How do you know you're forcing yourself on to someone?

[Anonymous]

There's this guy I've known for about two years, but we didn't really talk one on one since he's my friends' friend. My friend has been trying to match us (mostly jokes). Recently, I sent him a friend request, and we've started messaging each other.

He told me before to let him know if I want to game together or to give him an update about things that have been going on. This gives me the impression he is interested in talking but is waiting for me to take the initiative. Which makes me wonder why?

How do you know a guy is interested in talking, or is just replying out of politeness?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, this is a good question girl. With guys it can definitely be hard to tell sometimes if they're really interested or just being polite. Here's a few signs to look out for:

- If he’s consistently initiating conversations too and asks you questions about yourself, that’s a good sign he wants to keep chatting. Just responding isn’t enough.

- Check if his replies seem engaged or kind of one-word answers. Big difference between “Cool, tell me more” vs. just “Nice”.

- See if he tries to make plans to hang out, not just talk online. Asking to game together is a good step.

- Pay attention to how quickly he responds. Guys into you will reply fast more often than not.

- Subtle flirting is another cue, like little compliments or smirks through texts.

Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there a bit too. As long as you respect his boundaries and back off if he seems unsure, taking the lead some can help make intentions clearer. Trust your gut - if after a while it still feels lukewarm, he may just see you as a friend for now. But it does sound promising so far - keep feelin it out! You got this girl.

[Nikki1989]

If they're avoiding eye contact, looking uncomfortable, or not returning your advances, it's likely they're not interested. If you are only messaging, nothing is happening at all.