What does it mean when a man asks you if you are emotionally available?

[Anonymous]

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He only asked me because he feels I don't conversate with him enough.

[glennos89]

Most woman don't understand that men also have emotions and feelings. Some woman threat guys like robots.

We live in a society where men can't really express there emotions and feelings if they feel sad or insecure. A lot of woman don't understand that men also feel the need to be able to cry or share their negative emotions.

As little boys we are teached that only weak men cry! Therefore you rarely seen a guy crying in front of you, they often choose to do that when they are alone to avoid being vulnerable. A lot of woman simply don't understand or don't want to see/hear men crying and this a very big problem atm.

Crying or feeling sad is a human emotions! Both men and woman feel the need to express their sadness but unfortunately a lot of woman are not capable or not willing to offer emotional support for their men when they need it. Therefore we choose to cry when we are alone.

Guys feel the need to be able to express their emotions just as woman do only we are "not allowed" to do this in our society. "Men should be strong and tough and can't show weakness" and often they don't feel comfortable to be able to express themselves fully.

Personally I look for a girl who supports me emotionally.. meaning that I'm able to cry whenever I want to, without feeling uncomfortable or scared. I want my woman to be able to support me when I feel sad instead of judging me that I show my weaknesses to her.

But sadly there are to many woman who don't like to see men cry, who aren't willing to offer emotional support to a guy being vulnerable. Often woman also like to use his weaknesses against him later when they are having a discussion or fight. Honestly that's really fucked up.

Most men really feel the need to be able to express their emotions freely without being judged but simply don't feel safe enough to do so. That's why most men are struggling and fighting their demons within themselves and that's really s sad thing!!!
The biggest problem is that men rather choose not to cry unless the feel safe enough to do so and then their sadness turns into rage. If I dont let my tears out when I feel sad, it turns into anger and violence!
Because its negative energy and it needs to be expressed one way or another

[Asker]

I'm not trying to be rude but what does this have anything to do with the question I asked you? I'm not like that I actually don't care if a man cries in front of me. We all have emotions and we are human. But I didn't ask you any of that.

[glennos89]

Nevermind

[Tarifa]

He wants to know if you're prepared to start a relationship with him. If you're ready to move on after a break-up you had with a previous partner. If you see him as a possible candidate for more.

No one wants to spend time and effort at the beginning stages if there is doubt that it will actually lead somewhere.

[Asker]

Well he is the one that's just got out of a relationship about a year ago. I was interested in him at the time and I decided to wait and I told him everything so he knows. I'm the one that's in question.

[Tarifa]

I think a year is long enough for him to get over any relationship he had. Although some break-ups are tougher than others and take more time to heal.

You say he feels you don't conversate with him enough. He understands you want to take it slow, but is eager to take a new step. He certainly knows how you feel, so that's a big point in your favour. I would take it slow, but steady. He may think you put him in the friend zone and doesn't want to risk losing a friendship that took time to build up. You're the one who can take him out of the friend zone.

[Asker]

Dude what are you talking about I never heard felt like that. All I said was he said he had feelings and I told him mine and I even told him I was in love with him. So tells you everything. I AM THE ONE that feels like I'm being put in the friend zone.

[Tarifa]

Then he's the one who should make up his mind. You can either wait or be up front.

[Asker]

Okay.

[Caroline91]

The above exchange may be an example of why the guy feels you don’t conversate enough. You don’t give enough information up front and then react in a negative way when someone tries to be helpful. I don’t know if that is your normal mo, but if it is, that’s something to pay attention to and improve on.

[Altheavas]

That’s the most intelligent way to ask a person if they are ready to date exclusively, starting a new chapter and over their past.
If a man ask me if I’m emotionally available, I would immediately rethink my choice, and consider him to see if we’re a match!

[rosemilk]

if this is for romantic interests, he's basically saying "hey, are you still in love with or hung up on your ex?"

if he's just a guy, you may just be coming off as "cold/standoff-ish" to him and he was wondering if he's bothering you

[Asker]

Everybody don't fall in love with the people they're involved with.

[VIVANT]

i’m impressed someone would ask the question directly. That’s an awkward thing to ask, well done.

Genuine question and some kind of game then I’m fairly certain He wants to know if you’re caught up feelings for someone else or preoccupied other things and not in a headspace to be in a relationship with him.

[Asker]

Well he only asked me this because he said I wasn't conversating with him enough.

[Anonymous]

When a man asks if you are emotionally available, it could mean he wants to know if you are open to sharing your thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities with him, and if you are also receptive to his. Emotional availability is a key component of healthy relationships and involves being present, open, and willing to engage with others.

[loveslongnails]

He wants to know if you're either a) still hung up on your ex even though you're not with him or b) are capable of expressing yourself succinctly, both emotionally and mentally.

[Asker]

It's the second answer because my feelings were never deep enough when it came to "any"my exes.

[Crimsyjo]

It means are you open to relationships. Is your mind or heart with another guy? Or stuck in the past?

[Gwendoline]

Random man, trying to sleep with me using stuff he picked up on oprah

[Nikki1989]

He needs a shoulder to cry on, probably.

[bowenw]

He may feel you are avoiding and wants to know if you are interested in him.

[Asker]

He already knows that I am. And yes we been had this conversation.

[bowenw]

I think you should ask him what he meant by that question?

[Asker]

I already what he said in the update.

[bowenw]

Does he speak to you often?

[Asker]

Yes.

[bowenw]

If you are having normal conversations with him, it's strange that he said you don't talk with him enough.

[Asker]

No it's not he said I'm always quiet and don't say much.

[bowenw]

Is that your normal personality or are you only quiet around him?

[noohair]

He is looking for more than sex. A wife comes to mind.

[Likes2drive]

So he can ask you out to be in a relationship with him

[Jennz6]

Not on the rebound

[In_Trance]

How is that not clear

[legalboxers]

you are ready to date

[ABC1x1x]

It means he is gay

[MasterKS]

Playing mind game!