Would you trust your friend if you know that they cheat on their significant other?

[Anonymous]

[Datboi65]

I don't fully trust anyone in this world. I do have few people whom I confide in, but I'm always alert of the possibility that they may turn on me (which has happened in the past).

No, I will never trust someone who has cheated on a significant other to be my friend. I will probably cut them off. These people tend to be unreliable in both friendships and relationships, and they will sell you for a dime.

Be smart and learn from other people's mistakes, do not wait unit you become the victim.

[Asker]

Well she’s about to move in with her boyfriend. I doubt it’ll last.

[Asker]

She talks about how he’s so perfect in so many ways but that he’s not “hot” and then she talks about other guys who are “hot” to her. Once I was going through an awful time and it seemed like effort for her to be a caring friend.

[Datboi65]

I learned this from my father. He told me to never spend time with people who consistently make bad decisions. Do you think that an unfaithful girlfriend can be a trustworthy friend? A good employee? A caring mother? I mean that's possible, but I wouldn't wait to find out. It's the same for guys too. If she would sell her man, she would probably do the same thing to you as well.

Her moving in with her boyfriend is their business, but if I were you I would probably cut her off from my life. Always surround yourself with those people that share your morals, that way you know you're not getting played since there are enough fake people out there. Never trust a wolf in a sheep's clothing, especially if they have shown you their teeth before.

[Asker]

Aw that means a lot. I’m hurt because I lost someone really close to me late last year and she knew about it and we hung out a week later, I checked her into my gym with my guest pass, and she just said “sorry” in reference to my loss, and said she’s really tired and has to go home to do more work for her job and didn’t hug me or anything. And said she’d get me something (since I lost someone) and never did.

[Datboi65]

I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you're doing better.

I don't know her enough to tell you how she should've responded, but I can may be share an instance that happened to me that I hope will give some clarity on your situation.

I don't use social media often, but I remember one particular day I was going through stories and one of my friends from high school who had me on their close friends list uploaded a story about how he was feeling very down at that time. It was a rather stressful week, but I called him to check how he was doing despite having not talked in a few years (we grew apart after I left high school but we chat occasionally and are on good terms). I would do it again and again if I have to and I expect true friends to do the same for me as well.

Your friends are not those you have a good time with, they are those people that have your back. Always remember that. I know a lot of people, but I only call 5 of them my friends because I know that if my life depended on it that they would pull through.

[Asker]

I’m not sure how to cope with how I feel. I haven’t had any success getting into relationships despite being kind and having morals. Im only 26 so there’s time but I feel I have a lot to offer and it makes me sad when people like this friend have romantic success who treat others like shit.

[Datboi65]

Do not ever change who you are. If you are not getting the results that you want, you need to learn where to look instead.

As far as she is concerned, sooner or later it will get to her. Her bad decisions will catch up to her and she will not be as happy as you will be after you move on from her and hopefully turn your life for the better.

One thing I can tell you is this. If there is anything I learned is that a person's kindness needs to be protected at all costs, because it can be easily corrupted. How you may ask? Through trauma. If you allow people to hurt you, you will have negative emotions towards them and the more it happens, the harder you will find it to forgive and eventually you may become less empathetic of other people as a result. This is why I have developed a very careful approach when dealing with people.

My biggest nightmare isn't getting screwed over by someone, but it's me losing my morals and turning into someone bad. Of course therapy is important, but so is vetting people properly before you fully commit to them. However, once you do you need to be a great friend and offer the very things that you look for in other people because chances are if this person passed the vetting process, then they must be great.

[Asker]

I have so many other great friends! So I am happy about that. I actually blocked her number before I sent a text to her and it didn’t go through. She blocked me as well! Needless to say, she’s a jerk. Life might be easier without such a person.

[Datboi65]

It's all for the best. Best of luck in your future endeavors.

[Guy13]

No, I would not trust a friend or anyone else who cheats on his wife. And thankfully none Businesses’ partners, either male or female, have cheated.

[wtfhunt]

Because they are gonna tell you

[Vegasrunner]

@guy13 How would you know, there obviously not going to tell you because of your reaction.

[Sorrento-Sun]

No.

I used to be friends with a woman who cheated on her husband. Eventually I ended our friendship, because her morals and values were questionable , and I could no longer trust her as a friend

If she'd betray her husbands trust then I knew she was capable of breaking my trust too

[Asker]

It’s not 100% confirmed that she’s cheating on him but it seems that way because she constantly keeps in touch with exes and hangs out with other guys.

[Sorrento-Sun]

I can't understand people who keep in touch with exes. It's just complicates future relationships.

I used to date a guy who was friends with his ex. My gut told me he was still seeing her. So I ended it. I trust my gut over anyone's reasons, excuses and explanations. I don't think everyone who stays friends with an ex is cheating, but they'll always be that underlying doubt.

[Rosexøxø]

A loud resounding no.

Angelic choirs singing No

Armies in the millions Chanting anthems of No

Momma lulling me to sleep whispering No

it’s like an unwritten code.

Do NOT trust them lol

[Rockstarrrrr]

No... To me that means they're trashy and they can also be a lousy friend... I'd instantly lose respect for them and probably won't stay friends with them for much long afterwards... I just really dislike opportunists and mellow people... Can't stand being friends with one...

[AmeerX]

I might be the one helping him keep it secret. I am not proud of it but my friend has a wife and a mistress. he doesn't sleep with her but he talks to her and they love each other. I don't find anything wrong with it since his marriage was arranged marriage:)

[LittleSally]

No. I would like to thin I can assess people better than that so that that kind of a person is not a part of my circle at all, but you never know.

[Apple_Cider]

I wouldn't trust them, but I wouldn't hold it against them, either. I worked with a guy who cheated a lot, but I still had a beer with him after work.

[Orion76]

I trusted my childhood friend who had a habit of cheating on his wife I was naive enough to tell myself it’s irrelevant until he cheated me out of my business and left me broke.

[Chazmatazz269]

Not for a fraction of a second. They’d be the first to go in my view, knowing that EVERYONE is expendable in their view.

[Finchie40]

Yes because they aren’t cheating on me , but I would definitely talk my friend out of doing shot like that and tell them how wrong it is to do

[sage2021]

No, I Wouldn't trust her at all! I mean, if she cheats on her boyfriend she us saying "You can't trust me". That's a no brainer

[Telekinetic-Potato]

A guy, maybe. A woman, almost certainly not.

[LazerBean]

I would never have a friend like that to begin with.

[Juxtapose]

If they proved themselves to be honest to me and let me know precisely the conditions in which they would betray me? Sure, wouldn't be the first evil friend I have had.

[fknsht]

Not really lol I'd probably not be friends wirh poeple like that though

[Asker]

My friend denies cheating but I don’t know why she keeps in touch with exes and mentions other guys all the time that she’s more attracted to, and hangs out with some of them.

[fknsht]

She def has issues sounds a bit narcissistic

[Asker]

Ikr! She told me I could get a nose job once. Also criticizes all the guys I’ve dated and what they do for work. She’s not like a hot woman, she has no room to criticize men for looks, or anyone lol.

[prosmind]

I will still trust them because cheating and trusting are entirely different aspects of life.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I have a girlfriend who cheated on her boyfriend, but she's amazing, she'll do her best every time I need help.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I genuinely could not be friends with such a person

[Dav1dTh0ma3]

No I would not

[Anonymous]

Yeap, my best friend cheats on her husband.

[Drachen]

How do you know this secret? Don't tell me she cheated on her husband with you. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Opinion Owner]

@Drachen among things, yes.

[Luopio27]

No I dont. Such guys are no friends of mine.

[Iron_Man]

No I wouldn’t

[Twalli]

Yes, because you can't cheat in a friendship

[LimitedBenefits101]

Yeah, ITS NONE OF MY BUSINESS.

[KnewHOUSE]

Nope

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope no way

[Figurine89]

Nope

[eagle1951]

hell no

[Anonymous]

Fuck no