Does this guy like me?

[Anonymous]

So there’s a guy in my building who I’ve known for a few years and I think he was attracted to me at one point and would strike up conversation here and there, he asked if I’m a software engineer so we talked about that and once we matched on a dating app and he liked my picture.
I didn’t see him much in between for some time but then I saw him in the elevator one day and we striked up a conversation and it was friendly and light. I added him on LinkedIn and he messaged me saying “it was great seeing you today :)” And I messaged him a couple other times just regarding some business stuff and he liked one of my posts.
He always says hi when he sees me but is awkward so many other times.
I’ve seen him at a few events and he seems comfortable talking to others but with me he’s not like that.
Anyway I can’t tell if I’m just being annoying even though I’m just trying to be friendly becuase he’s nice. But there are a lot of times I think he doesn’t seem to want to talk to me.
What should I do?

[teamvic]

Well if y'all literally matched on a dating site I feel that would be a pretty good sign

Perhaps he gets awkward around you because he likes you🤔
Awkwardness and shyness are common things for people who are around people they like because they're afraid of looking stupid in front of them so they become hesitant on what they're gonna say and more aware of not looking dumb, thus making them seem shy or awkward. Now I'm not saying it's DEFINITELY the case for him cause I dont know him but, as I said it is a common thing to see.

I think you guys have both been reciprocating the, hmmm desire? To talk to eachother. If you get what I mean? I'm trying to say it's not just one sided where one person is only hitting the other up. As far as what you should do. Well if you want to take the safer route just start complimenting his outfit or looks or something. Give signs that you like him. Because he might be unsure if you like him as well. I mean you haven't really given him signs you're into him either I'd assume?🤔

Or you could just ask him out. But you do what you want

[Asker]

That’s helpful. I just saw him today and I didn’t initially really make contact but we’re both standing at the elevator and he looked at me and said hey how’s it going? But again…he’s so awkward so I don't know if he’s just being polite haha

[RavVid]

Aside from not wanting a relationship in my workplace, I'd have second thoughts about dating within my profession because I move around.

I gather you are interested in him and you seem to have given him openings that he could take up if he chose. You could exploit the professional connection to meet for drinks and make it more personal. Or you could express interest in getting to know him and ask him out.

If he is awkward with you I'd say he is interested.

[Asker]

Hey thanks! Yeah we don’t work in the same industry or same company. We live in the same apartment building.
I just know that when we talk it’s VERY uncomfortable. I’m always very very polite I think. But he breaks eye contact and seems awkward.

[RavVid]

Sorry for making the inference events was industry events. I was transposing because I did like a girl in my industry and felt awkward with her as it just felt a little too like dating a work colleague.

Maybe the awkwardness stems from being a neighbor. I could see that being the case. It is sort of in the same category as dating in the workplace.

If you like him, then you are going to have to be the one to make the break through. Like go knock on his door or something bringing food or wine and saying you should get to know each other better.

A girl did do that to me. There was a knock on my door and when I opened it she said 'Remember me' . I couldn't because I had never met her. But in she sailed and sat on the couch and started watching the TV. I did get to know her later that night.

I think you are going to have to do something to break through if you like this guy. Maybe not what the girl above did but compulsory none the less. It does help getting them drunk. :)

[Summeroflove]

It’s hard to say, it really is. If you’re into him. Just tell him you’re interested and see if he will meet for coffee. Worst case scenario is that you get rejected, which you have closure and aren’t wasting time on a guy who isn’t going to make a move.

That’s really your best bet. I wish you the best