I'm going to try to be as brief as possible in describing this. I'm 48 and I was on an app where you talk to people anonymously. I ended up meeting a 19-year-old girl who was very mature and we chatted. We kept chatting and it became a regular thing. I never asked for a picture and told her not to send one if she felt uncomfortable. I never asked for a picture. She probably sent me about 20-25 pictures. One where she was doing the splits. She was the most beautiful girl that I've ever seen. I told her that but I never hit on her. Besides telling her that. I didn't act creepy and I avoided being any in any way sexual or acting like something was going to happen. I knew that it wasn't going to happen. But I did have a crush on her. I couldn't help it but I paved myself and never acted on any kind of feelings through my language. She treated me horribly. Called me stupid, said I was broken, said I had no future etc I would get mad and say really mean things to her but it would only be in retaliation to all the things I just mentioned. Otherwise I would tell her that she was really smart I would encourage her in her studies, told her she should stick with her boyfriend and not fool around with this other guy. I tried to act like the way that a good uncle would act. I know girls automatically are going to think that I'm being creepy by even talking to her. We talked about classical music and history. We just enjoyed each other's chats. It all ended terribly. Because she was so mean to me some of the things she said set me off. Am I in the wrong or is she in the wrong for being cruel to me? Mind you I put this girl on a pedestal and made her seem like a goddess. But did it in a respectful way where there was never any kind of hitting on her. Please be honest but don't be hateful. Please try to avoid name calling. Otherwise I want people to be as honest as they are willing to be. I'd like to know what you really think. I just don't like nastiness. Thanks for reading.
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I think women like to be treated like sh1t. They love validation and this girl might have been looking for that or for drama between you and her boyfriend. Honestly, you're 48, nothing wrong with going after a 19 year old girl. She maybe was looking for sexual attention and you acted as Mr Nice guy. Women seem to despise men that treat them right. They actually lose respect for men that treat them as human first. Most women will call you every name in the book just for being decent.
Well at least your answer makes me feel better. She was the most beautiful woman I've ever seen and I think that I ever will see in my life. She was perfect in every way. Except her Cold cruel heart. What a shame. Intelligent, ambitious, all kinds of good things. But she saw people the way that people look down on others for not having money or for being a lower social class. She drove around with Rich boys and their daddies sports cars. And would brag about it. I really gave her hell about that and told her how superficial that was. And that that wasn't going to impress anyone that was over 18. She didn't understand that. I think she did after I told her. I still am hurt over how the whole situation ended up. She really got me. The heart does with the heart wants. I've been with the girl for 16 years too. She knows everything about this. She doesn't really care that much either. She doesn't think it was a big
honestly man, there’s nothing wrong with the age gap. you have the right to live your life however you choose to live it, obviously 18+ lol. but i say just try to move on. if she’s meant to be in your life, she wouldn’t have left or if she did, she’d come back. you’re safer not worrying about her. safer mentally, emotionally, and legally
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