Jealousy?

[Anonymous]

So, how can you tell if your guy friend is jealous when you talk about or are around other guys or guy friends? Guys, I'd love your input on this too!

[Anonymous]

Depends on the guy friend. Some may disguide themselves very well and be very supportive of you hanging out with other guys. However they may become 'over protective' and try to show you all the things that are wrong with the other guy.

Invent a problem between you and another guy, and if your friend gets riled up and tried to defend your honour and such, he may be prone to getting jealous over other guys.

But like I said, depends on the guy. Don't just make assumptions, because guys minds are very strange :S

Hope this helps :)

[teardrop06]

I have a friend that is very over protective of me. All of his friends know this and make sure to not flirt with me in front of him. They make sure if they want to ask me certain ?z they do it in a text message or wait for him to leave. They even tell me that he was waiting for him to leave because they know how he is with me.

[Petertheniceguy]

mmm I've been there.

He will give you a look if all the guys get a hug and he doesnt. Most likely he will have an eye on you the entire time you are with/talking to other guys while he is around. not litteraly watching you, but makeing sure you are not out of eyesight.

Has he ever asked what guys you like? has he ever made a complament that you would have never thought of? (or one that is so over used its crazy?) Examples: I just love your toenail polish! or Wow that's a cute dress!

you get the idea.

[Asker]

He hasn't really asked what guys I like but if I make a comment about what I like in a guy he's like "Really?" and he acts like he's thinking about it. But I have noticed him keeping an eye on me when I talk to other guys, once he even mentioned later how he noticed me talking to this guy and I hadn't even noticed him looking at me. He does it a lot and he I always see him noticing if I hug other guys, he and I don't usually hug. also once when I called him a good friend he randomly asked if

[Asker]

Two of the guys (two that he teases me constantly about them liking me or whatever) if I was good friends with them two, and he asked this in some kinda low, pondering voice.

[Petertheniceguy]

Yea, jelous as all get out..

He is most like the sweetest-nicest guy you will meet for a long time.. and if he's watching you like that.. he really cares for you and your heart...

dont break his if you can help it..

or go after him if you want a devoted boy who will do everything in his power to make you happy.

[Asker]

There was even a time he caught me hugging this little boy and all day he kept teasing me about it and stuff. And I had even noticed his face kinda look shocked too like I did something horrific but it was just a little kid. I do want a guy like him, I really do. he grew on me after a good amount of time, at first he got on my nerves but as I got to know him I cared for him a lot but I'm just very afraid because he sends mixed messages sometimes. one moment he stares the next he's too busy t

[Asker]

To talk.

[Petertheniceguy]

People are busy sometimes.. and guys make it a point to not be avalable all the time.. trust me as a guy who was in his spot for a long time.. you telling him you like him will be the best part of his day.. if not his year.

[Asker]

I sure hope you're right but I'm kinda waiting for him to open up the opportunity, then I might mention something. The only problem is that I'm a little bit older than him and it has me worried as well.

[Asker]

And for the compliment stuff, he complimented my singing once but as for hair and stuff like that, he acts like he doesn't notice. then if someone else points it out for him he'll just nod his head or whatever but never says anything.

[Petertheniceguy]

Dont hold your breath for him acting on it.. espcally if you two are good friends.. he doesn't want to hurt that just as much as you do.. I would say to give it to him in a hipothetical.. that way he gets the idea.. but won't feel like the friendship is in danger.

[Asker]

Thanks. I'll definitely give your advice a lot of thought and let you know what happens.

[Petertheniceguy]

Np, and good luck!

[Asker]

Oh! the other thing I forgot, the thing is he'll mention occassionally girls that like him, and one girl he claims he likes (this is back in his hometown) he only mentioned her once or twice but if he mentions her he'll kinda say it in that sleazy way like "oh I told her she'll get more than that if she plays her cards right" or something like that but since it makes me jealous I play it off and just smile and nod but that's what I mean by his mixed signals...

[obligations]

I just wanted to chime in here. I had a friend who I crushed on who did that. He asked me a lot of questiosn about my dating status which included: if I liked anyone he knew and what I liked in men....etc. Even when I was talking to a friend every time I'd talk to this friend my crush used to come over and playfully kick me and say hi, or kick me and join the convo, or just kick me stand there and walked away. HAHA

[Asker]

Ok...but did this crush of yours like you? Or are you just mentioning it? I mean I don't want to seem rude but is that your answer to my question?

[Anonymous]

Guys (in my case) usually gave me the whole "He isn't right for you" or "I'm watching him" or act like they were gonna hit the dude behind his back. Some jealous boys have gone to the extreme and read my text messages with him, and would give him "the talk". Some would point out his flaws, and be like "I can do better", but every guy is different.

[Asker]

Well he's more the type to be like if I'm texting someone he'll be like "Oh are you texting my sis" and if I say no and say it's my guy friend he'll just be like "oh..." he's more of the quiet type in regards to 'advice' but he'd make comments to me like mocking comments and stuff like that

[Opinion Owner]

Oh haha, I know what you are talking about. Are you trying to figure out if he is straight jealous??? Or if he also likes you???

[Asker]

If he's jealous and if he likes me. He's such a confusing boy!

[Petertheniceguy]

Haha we have sooo been over this.. he's jelous AND he likes you.

[Asker]

Lol Peter read my last reply to your other thing, and as far as compliments, I sent out a silly mass xmas text with me wearing a santa wig and his reply was "lol no offense but you look like a guy" ... so I mean you make sense but..he's still confusing very confusing

[Opinion Owner]

I think the boy is confused. He is jealous and he likes you lots...but he isn't sure what he wants. Maybe he is being harsh as to not give off the vibe that he likes you? Idk, boys are confusing all the time, you should just ask him what's up.

[monica7777]

He'll ask questions (if you haven't told him who it is he'll try to guess or try to get info from him.) A good way to tell if you say something like "He's really cute" and your friend gets really quite.

[blue-kev]

Are you kidding. Want a boyfriend. Then I have 3 peices of advice. Tell him you like him! Tell him you like him! Tell him you like him! Why are you depriving him of the coolest thing in the world. Guys love it when a girl says she likes us. Why do you girls hide this. We dream about girls saying they like us all the time. And its such a huge turn on. Guys fantasize about this. A girl is never more feminin or more beutiful then when she says 3 simple words. I LIKE YOU!

[CrazyLove00]

I told a guy I liked him once and he told me he did too....as more than a friend. Then he said he didn't want a relationship at the moment. Epic fail.

[Tech21]

im jealous so if a girl I liked was huggin guys id look, and if she was atalking about them id be like really he such a twirp.

he probably wants one of those hugs if you do like him suprise hima nd give him one you'll make him happy even if he doesn't like you which I tihnk he does

[Asker]

He's never actually called them twerps (mainly because he's never met them) but there's my best friend who's a guy and whenever I talk about him he gets quiet. And I think once he was jumping at a chance to make him a bad guy because I mentioned a friend that had abandoned me and he was like "Oh was it so and so (my best friend)?" and I said no, but I found it weird that he'd bring that up.

[TheAllSpokenTruth]

I scoff a lot in that situation and even if I don't know the guy being talked about I'll immediately label him a "douche bag" or something similar. When a guy is pretending not to care it's easily noticeable. I don't know too many guys who are very good at hiding that. But attempting to make a guy jealous on purpose is never a good idea. It's quite possibly our biggest pet peeve.

[Asker]

Where the heck did you get the "make a guy jealous on purpose" I just asked how to tell if a guy is jealous...