Why he doesn't ask me out?

[Anonymous]

There is this guy that we work with together now for 2 years. During the past couple of months, I noticed changes in his behavior; pays attention to details of my hair and outfit, was flirting at some point, now he locks eyes with me, he changes a friendly one arm hug to a two handed sqeezing long hug and seems to not care about other people watching. He helped me a couple of times. I can clearly sense it that he likes me. I do like him too. I invited him over to cook together. He texted back after 3 days that he was busy but he is going to go to a gathering and if I wanna go too. I didn't respond back to his text.

I am so confused. Need some guys perspective on this.

[Summeroflove]

The problem is that some people tread easier in the workplace I can assume it’s the same reason you haven’t asked him out.

Just remember if you want someone make a move because he could decide it’s not worth the risk and fancy somebody else. I get being nervous and that’s fine but there’s a good chance he likes you.

Flirting is fine to see if someone flirts back but if there seems to be mutual attraction someone needs to make a move. If he rejects you respectfully maybe he says I like you but I want to keep things professional. Just say thanks for being honest and I look forward to having a professional relationship with you. At that point you have e closure and aren’t wasting your time so you can move

on.

[Asker]

Thanks for you answer. Well I think I made a move. I invited him to spend time together! Still no closure 😕

[Summeroflove]

Yeah asker if you asked him something and he hasn’t answered or isn’t being direct. Balls in his court. Maybe it’s time to start moving on

[EnjoytheDay777]

If you invited him to hang out with you and he said he was too busy, then it sounds like he's not that into you. If a guy likes a woman and she invites him to hang out with her, he wouldn't wait (at least I wouldn't).

[Starrrboy]

You're in the friendzone.. he likes you but not romantically.. that's what it seems like.

[Asker]

Umm, I have guy friends. Non of them lock eyes or give me lingering hug!

[Starrrboy]

He locks eyes with you and gives you lingering hugs , then he ignores you for three whole days.. after you invited him to your house.. but he makes up for it by inviting you to go to a gathering with him , where other people are around.. come on , read the signs !.. you made it so easy for him to make his move.. actually you basically asked him out.. and he's still acting like you're besties lol.. and don't forget.. three whole days !.