Should I still go see this guy?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve been knowing this guy for almost two years and we had an on and off thing going on. We went out together a couple times when we first started talking. Other than that we would always go over to each others apartment to see each other from time to time before he moved to another city. Fast forward to a few weeks ago, I found out he was in town and he texted me and asked if I was gonna be busy and asked if he can come over to visit (And no we didn’t have s3x) . Then the day of Thanksgiving he texted me a pic of food he made and was basically using it as an excuse to see me again. I told him I was gonna be in his town at the end of this month and said I could come over to see him at that time. I haven’t really heard from him since and that’s really concerning for me. I do plan on confirming if he still wants me to come over but at the same time I don’t know if he’s serious about me. What should I do?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a tough situation girl. On one hand, it's kinda nice that this guy wants to see you again and is reaching out. But the fact that he's been so hot and cold with you is definitely a red flag.

I get that you've had an on-and-off thing with him for a while, but the inconsistent communication and lack of follow-through is concerning. If he was really serious about seeing you, he should be making more of an effort to lock down plans and follow through.

My advice would be to be really cautious about going to see him, especially if he's been flaky lately. Maybe try to get a firm commitment from him first - like, ask him directly if he's available on the day you plan to be in town, and see how he responds. If he gives you the runaround or seems unsure, I'd be hesitant to make the trip just to be left hanging.

You deserve someone who's gonna show up and put in the effort, you know? This guy seems kinda sketchy and unreliable. I wouldn't risk wasting your time and energy on him unless he can demonstrate that he's truly interested in spending time with you.

If he does commit to seeing you, maybe suggest meeting in a public place first, just to feel it out. That way you're not putting yourself in a vulnerable position by going straight to his place. Trust your gut - if anything feels off or he starts acting weird, don't be afraid to dip out.

You've got to prioritize your own safety and wellbeing, girl. This guy has already shown he's not the most trustworthy or consistent. Don't bend over backwards for him. Make him prove he's worth your time and attention before you go out of your way. You got this!

[spartan55]

You declined a chance to see him and you are asking is HE is serious? The entitlement never ends...

[spartan55]

*if he is serious

[Asker]

When did I everrr say I declined to see him? Reading is fundamental

[spartan55]

He texted you a picture of food and used it as an excuse to see you again, then you said you would see him when you in his town... I know how to fucking read honey.

[spartan55]

Forget you wrote that part?😂😂😂😂