My lecturer asked me out for drinks?

[Puppystarfish23]

I'm currently on a business law course that my work has sent me to for 5 days I will regularly have to come back through out the months/years to gain more knowledge and training.

Everything's been going really well and everyone is super nice on the course and I'm learning a lot of new things.

I really miss being away from my husband though as I'm staying in a hotel a hour away from home.

Yesterday I was helping my lecturer carry somethings and I felt him trying to hold my hand. It was awkward and I tried to ignore it and just let him hold my hand.

He's northern Irish and from Belfast and if you don't know northern Irish men are very good with flirting with non northern Irish women especially because of the accent as it does drive most women crazy if we can actually understand what they are saying 🤣

I do not see my lecturer in that way at all though and just see him as my lecturer. Even if he makes me blush it's because I'm a married woman and I'm not used to men being that way with me or how to respond to it.

Today is my last day of my course and yesterday he managed to get me alone to ask if I fancied going out for a drink with him next time I come down for my course as he won't be my lecturer on the second part of the course so it won't be seen as inappropriate. He said I could bring my husband with me but my husband doesn't drink and I lied and said I don't either.

He just said okay then coffee date it is then and he already has my number so he's been texting me since. His text aren't anything inappropriate just innocent things.

I told my best friend who's in another class and someone overheard and now it's gone round but he fancies me and every says it's obvious and he's like a lost little puppy around me.

Updates

1 y

Okay this is embarrassing 🫣 🤣 he's gay

[Summeroflove]

If your gut feeling says there is something funny going on then just say no and there isn’t a need to tell a lie you don’t owe a exclamation all you need to do is respectfully say no, it doesn’t matter what anyone else says that’s what you said. If he says “oh well I didn’t mean it like that” you can say I understand and thank you for the offer but no. Be respectful but firm unless given a reason not to.

I mean at the end of the day if he’s gay he’s gay again if your gut says no or you just don’t feel comfortable. Then you don’t feel comfortable that’s the end of it. You can say I’m sorry I’m not comfortable with that. Not make a scene about it. It just is what it is.

[Lliam]

If he said your husband could join you, maybe he just likes you as a person, wants to get to know you AND your husband, and doesn't have any evil intent. 😁

[Nikki1989]

I see no harm in having a few drinks with him.

[eagle1951]

he said you could bring your husband, only to see if you would or not, he's fishing to see if you would cheat.

[soe11]

• First talk to your husband.