He seems uninterested after sex. HELP?

[Anonymous]

I started talking to this guy about two weeks ago and things have been going really great. we would have a great talks and text throughout the day but ever since we had sex on Sunday it’s been kind of like I’ve been looking for that attention that he was giving me before. I will say that in the two weeks we were talking nonstop he would stay up a little too late saying things like “if I don’t stay up with you someone else will” and he was late for work twice in those two weeks so he said that he’s trying to get his sleep schedule back together so I’m trying to be more mindful of that, but pretty much every day this week our chatting has been pretty sparse and there’s only been one phone call when we used to talk on the phone and FaceTime like every day. I get really anxious when things start going this way because I’m used to getting ghosted and having people tell me im TOO much and I get that. So on Wednesday I blocked him from all my social media just because I was feeling like he was going to ghost me so I wanted to do it first. I deleted his number so I couldn’t bother him anymore and He ended up calling me asking me what was wrong. I let him know and he told me that he isn’t ignoring me. He’s just busy at work, and last night (Friday night) I kinda got upset with him because he was just leaving my messages on read and not responding to them. He told me he’d talk to me in the morning that he was just getting ready for bed and he’s not ignoring me. So in this week, he hasn’t talked to me as much but has repeatedly assured me that he’s not ignoring me. Should I just take that as he’s not ignoring me or trying to let me down easy or am I just being a crazy person.

Also I feel like I’m fucking this up even if he is still interested in me. I need allll the advice please help!

Updates

1 y

He still likes me we’re going to the river tomorrow! I’ll dial back the crazy 🥰

[ProbablyClueless]

You are absolutely fucking this thing up. Even if he was interested, the way you're acting is going to turn almost any man off. You're making yourself a headache to deal with.

This is something I've seen a lot of women do and I don't really understand why it's so common for women to dial things up to an 11 once sex or feelings are involved. After y'all have sex, or after y'all form more of a romantic connection/relationship with a man, you get so intense and forceful. It's a huge turn off. To paraphrase the words of Whitney Cummings: you didn't get played, you just got whack.

I know it can be hard to relax, but you have to find a way to keep the same energy before and after sex. Because the woman he wanted to be around was the woman you were before he had sex with you. The woman you're acting like now is the kind he doesn't; as evidenced by the fact he isn't.

[Asker]

I appreciate the insite thank you!

[ProbablyClueless]

No problem! I'm glad I could help. Please let me know how things work out.

[patrick994]

Try to clarify yourselves, the situation you have described is complicated,

[spartan55]

Actually it couldn't be more simple. What makes this complicated to you?

[itsannalee]

Girl maybe you are the same age as me, and what you have done is childish, and most people can’t deal with that. If u still have pain from the past, just heal your pain first before you open your arms for someone else. Otherwise you will always hurt your own feeling by overthinking and won’t get any peace in your life.



People are busy, some people can’t even take their phone or open it during the work. Heal your pain, and be more mature.

[Anonymous]

I’m not reading all that. He got what he wanted now he isn’t going to put in that effort as much. I suspect when he wants to nail you again he will pay you more attention. You gave it up too easy.

[spartan55]

You are fucking it up... smh

[Asker]

Any chance to unfuck it?

[spartan55]

Well stop with the ridiculous online bullshit. Very immature and very off putting. No guy wants to deal with that, especially from someone chick who isn't his girlfriend. You went full psycho on the blocking, getting mad at the amount of attention you were getting. Stay in your lane... its CASUAL.

[spartan55]

Re: your update... that's good news. Obviously you can do what you want, but I recommend keeping your bikini on the whole day... update us please.

[thearchjoker]

Of Corse he's not interested your too much

[Anonymous]

He hit it and quit it