Why do men not understand hints?

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Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Because flirting for you as well as flirting for someone else may be different. Nobody flirts the same so for you something may be flirting but to another woman a dude takes it the wrong way.

If you want to stop wasting your time just be more direct it’s fine to flirt to see if someone flirts back but playing games is only going to limit your options.

As many dudes miss hints, there are other dudes who maybe are catching on but aren’t interested and you’re going to make things more awkward and uncomfortable by flirting too much, then if you just said what you wanted and took the rejection.

At the same time, men aren’t mind readers neither are women. A lot of times playing around you’re going to get the wrong kind of guys approaching the type that won’t take no for a answer and takes everything as a sign of attraction. Desperate dudes, weird dudes, dudes who don’t get women very easily. On the other hand you’ll get players, fuck boys, and bad boys who are just looking to have sex.

Meanwhile men who have options as well as want something serious most of the time are being taken, because they don’t need to play games especially when more times then not they have women in their lives as it is, who are much more direct.

It also depends on if these are dudes you know personally like friends, etc. Or if these are just random men out minding their business probably not even paying attention.

At the end of the day if you want somebody it’s your obligation to make a move directly on him because most of the time you’ll wait too long and he will find someone else if someone else doenst find him. Meanwhile you’ll be getting approached by dudes you don’t want.

At the end of the day IF you are rejected you have closure and aren’t wasting your time on this individual as opposed to crushing for weeks, months, even years, and you just wasted your time

TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

The REASON someone 'hints' is to 'save face' if the 'hint' is not well received--- "Do you wanna? Would you LIKE tah? You KNOW we COULD..." Deny-ablity. "Oh you misunderstood, what I MEANT was..."  We're societal-ly reaching the near legal need of notarized tangible 'consent' to initiate "intimacy"  Like the pop song's chorus sez: "I'm just a man whose intentions are good;  
 Oh lord, pleeze don't let me BE 'misunderstood'..." 
 ... Faint heart n'ere 'won' fair lady.

Ms_Facesitter · Accepted Answer

Because we are different. That is why this site was created. Because we are just That different sometimes. With them you have to be either Yes or No instead of throwing out suggestions because those will go over their heads.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Picking up on the obvious is not one of their strengths.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Why do women have to hide behind hints instead of being honest and straightforward. How much would you like it if we hid behind hints with you?
I don't know what her fucking problem is, Bill. She just keeps following me around everywhere I go! I can't seem to shake her! I told her I didn't want to have anything to do with her ever again.
How did you tell her that?
Well, I told her that Jim & Cindy broke up and that it might actually a good idea.
Hmmm, yeah, you're right! I can't see why she didn't take the hint! I WAS pretty obvious!

ProbablyClueless · Answer

A few reasons

Many times the hint could easily be interpreted a number of ways, and the meaning she intended is not obvious.
Many times the hint just isn't very noticeable.
Occasionally, we notice the hint but don't feel like doing anything about it.
Many times men have direct personal experience with misinterpreting a woman's hints. We think the meaning of the hint is obvious, but the woman thinks she's doing something different.

The reality of dating for men is that one woman's "yes" is another woman's "hell no." And because we don't get any real indication of how a woman might respond to any given situation, responding to a woman's hints feels like walking through a minefield sometimes.

Anonymous · Answer

Why can’t women just be big girls and tell us rather than hint? To you and other women those “hints” are obvious. To men not so much. I wonder why? Maybe because we’re not women. Wouldn’t it be amazing if research found out that men and women don’t think alike. How come women can’t just read my mind when I want my dipstick played w? It always fascinates me that whenever a ma doesn’t get it, or he doesn’t express the same feelings you do as women that were always the ones who are wrong. Women wanted equality, to be able to do this and that, to be able to speak for women. Maybe you should take that voice and speak up about that you want. To me if she’s not telling me directly than it must not be that important.

Hanrej · Answer

Very often we do but just don't want to reward your habit of poorly comunicating.

How about just saying what you want instead? Imagine how much easier that would be. We could then know and FULLY understand what you want to say instead of just having a general clue. We could either say yes or no instead of you walking around and contemplate the reason why your man isn't willing to fulfil your uncomunicated wants and needs AND we can avoid the times men put real effort into to trying but missinterpretting what you want but didn't say.

Anonymous · Answer

Women are subtle. So subtle in fact that when she drops a hint she the only one who knows she ever did anything. This is the first problem. The second problem is a lot of women LOVE to bait guys. So now you got women deliberately playing games with a guy, while a woman seriously, but subtle is trying to drop hints. How do you think that comes off to a guy? Well I won't keep you in suspense. It confuses him. He cannot tell the difference between the two. And when you consider that for every 1 woman that is showing genuine subtle interest. There are 9 women that are just playing games with him. You start to understand that they all look like they're playing games.

So if you want to blame someone. You can start with your own gender. Sorry.

Hope that helps you.

Kaamraj · Answer

Hints are subjective. What is not direct communication is subjective and thus subject to being ignored or miscommunicated. On top of that in today's world of hyper-feminization no mans wants to take the risk of being plastered and defamed on social media. If you want a man's attention and understanding, be direct.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Cuz I'm not paying attention when I'm probably supposed to be, sorry lol.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

I figure if it's not important enough for her to speak clearly, then it doesn't matter. So I just ignore it.

Hinting is not communicating. That's just game playing. If she has something to say, then say it.

Finchie40 · Answer

Because we aren’t mind readers so if your hints aren’t very descriptive or understanding , he will have a hard time understanding what you are hinting to him about

vickiezalez · Answer

Because they're not girls so therefore they don't operate like girls. Men love when we're straightforward. That way if there's a problem, it can be fixed efficiently and promptly.

strateguy632 · Answer

Because they are JUST HINTS.  a hint is vague. And could mean many things. Why are women trying to be subtle? Instead of hints, Say the thing you want him to figure out!

Anonymous · Answer

Because your way to subtle in my experience. Yes a hint should be but it should also be understood you cloak them in to much and we don't understand that it's even a hint anymore. Be a bit more obvious.

AviatorTom · Answer

We guys are simple people when it comes to hints, we don't get them. Maybe the question should be... Why do women give men hints when they know we guys don't get them?

LiamJHayden · Answer

Why not be direct? Men understand that. Many do not understand hints because men in general do not communicate that way. It is like speaking Cantonese to someone from Zimbabwe.

LillyRedrose · Answer

Because their not women you need to be clear with them or they will never understand you. If you hang out enough with them you'll see their always so direct about everything

BadApple69 · Answer

Men need to be hit in the head with a hammer before we actually understand. It’s just the way we are.

Unit1 · Answer

another one expecting mind reading from the boys

Ladsin2 · Answer

Men speak directly, women use subterfuge. It's why when men say "X" women think he really means "Y". When a woman says "X" she means "Y", but men presume she means "X".  It's annoying.

Anonymous · Answer

I have a disability when it comes to women. When one likes me back and shows signs, I over think it. I think of bad reasons why they might be giving me signs instead of the most likely answer.

DJB72 · Answer

Knowing this, why do  WOMEN  insist on trying to use them? That's  not  communicating...

nawtee_me · Answer

the thing about hints, the one giving them know what the intent of them are while the receiver may be guessing the intent. We are not mind readers...

DextroShade · Answer

Because we aren't psykers who can read your fucking mind! Stop playing stupid games and communicate directly!

DrPepper12 · Answer

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OddBeMe · Answer

Because we’ve grown so afraid of losing women’s attention. Becoming more laid back could help you chicks.

jahaims · Answer

They understand hints. What you are calling hints is just poor communication

onedarkcloud · Answer

Because you have to hit them on the back of their head with a 2 x 4 to make it register with their brain

noohair · Answer

Because we are simple creatures, you need to speak slowly, use small words and leave nothing to interpretation.

art84 · Answer

Women should be straight up and not use hints.

LazerMan · Answer

if you want somthin just say it dont hit we dont get hints

QuietRunner · Answer

because they are hints you can jump to different conclusions from any hint

Anonymous · Answer

You having trouble getting a guy turned on or turned off?

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Blanket questions are kind of pointless. How about some context?

Gentilegoyim189 · Answer

If you’re ugly he ”won’t understand” the hints.

Meropatrick · Answer

Oh they damn do but ignore it

John_Cobretti · Answer

Maybe they do but not interested?

gatixek710 · Answer

Why wouldn’t you be direct and honest?

Twalli · Answer

Because we suck at reading signals

Chthou95 · Answer

But aren't women good at communicating? 🤔

Iron_Man · Answer

Like what

sobg1124 · Answer

Is that a hint?

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