So what do I do?

[laurlaur101]

This guy I was talking to I enjoyed my conversations with him and he said kind things to me but I was still unsure & skeptical because have to be in the beginning stages anyways he left me on read I haven’t heard anything so I’m debating on what to do should I remove him off snap or just leave it not jump conclusions. I’m tired of feeling this way I feel like I was easing back into talking to guys again I wasn’t rushing or anything but I enjoyed talking to them I just don’t want to feel uneasy or on edge I don’t want to panic but I feel that I constantly deal with the same shit over and over same behavior different guy so weird. I just think I give up honestly with people I feel like guys bullshit me rather be with someone else but I know I’m not bad they don’t give me a chance i feel overlooked I don't know what they put in their mind about me but it sucks I don't know what to do about this I don’t wanna be clouded with emotions and make a rational decision jump conclusions but still

[Oliverlogan263]

Omg girl, I feel you. Dating these days is so much anxiety! But don't lose hope, you seem like a total catch.

First off, I wouldn't delete him yet, that comes across too mad/desperate. But don't hit him up either! Ball's in his court.

Use this time to take care of YOU. Hang with your friends, treat yourself, and try not to stress over what he's doing. Easier said than done, I know!

If he texts back cool - take things slow, feel him out more before investing emotions. But don't sit around waiting on him either. You don't need that type of on-again off-again games stressing your life.

And don't internalize it - his actions say more about him than you! Some guys just be flaky and selfish. Doesn't mean you're not awesome💁‍♀️

Keep putting yourself out there cutie! The right one will see how great you are. In the meantime, keep thriving with your friends by your side. You've got this!

[laurlaur101]

Yeah I guess bottom line I keep meeting the wrong guys they prob aren’t right for me and maybe I’m trying to make the wrong one be right but can’t do that. Then I get guys don’t like that way talk to me I don't know just sometimes unsure how I truly feel I don’t want to make the wrong decision & shut anyone down. I don’t want to be hurt anymore but I’m making progress old me what have handled this different can’t take it personally if this guy doesn’t like me oh well there’s tons of people on this earth someone is bound to like me and want to be with me but it just annoying how I keep running into these types of people. Then the last guy I have a whole story about that he acted like he really did like me my family witnessed it too I’m not crazy and thinking things it appeared that way to them too. They feel bad because he initiated things with me I gave it a try wanted to get to know him more then he just stopped talking but I feel like someone else interfered with it. At the same time maybe I don’t feel altogether ready to be in On my way! So maybe sometimes for the best

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh yeah, it really sucks when you meet a bunch of guys that just aren't right for you but you wanna make it work anyway. I've definitely been there. But you're right, you can't force something if the feelings aren't really there.

It sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders though - you're learning from past experiences and not wanting to jump into anything too fast if you're not totally feeling it. That's really smart. And don't let those other guys get you down, like you said there's plenty more fish in the sea!

The thing with that last guy does sound pretty weird if your family saw he seemed into you too. Who knows what happened there. Maybe something did interfere or he just wasn't as ready as he thought. Either way, his loss!

Try not to overthink it too much for now. Just focus on doing things you enjoy and spending time with people who make you feel good. The right person will come along when you least expect it. You've got so much ahead of you, so don't stress too much about dating right this second. You'll be just fine!

[M-Trimble]

People over think or read to much into the Message Read / Unread. Maybe the person is busy, working, doesn't have their phone on them. Just because someone read a message and doesn't reply doesn't mean they are ignoring you, if he is genuinely interested in you, he will respond when he has time. But based on the last message you sent, maybe he is thinking how to respond or waiting till has time to sit down and reply.

But, guess to really know what he is thinking or will respond to you is based on your conversations. Has be been actively participating in the conversation or just replying with noncommittal short replies.

[laurlaur101]

I know but I’m saying it seemed like he told me what I wanted to hear things just don’t add up because if he liked me as much as he claimed he wouldn’t wanna let a day go by to not talk to me and if he couldn’t talk he could have said hey I’ll be busy today won’t be able to or whatever no communication. I’m just leaving it as it is but it’s his turn to say something I just feel like bullshitted tho he didn’t mean what he said there was times where he said when are you going to be mine and we never hung out yet we been talking since June

[laurlaur101]

So that’s my point there’s more to it that I didn’t explain it would’ve been too long to put all of that but he said things like that I like everything about you I just don’t wanna be lovebombed he said I’m someone he would want to marry one day I don’t believe anything a guy says they bullshit me they aren’t doing that to me

[M-Trimble]

OK so that changes things from my original response. To me it sounds like he was just leading you on and playing games. Almost like telling you what you want to hear without any desire to follow through with anything. I know it's hard to let go, but I'd say let it lay as it is, don't make anymore effort and let him come to you. If he was serious and likes you, then he will message you. Probably not what you want to hear, but don't waste your time and effort.

[laurlaur101]

That’s what I’m saying it seems like he was bullshitting me but I don’t really believe it because I was skeptical the whole time anyways I am until proven otherwise. I keep attracting these types of men tho I don’t get it am I really that bad they can’t take serious? I don't know I don’t act like a hoe they just want someone to be with hoes they seem to want to go with hoe’s they have o issues going with someone like that. I just have so much trouble with guys. I never had a serious boyfriend at all I always end up in these situationships I don't know what that hell is happening. I rather not talk to any guys then if this keep happening I was easing back into talking to guys again I dealt with something similar and worst then he does it. I am unsure about him unless he can feel the uncertainty too maybe the energy is rubbed off I don't know

[jojouzumaki]

You have to ask yourself “is this making me a better person or not?”. Do what’s makes you happy.

[laurlaur101]

Yeah I’ll just let things be I didn’t do anything yet but I wanted to advice if I should or not. I don’t dislike the guy but I just don’t want to force anything either so if he wants space I’ll give it I’ve been using this time to focus on myself anyways & whatever flows flows and whatever crashes crashes. So that’s the mindset too

[jojouzumaki]

That’s sounds great. I’m glad to hear. Making yourself better is the most useful use of your time. Best of luck.

[laurlaur101]

Yes I can’t worry about guys anymore but at the same time I just feel left out because I never get anyone I truly like and I don’t think many guys like me do what should I do

[Viking_Girl19]

I think you need another guy who won't cause you such feelings and no doubts about him ❤️‍🩹

[laurlaur101]

Well I detached from all and just going to focus on myself for now because I think it was a test no guys shouldn’t be leaving any girl on open if he liked her so probably doesn’t like me but oh well tons of guys I’m not truly ready anyways but I like to see if there’s opportunity is all

[Viking_Girl19]

❤️‍🩹

[Viking_Girl19]

Would you like to be friends? Can I follow you?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well damn overthinker much, just talk to them if they talk to you, removing people because they acted strange is doing too much, just don't expect much from them and move on, if they ever decide to show up again, just remain at that stranger stage until there's more to work with.

[laurlaur101]

I didn’t remove but I need advice what to do I don't know if i should or not there’s more to the story but he was saying how he liked everything about me but then chooses to leave it last message on open must not be interested as he seems & bullshitting me I can’t stand fir that getting played that’s what it feels like is having all over again

[ChicoFromThe305]

That's because you are overthinking things, you must remain patient and use his actions to come up with a level you should remain at with this person, if he left you on read then he did, why that may be is still unknown and you have nothing to work with so don't work with anything, just leave it the way it is and move on, if he ever gets back to you, you can make the choice if you want to leave off where y'all left off and continue, you can also get a reason out of him but until then, take it as a flop and keep moving.

[laurlaur101]

I don’t want to deal with this I feel like a guy that likes a girl would never leave her on open but it tell me doesn’t care so I shouldn’t care either so now I took a break off snap and stopping with guys because i took a step back and if I don’t care things could happen

[ChicoFromThe305]

Do what you gotta do, sounds like a decent choice and you are right, he doesn't seem interested or he wouldn't just leave you on read

[laurlaur101]

Exactly I checked today went on snap just to see if anyone else talked other talks but I don’t answer anyone I am not going through this shit again. I don't know what to think or supposed to do. Apart of me wants to talk to him but I don’t want to force it but I have to let things be but I saw he didn’t say anything it’s Thursday so I’m assuming he’s done with me doesn’t wanna talk but he should remove me then so I know where I stand why should I remove?

[ChicoFromThe305]

If it's on Snapchat then check his snap score for a while, if his snap score is going up then he's active with others on it and is actually just ignoring you , but realistically if it's been days I don't recall anyone that doesn't use their phone for days.

[laurlaur101]

Ok but what do I do from here then? Because I think the score did go up but I don't know how much I think he’s ignoring me and choosing not to talk to me so should I just remove him then or what?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Whatever you choose to do, it also depends if you want to just put him in the past or if you want to see or even hope for him to eventually contact you again, if you actually want him a part of your past and don't care for a response then you can remove him, I'm sure he will get the hint when he realizes you've deleted him.

[laurlaur101]

But I don't know what to do I don’t want to regret my decision if I do remove it then think back later oh maybe I want to add them back maybe I’ll just let things be. I don’t have to engage with him but I’m just really upset I swear guys always do this to me I didn’t even meet him for real yet like wtf he was saying when are you going to be mine and all that shit I kinds cringed at that statement bc I don’t think it’s believable I hate how guys operate like why say things that don’t mean when am I going to find my person I can’t take this anymore fr!

[ChicoFromThe305]

Deception can come in many shapes and forms and it's possible he was just making things up, mostly todays times where the new generations believe in this rizz stuff and for the most part rizzing is just smooth flirting that doesn't have to have the actual intentions of what they say, its sweet talk to win the person over, it's no longer actual meaningful flirting, sounds like you've made up your mind then, just cause y'all stop talking doesn't mean u are forced to remove them, as long as you are able to move on and aren't put on hold, then there's no harm in not removing him.

[laurlaur101]

I don’t get why this happens to me maybe not meant for anybody who knows if that’s how it is then fine because I have 0 feelings for any guys right now anyways I was even unsure about this one I enjoyed the convo up until that point so I guess I’m force to let things be I probably will I was unsure anyways maybe subconsciously the unsureness means I knew he wasn’t right for me but talked to him anyways but why do men bullshit women if they don’t mean it I don’t believe anyone honestly for all I know I’m ugly that’s how I feel is my personality bad like I don't know

[ChicoFromThe305]

The reasons can be endless, sometimes when things like this happen, they are the best results on what you get out of the situation cause it could've been worse if you got closer to him and he ditched you then.

[laurlaur101]

That’s true at least happened now instead of going with them for a while then they stop on me would hurt me worst so rather get it over with earlier I’m feeling things out with people it’s good I’m interaction I’m not jumping conclusions or rushing anything I’m just letting things happned gradually if it’s not meant to be then ok

[ChicoFromThe305]

Exactly, seems like you are making the best decisions according to the cards you were dealt, remaining at a natural state is the best way to assure the best results for your situation.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Neutral*

[ohsheeT]

Relax you don't need to jump to anything just let it play out and then go from there

[laurlaur101]

Yeah I don’t want to jump to any conclusions but I just don’t want to have to deal with the similar situations over and over again. There was this one guy that seemed to like me and I started to like him too he quit talking to didn’t see like all words we actually hung out twice but this guy didn’t see him yet. I’m even unsure how I even feel for this guy but I’m letting things flow and play out naturally how they will i can’t really worry about it

[ohsheeT]

. That's kind of weird did you live in the same city... Well I look at everything positive and those two guys just weren't for you that's all there is to it I mean that's the bottom line you got to just keep being yourself because that's what a guy's going to fall in love with is who you are and what you're all about so allow yourself to be that person..

So with both guys is probably just at the. Starting a friendship or did you feel any kind of energy connection

[laurlaur101]

I don't know tbh I’m always unsure about how I truly feel I don't know what to do

[Ariesman81]

It's called anxiety! And we can feel it!

[laurlaur101]

Well yeah I always have that I don't know who I like at this point I have zero feelings anymore ugh I don't know

[Ariesman81]

Girl... you are wild!

[laurlaur101]

Yeah that’s called being treated like shit all my life through school and bullied messed me up

[ohsheeT]

Well like I said don't be in a hurry just let it happen if you like them stay in contact with them. and in time they will prove themselves to you

[Ariesman81]

I gotta admit though... there's just something about a clingy obsessive girl that drives me wild

[laurlaur101]

Yeah makes sense still nothing but oh well Im taking a break from guys again I took a break too

[Ariesman81]

I think you should blow his phone up.

[Ariesman81]

He'll think you're crazy... but it'll make him smile

[laurlaur101]

Nah I’m not doing that

[Ariesman81]

Yeah... wouldn't want him to think you're interested

[laurlaur101]

I don’t want to make it seem like I’m some kook either lol I don't know how he truly feels and maybe he doesn’t know how I feel I’m unsure but it’s weird the feels always hits me when they stop

[Ariesman81]

We know... that's why we do it. Good luck with your situation.

[spartan55]

Do you ever think your expectations are maybe too unrealistic?

[laurlaur101]

Have no clue tbh

[spartan55]

I'm going to say yes, but I don't think you have developed your self awareness much.

[laurlaur101]

What does that mean? I don’t think I’m stupid people must think I’m stupid to play with

[spartan55]

Where did I say anything about you being stupid? Not at all.
It seems like you are fixating on messaging habits: being left on read, response time, who is messaging who first etc. It doesn't seem like that way is working for you, is that fair to say?

[laurlaur101]

No not you I feel like people must think that but they don’t even know me enough to say that I’m saying in general I feel like people make assumptions without fully knowing me yet that’s what guys could be doing when in reality it’s not true. Like for example of this I had a guy say that he thought I was really skinny then when he met me in person he was surprised how good I looked what I actually looked like he saw my face I just took selfies but he must’ve been expecting something else but he got fooled it wasn’t what he thought. But other people don’t ask me out to actually know what I’m fully about that what makes it frustrated for me because they are just putting of version in their head that they think is me but in reality it is I don't know they need to stop dreaming just meet me because their judgment will be wrong I think that’s the issue too but I don't know I’m just trying to figure out what’s happening I don’t wanna be too nice either I don’t think I am bc I have shut people down when they had bad intentions. But I don't know how to react I don’t want to take it personally but I think I am because I experienced these same things over and over again

[spartan55]

I can't make any sense of reply. Poor punctuation doesn't help. You didn't address my point (which is to help you).

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

What @ChicoFromThe305 said.

[MrGSpotHer]

Delete snap

[laurlaur101]

I took a break off of it I need too take another break I can’t really delete it I have a streak with my best friend I want to keep that going.

[MrGSpotHer]

It's a terrible app weirdos can see where you are

[laurlaur101]

I have location off anyways no one can see anything

[MrGSpotHer]

Yea there's apps for that