What could I do, to not attract men at all, but still be pretty and not weird?

[chocolatetwopointo]

[Keyboardkat]

You are only 16, according to your profile. That's a bit young to be getting into a serious relationship, which you apparently don't want anyway. But let me ask you, why are you so strongly vehement about not wanting any favorable attention from guys? Are you afraid of guys? Did you have a bad experience with one? Do you not feel ANY attraction to the opposite sex? We're just people, you know, just like you girls are. At some point, you WILL be old enough and far enough into your life where it would make sense for you to find someone who is for you. Do you think your point of view will be the same then as it is now? I'm just wondering.

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah im not getting into a relationship, i js wanna prevent it for the future. its js weird and embarrassing, id rather not want anyone talking to me unless its serious. yea im afraid of guys, i haven't but ik loads of girls who had. i do feel attraction but when i think harder ab it i lose it knowing what they could do to me and thinking they’re not upto my standards. i dont want somebody for me, i really doubt anyone is up to my standards. i think ill still have the same thoughts tbh I've thought this was for really long

[Keyboardkat]

Just so you know, all guys are NOT the same. But you'll have a pretty sad and lonely life if you can't learn to trust. And as I said, we guys are just people. We have our good points and we have our failings, just like you girls do.

[chocolatetwopointo]

ik that, why would i be sad and lonely? if anything i want men to stay away fron me. idc ab that, i also said that nobody is up to my standards.

[Keyboardkat]

Why? Because as human beings, we are social animals. And as we get older, our friends and acquaintances tend to find partners, get married, have children, and become primarily focused on their own lives. And at 16, you may not really see or feel this, but you, too, will grow old one day. You won't have a marriage partner to grow old with. You won't have grandchildren to warm your heart in your old age. And, as happens to most of us, you become disabled or unable to care for yourself, you will have no family to help you, to visit you, to help you take care of your needs, and ultimately, to see you off on your last journey! At 16, you do not have the perpective or maturity to realize a lot of things. You can dismiss them now, but they remain as facts of life.
AND, I would really like to understand what you mean when you say "No man meets my standards." Forgive me, but that REALLY sounds a bit arrogant and egotistical, especially coming from a teenager! I am not putting you down, I am simply pointing out that you REALLY do not have very much life experience right now, and I don't know that these standards of yours can be, and what they relate to. I am 79 years old now, and I'm a grandfather. I can tell you that wisdom didn't come to me cheaply or easily. I had to get banged around by life a good bit in order to mature and gain insight into a lot of things. Today I look back with some embarrassment at the boy I was at 16, pontificating about all the "solid: things I "knew," or thought I did.
I don't expect you to accept what I'm saying, or even take it into considerations, because I know that 16 year olds know everything and dismiss what older people have to say. But as you grow older, I think you will begin to see that I am right. I really do wish you all the best, and may you be blessed on your journey.

[Keyboardkat]

I apologize for all the typos.

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah i can still hang out with them sometimes, id rather be lonely than be tortured by having a man in my life constantly. i love being alone. thank god i dont want anyone to see me old so im gonna kms at like 40. thank god, kids r so annoying istg. all i need is money. if i keep healthy i won't need help. i dont want any visits. so i should torture myself for like half of my life with a man and kids js so i can be taken care of? hell no. i already know nobodys up to my standards, and if they’re not up to them i will never live a happy life with them. nope i still won't want that basic boring life.

[Keyboardkat]

Please, I'd like to know specifically what you mean by "my standards." I mean, as I said, that really sounds a bit arrogant. For your information, guys have their standards, too! I mean, what if you DID find a guy who actually lived up to your standards, whatever you mean by that? Would you change your mind about it?

[chocolatetwopointo]

okay sure, in looks, he should be 170-180cm tall, attractive, glasses is a plus. in personality id want him to not want kids or wanna get married, not racist, sexist or homophobic and so on, needs to understand i dont like people touching me and i dont wanna be or text with him all the time, can support himself, has a stable job, and not be criminal basically, there's prolly more but i dont remember it. yeah thats why i said its impossible! bc the guy im describing is perfect, and guys like that will never like me. if i find a man like that, he won't like me.

[chocolatetwopointo]

and he needs to be mature ab 50/50 thats the only way i will live, bc ill feel bad if someone gifts me smth so he can't have like giving gifts as a love language.

[Lynx122]

That's gonna be difficult since we are wired to be attracted to each other. Even goth girls who are purposefully making themselves unattractive have fanboys so I don't know.

[chocolatetwopointo]

so there's nothing i could do?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Dive deep into feminine. Worry less about attracting men, do more for you, attract lesbians. Find flowy dresses with trumpet sleeves, wear dusters that look like ethereal cloaks, become a goddess in what you love and do as you please. When you stop dressing for the male gaze, men stop looking at you lol

[chocolatetwopointo]

i thought men loved those flowy dresses and feminine women,

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Nah, men more prefer the tight dresses that expose your figure, they’re not big on flowy and feminine. Lesbians love it tho

[chocolatetwopointo]

well they do like feminine women

[Kayleigh2005]

Well, why do so many men have access to youin the first place?

[chocolatetwopointo]

wdym?

[Kayleigh2005]

Which men are attracted to u

[chocolatetwopointo]

none rn hopefully, im trying to prevent it?

[Kayleigh2005]

Omg, go enjoy life grl

[chocolatetwopointo]

r u saying i should be happy no man is attracted to me or the other way? im confused🌝

[Sevenpointfive]

tell everyone that you have AIDS or HIV, genital warts and herpes also work.

[chocolatetwopointo]

okay thats actually pretty smart, thank you

[Sevenpointfive]

i is pretty smart some times. ;D

[bowenw]

Men will be attracted to you and there is no way to stop them from feeling that way. Your best strategy is to not talk to them if they hit on you.

[chocolatetwopointo]

can't i do anything to prevent it?

[bowenw]

You can't control what is in other people's minds or their feelings. Some single women wear a wedding band to try to stop men from hitting on them.

[Anonymous]

Dress like a democratic female. Colored hair, blue or green, facial piercings, yelling n screaming.

[chocolatetwopointo]

read the end of my question please.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh lol my mistake. Don’t think you can do much honestly especially if you’re pretty

[236color]

Nothing checks all those boxes.

[chocolatetwopointo]

wdym?

[Unit1]

Say you hate men because you do just that.

[chocolatetwopointo]

they won't know that until they talk to me, and i dont want them to talk to me

[Unit1]

It doesn't get any more closer than this

[chocolatetwopointo]

still, i want them to not wanna approch me at all

[Unit1]

Then wear something with a big text, that says "i hate all men". it'll sacrifice your aesthetics but you don't want that.

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah no

[Sunlight4]

Be yourself

[chocolatetwopointo]

why? what would that do?

[Sunlight4]

Not much to do, I believe can’t do anything besides not to pay attention

[chocolatetwopointo]

and what can i do to not want them to approach me, thats the question

[Sunlight4]

Just try to ignore their approach and keep walking.

[chocolatetwopointo]

thats js rude, id feel bad