Want to understand the situation?

[Anonymous]

There's a guy age 29 and a girl age 25. They met each other on the dating app. In the guy's profile, it was written that he is looking for a long-term, monogamous relationship.
They had their first date at a restaurant where he behaved really well, mature and attentive.
After that, they exchanged numbers, and he dropped her home. Also, he met her roommate, and they made out without having sex as the girl said she's not comfortable in front of her roommates, and he respected that. After he left, they started talking to each other, sharing schedule, plans and that guy said he wants to on more dates with girl as he's liking her company and how positive n motivated she's as a
Person. Meanwhile, the guy is being so generous and sincere he told her about his family, who's there, what they are doing, and blah blah
On second date they went to have drinks and it was cold so they were sitting in the car after drinks, so they had kisses and also that guy let's just say they m@sturbate together, bit girl was not comfortable to do anything more than that in Car, so they didn't do anything.
So kind a thing is that guy does not give any creepy or lustful energy seems genuine and also girl like him but now she's afraid what should she do? Should that girl ask the guy that you are looking for long-term or what phase are we? It should be on text or face to face? Actually, that girl got a lot of attention from boys in her life before , and now she want something meaningful in her life.
Although she thinks that a relationship does not start thinking that we are in serious things unless and until you share time with each other and understand each other.
She shared similar thoughts with him, and he agreed 👍
So, should that girl ask him directly if he is looking for something meaningful from this? she doesn't want to pressurize him, but she should know before her feelings get involved.
What should that girl should do?
Addition: they're regularly talking on WhatsApp

[Oliverlogan263]

Okay, girl, let me try to break down this situation and give you my honest thoughts.

First off, it sounds like this guy you've been seeing is coming across as pretty genuine and respectful so far. The fact that he was upfront about wanting a long-term, monogamous relationship in his dating profile is a good sign. And the way he's been open about his family and plans with you is a nice touch.

Him respecting your boundaries around physical intimacy in front of your roommate is also a mature and thoughtful move. It shows he's not just trying to rush into physical stuff, which is really important when you're looking for something meaningful.

At the same time, I can totally understand why you might be feeling a bit cautious and unsure about where this is all going. Even though he seems sincere, it's still early days, and you don't want to get in over your head emotionally if he's not on the same page.

My advice would be to have an open and honest conversation with him, either in person or over text. I think it's totally fair for you to ask him directly if he's looking for something serious and long-term, just to make sure you're both on the same page.

Framing it as "I'm really enjoying getting to know you, and I want to make sure we're on the same page about what we're both looking for" is a good way to approach it. That way, you're not accusing him of anything or putting him on the spot, you're just trying to understand his intentions.

If he confirms that he's truly interested in a meaningful, long-term relationship, then great! That'll give you the reassurance you need to keep exploring things with him. But if he seems hesitant or noncommittal, then you'll know it's probably best to pump the brakes and protect your own heart.

Don't be afraid to have that conversation, girl. Your feelings are valid, and it's important that you're both seeking the same thing. Wishing you all the best with this guy! Just stay true to what you want, and don't settle for anything less.

[Asker]

That's a relief, and thanks for the proper details

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, I totally get why you'd be feeling a bit uneasy about how fast things are moving with this guy. Even though he seems super into you and is being respectful so far, it's normal to want to make sure you're both on the same page about what you're looking for.

The fact that he was upfront in his dating profile about wanting a long-term, monogamous relationship is a good sign. And it's cool that he's been open with you about his family and stuff. That shows he's trying to be genuine.

But you're right to want to have that conversation with him face-to-face if you can. That way you can really get a sense of where his head is at. Bringing it up and being honest about your feelings is the way to go. Just say something like "I'm really enjoying getting to know you, but I want to make sure we're both looking for the same thing here. Is that something we could talk about?"

Don't be afraid to set those boundaries and speak up for what you need. A guy who's worth keeping around will respect that. Hopefully he'll be receptive and you two can figure out if you're truly on the same wavelength.

I'm glad I could help provide some more details and context. Navigating the early stages of a relationship can be tricky, but you seem to have a good handle on it. Just keep being honest and true to yourself, girl. Wishing you all the best with this!

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re very welcome

[ohsheeT]

Well that's kind of hot
No matter what you do no matter how you do it you have to wait both sides

First of all you have to trust in yourself and believe in yourself and have the confidence to understand that no matter what type of relationship you have something can happen and he could just walk away and you have to be able to understand that no matter what you give of yourself whether it's 100% because that's what you believe in when you're in a relationship is what I feel that you did your best to make it work

The sad part is no matter who we're with if they don't give 100% of themselves it's never going to work one day everything could be perfect and the next day everything wrong

You have to ask yourself if he was just to walk away how are you going to do with it can you do with it are you willing to take that chance

If it was just you it would be perfect wouldn't it but when there's somebody else involved you don't know what they're going to do for a moment to moment

You could have the best relationship in the world one day and the next day not you have to ask yourself how are you going to handle it how are you going to get through it and deal with it are you strong enough to do this

Relationships are fun fantastic they're beautiful if you can become one with that person and truly allow them all the way in and they do the same thing for you

I love relationships I think they are the best things in the world and when two people can Bond and become one together and I may just peak together it's a high it's a natural high and it's beautiful

But there are two people involved that means there's two pages that means there's two brains two ideas two thoughts and you would like to think that you're on the same page always forever and sometimes it doesn't work out that way

I think what you have going is a beautiful thing I would like to have that same thing just because of your wording I can tell that you have a beautiful heart and you are willing to let yourself free and do some beautiful things together I think go for it but I can't tell you what to do I should have said that first LOL you got to be able to take the good with the bad or the bad with the good I guess

I look at relationships kind of like this no matter what happens you're going to gain experience knowledge you're going to gain a new depth of love of Life happiness
And no matter what happens you're going to get through it
I think the guys probably a lucky guy. And I would think that he knows that I can tell that just by your words and he has spent time with you so so I would really no understand and respect what he has going.
But right now this is about you and only you can make this choice this decision it's all good on paper it's all good in the heart but no matter what you have to wait both sides nobody ever wants to be hurt
And I'm not saying that you're going to be hurt when I'm trying to say I believe is no matter what how strong are you can you pick up the pieces and go home as they say and start all over

Anything in life that we do it's not that we fell down it's how we get back up and move on that's what I'm trying to say I say go for it I think he's the lucky guy and I would think that he knows that at least I would hope so

[WhitneySnow]

She should ask him directly in person what he’s looking for. But if he suggested masturbating together on the second date, that could be a bad sign. (It could be a very good sign, in that the guy is mature enough to know that masturbating together will help them both take it more slowly, but it’s probably a bad sign because it means he’s overly focused on sec. Plus he did want to have sex with her on the first date but she said no.)

[Crazzyyworld]

All men hate their own life just like trump

[lightbulb27]

uh, yea... communicate.

[snowboarder720]

Ask him what his intentions are in this relationship. It’s a pretty casual question without pressuring him. Ask him how does he feel about you too. This two questions will get him to think.

[Asker]

Thank you so much

[snowboarder720]

For sure!