My boyfriend try’s to act bad and I hate it?

[Anonymous]

So context on this situation my boyfriend tries to act like a Badman you know wannab gangster listening to all this drill music. Someone was walking past us and we was sat in the car and he goes ‘ what you looking at I will F you up ‘ I was like wtf why would you even say that the guy didn’t even say anything and he’s like he heard the music and I saw him pull a face that’s why I said it I was baffled.

im 100% not like this as I wouldn’t ever treat someone like shit when they haven’t said anything to me I don’t have the heart for that.

I think it’s time to end it? As he didn’t even see anything wrong in his behaviour and he’s done it a few times now too and I’m always like wtf it’s just a put off

[Anonymous]

Your boyfriend needs to grow up. Tough men don’t need to show they’re “tough.” Your boyfriend is probably some little punk who would shit himself if some real man stepped up to him and pit him in his place. It’s the ones who do the most barking that are usually the cowards. You don’t mess w people, especially the white ones cause you have no idea where they’ve been, what they’ve been through, etc. Hopefully he learns that lesson before someone really hurts him or worse, ends his life. I’d find a new man if I was you.

[Asker]

Yes I 100000% agree with this!!! I said it to him as well why do you even act like that it’s a put off the guy didn’t even say anything to you. Your right he would shit himself if the guy said to him alright get out the car then and show me what you’ve got

[Asker]

Also you are right the bad ones don’t show their bad 💯

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly. I know a lot of dudes who could kick the shit out of a lot of people. Either they’re in martial arts or we’re in the military like me. They’re quiet. Nice, humble, friendly, but you don’t mess w people cause like I said you don’t know who these men are. A lot of military special forces dudes aren’t buff n ripped like someone would think they are. Sure they’re fit, can run like crazy, a lot of endurance, but they don’t look like dudes who could easily kill someone but they can. Your man needs to grow up. Part of being a man is being to control that monster in you that I think all men should have if it’s ever actually needed.

[Asker]

He isn’t my man anymore, don’t know what has gotten into him recently as he never used to be like this as he even started dissing women and I don’t tolerate that’s stuff. Calling them a ‘slag’ which is so weird it screams insecure behaviour don’t you think? & I don’t associate myself with people like that

[Opinion Owner]

I’m not sure if he’s insecure. Maybe just disrespectful, trying to be like a rapper or something the way they talk about women. Who knows. So you broke up w him?

[Asker]

Yeah I agree with that too and yes I have 🙌🏾 I know I’ve made the right decision

[Jackblue]

I suspect he is either convinced you like bad boys or he was spoiled growing up. If you have made it clear you don't like this behavior and he continues you are probably right that it is time to part ways.

[Asker]

Yeah I’ve told him I always be like wtf why you even acting like that it’s a put off then he stops till the next time I see him he carries on and then I have to tell him stop

[Jackblue]

So yes, I think it is time to look elsewhere.

[spartan55]

Weren't you the one who chose him?

[Asker]

He wasn’t like this before honestly it’s recently he’s started changing and I don’t like it so now I am un choosing him

[spartan55]

He was this way, you just didn't see it, or looked the other way. It happens, good on you for pulling the plug.

[Asker]

Yeah maybe not as he didn’t used to act like this infront of me just recently and thank you I’m such a nice girl so I don’t want shit like that on my name as I don’t fuck with that I would never make someone feel like shit

[spartan55]

Regardless, it sounds like it's time to give him the gate.

[Asker]

Yeah definitely you’re right. I’m not with him anymore and it’s his birthday tomorow I’ve said happy birthday to him before hand as he goes bed early but that’s it no plans for him x

[spartan55]

Did you tell him the specific reason you ended it?

[Asker]

There was a few other things as well but I didn’t tell him this was the reason as the other reasons were not good too. But this was the final straw

[spartan55]

You really should have told him. It may have knocked some sense into him.

[Asker]

I have many times told him why he’s acting like that tbh so he knows

[Avicenna]

Have you told him clearly how much it bothers you?

[Asker]

Yeah I’ve told him I always be like wtf why you even acting like that it’s a put off then he stops till the next time I see him he carries on and then I have to tell him stop. It’s god damnn annoying lol