Does this guy like me (READ DETAILS)?

[Anonymous]

There's this boy, he's outgoing and kind of a ratchet dude, but he's good at class. However, lately things have changed. Here's how our friendship was before.

- I get along with him relatively well, though he mainly talks to me to get help with his work. However, we end up getting side tracked and teasing each other.
- One day, I was helping him with his work and it was all fine until his friend who sits by him started saying "W rizz". See I didn't care and ignored it; took it as a backhanded insult and just continued helping him. Davis didn't comment. (Rizz, is short for charisma which typically references being able to pick up guys/girls)
- His friend ends up saying it again a second time, but this time im across the room. I look up from my computer to see what contortions his face made and he smiled at me. (I couldn't help but smile back, he's cute)
- Additionally one of his female friends asked me (when he wasn't looking) if I liked him or not, I said no. (She was smiling when asking me this) (Additionally she couldnt have been "jealous" as she has a boyfriend)

But here's how things are now.

- I assumed he was fine with me, until he started being kind of weird. Like, he has his band of friends that I unfortunately intersect paths with. They usually make some kind of snide remark, or the good old "IS THAT YOUR GIRLFRIEND" directed towards him.

- I honestly just assume he doesn't like me but my friends keep telling me he does.

- But when he is alone, he doesn't act up like this and acts relatively normal.

It's really confusing.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I'm confused as well, when you don't like him really then why do you want to know if he likes you? For the context itself, in that age range maturity is usually low, while tribalism is high. So, you can expect the dual behaviour you describe, the one he has when he is conforming to his band, the one he has when he is alone.

[Asker]

Hi! Everyone keeps telling me that, and it kind of sends me to overthink about it a lot because I can be kind of oblivious when it comes to things like this. I appreciate your response of course.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I can definitely see, given how you express yourself and how you react to events that you observe/think a lot.

There is definitely a lot to think about when it comes to human behaviour. We have entire fields of study devoted to that goal. Maybe you will end up in one of them? 😌

Or maybe not.

[spartan55]

Why is it confusing? You told bis go between that you DIDN'T LIKE HIM. (Which was obviously a lie) . Are you just pretending that you didn't say it? And now you just can't understand why he isn't chasing you all over the place? You seem to lack self-awareness.

[Asker]

I'm sorry but what I meant is that we were initially on good terms and he randomly became weirdly rude... I think he's conventionally attractive, but I don't personally like him. What I am saying is that previously, his friends made comments about us being like a couple, which he never really responded to. Only smiling and whatnot. Now I see him literally *everywhere* and he IS chasing me all over the place which is why it's my concern!

[spartan55]

So you are going to ignore what he said?

[spartan55]

If he won't even talk to you how do you figure he is chasing you?

[Asker]

Okay, let me clear this up a little more. He talks to me, but these days when he is with his friends, it's them issuing the good old "is that your girlfriend?" thing, the generic thing you would hear in middle school. I am not dull, nor am I out of touch with reality. I am simply giving more context as to how we were BEFORE as people, as it is a sudden change. When he is by himself, he acts pretty normal and cracks jokes before we take our separate ways to where we need to be. He's practically everywhere, and I try to avoid him (especially when with friends) as to not cause more trouble.

[spartan55]

What do you mean trouble?

[spartan55]

Again, you seem to want to ignore what you said about him. He changed after you said that about him.

[Asker]

I never respond to anything he says, I'm not really a talkative person... not exactly my forte. What I mean is that, with friends he is honestly kind of annoying like a middle schooler, but alone he is just fine. That's why it's confusing.

[Asker]

By trouble, I mean the teasing from his friends. It makes me rather uncomfortable as I cannot exactly tell if it's some weird backhanded insult or not.

[spartan55]

I don't know why you would think that was an insult. It's not directed at you anyway.

[Anonymous]

He’s into you. He probably just doesn’t enjoy his friends teasing your relationship. I had a very similar “ratchet” friend group in school, making the same comments. Honestly i’d just make it even more obvious to his friends. If it’s obvious there’s not much to tease about. Get your guy, girl!