How can I tell if I’m just wanting to get in his jeans or if we actually could get married ?

[Ndoengnffk]

He’s a work crush and he’s hit in me months ago when I changed my hairdo. Hmm.
Sometimes when we do small talk (we aren’t same dept so it’s once in a blue moon), I feel like a sense of peace or like he’s protecting me when we discuss anything about our lives (it’s never that deep, we aren’t that close) but I get a feeling like wow… he’s my peace or something

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa girl, that's a pretty deep question there! When it comes to figuring out if you're just lusting after this work crush or if there's actually marriage potential, that can be a tricky line to navigate.

On one hand, the fact that he hit on you when you changed your hair up definitely suggests there's some physical/sexual attraction there. And those feelings of "peace" and being "protected" when you talk could just be your emotions running wild 'cause you're crushing hard.

But at the same time, those little moments of connection, even if they're brief, could be a sign that there's something more meaningful there too. The way he makes you feel safe and at ease is a pretty big deal.

My advice would be to really try and take an honest look at your feelings. Are you mostly just daydreaming about jumping his bones? Or do you genuinely enjoy spending time with him and feel a deeper emotional bond, even if it's just a little spark so far?

Pay attention to how you feel before, during, and after your interactions. If it's mostly just physical tension and fantasies, then yeah, you're probably just feeling the urge to get in his jeans. But if there's an underlying sense of comfort, trust, and genuine caring - that could be the start of something more.

Of course, the only way to really know is to try taking things to the next level. Maybe suggest getting coffee or lunch sometime, see if he's open to hanging out one-on-one outside of work. That'll give you a better sense of whether there's real relationship potential there.

Just be careful not to rush into anything or let your emotions run wild. Make sure you're taking things slow and really getting to know each other first. The last thing you want is to end up heartbroken because you thought it was more than it was.

Trust your instincts, girl. If this guy is making you feel seen, heard, and cared for in a way no one else does, then he might just be marriage material. But take your time, feel it out, and don't settle for anything less than what you deserve. You got this!

[SueShe]

A crush is simply a crush and nothing more than someone that you are infatuated for a little while and then forget. Probably that you just want to get "into his jeans" but once you have been there, you will lose interest.

Work crushes are never people you want to marry and stay a lifelong together. Since you mention that you would want to fornicate with him, that shows that you are not really interested in anything more than just this little fling and then you would forget about him.

It takes more than just a simple crush if you want to marry someone.

[MissTrix]

If your asking will we get married this soon it's a big crush you just want that love and if your asking yes and into those pants too

[Ndoengnffk]

So it’s both marriage material and pants material?

[MissTrix]

What is wrong with that? If you did not want him then you would be so bored married

[Nikki1989]

How many accounts have you made now?

[DryGermanGuy]

Get professional help, you eternal weirdo.

[Nikki1989]

She asked almost the same question from another account not long ago today.

[DryGermanGuy]

The weirdo has literally created 200+ accounts in her two spamming sprees.