlfriend. That is super untrue because you can find your long-term partner at anytime during your ups and downs in life.

[AnonAndrew]

I agree with you in the general sense, but it's important to remember that we as humans have evolved for polyandry, where one woman has multiple husbands. Because of this, a woman who is forced to be in a monogamous relationship (by society’s rules that tell us she is “bad” for wanting to be with more than one man), she will always feel a desire to be with another man.

So a woman cheating doesn't necessarily mean she's unhappy with you - it's simply in her nature that her emotional and sexual needs cannot be completely fulfilled by a single man.

"everybody thinks you have to be rich to have a girlfriend"
I don't think very many people believe this. Most men aren't rich, yet most men find girlfriends.

[scott04sa22]

She's not polyandry or doesn't have a double life that some people do. I will not even date twins

[OneViewpoint]

Depends completely on their reasons for cheating.

Just horny as hell?

In an abusive relationship?

In a sexless marriage?

Partner cheated on them first?

Life is seldom a simple black and white puzzle where humans are concerned.

[HungTexan]

It would depend. The important thing is honesty, respect and mutual trust, as well as physical and emotional attraction.

If someone cheated once in their past, but is remorseful and truthful, there’s no reason to assume they will cheat again.

People make mistakes and deserve a second chance.

[Cormac995]

HELL NO! The moment I found out someone cheated I lose all interest. If they cheated they need to have a pretty dramatic reason like being abused and if you're being abused and willing to cheat at that point just leave.

[virtualwasp]

Obviously need to know the details first and decide. Sometimes people separate and it takes years, they move on while legally married, technically it's cheating on paper. I'm not for it either but I understand divorce can take years

[Shiprex]

Maybe. But probably not. The chances are you'd always be thinking this was a pattern and with promiscuity being more and more acceptable, it's unlikely to be going away soon.

[JustinTheGreat]

No. Unless that relationship was when they were a teen in high school. Because I know that our actions as kids are representative of the person we’ll be forever

[Sunrising]

I would wonder why they are confessing. A new relationship a new beginning, or are they asking for a non-monogamy relationship.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

No, I wouldn't.

However, I'd appreciate the honest admission.

[Miristheiss]

Hello no.

That is an automatic ghost.

Only fools willingly commit to people who are KNOWN CHEATERS.

[AnonAndrew]

@Miristheiss
What if they are known liars (but not cheaters) ?

[MemeSupreme]

95% chance of it not

REALLY REALLY depends what their partner was like and the relationship

[Orion84]

Nope

Once a cheater, always a cheater

[12karen]

Hmm, no, not really...

But if they cheated when they were still teenagers or the first time they got into a relationship, I can consider it.

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe, but only if I believed they had really changed

[AnonAndrew]

Yes. It doesn't bother me if a woman cheats.

Actually I consider it a positive trait.

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

I gave her herpes and I voted for trump, you still don’t care? You have herpes now.

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

I’m just being hypothetical. What if you raise another man’s kids, or what if the kids in the home are aware of this degenerate dysfunctional behavior?

Your masochism has net negative detriment to everyone around you and those that are/will be around them.

[AnonAndrew]

@Oncewildtwiceburned No, if she gives me an STD I wouldn't be okay with it, nor if she got impregnated by someone else. Good thing we can practice safe sex!

I'm not a masochist by the way. You just think I am because you incorrectly see a woman cheating as degrading for her man.

[Oldschool1981]

Sure, no problem! My wife has a side guy, and I have no problem. Personally, I won't even bat an eyelash over it.

[AnonAndrew]

@Oldschool1981
Same.

[Twalli]

Yes, cheaters aren't they type who will inevitably cheat on you. Once a cheater, always a cheater means that they were able to rationalize cheating once to themselves, so they can do it again.

[red-lipstick-girl]

I would never trust or want someone like that.

[KostasKouvalis]

Absolutely not. If they cheated on their ex, they will most likely cheat on me too

[TheStaleMarshmellow]

Friendzone with benefits if that's the case.

Take it or leave it

[genericname85]

nope. that's a huge red flag and most likely a deal breaker.

[Iron_Man]

No way it will happen again I don’t trust people like that

[Eros91]

Depends if they cheated on every relationship. Or just last one.

[MikeRJ]

It would hard to trust someone who is dishonest.

[Anonymous]

Probably not, but I would give them a chance.

[Jasmine0707]

No I would not. It would be to hard to trust I think

[serious]

The answer is No

[blackeagle007]

Rule#1. Never out yourself! 🤫

[tzdc21]

Not really

[KittygosMeoWW]

Ew no

[TonyMetal___86]

Nope