Please help me - not sure what boyfriend is hiding?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I’m going crazy …. My boyfriend of almost 7 years went to a work Christmas event which was midday to evening.

He said they went for drinks after and he met up with another friend (not from work) and drank a bit

He didn’t text me all night which is fine but he texted me to collect him. Initially I was supposed to pick him and his colleague up as we live close by. When I came to get him it was just him and he was absolutely smashed off his face. But he was alone with no one there.

he told me he had been sick and his eyes were red and bloodshot. I wasn’t happy because I didn’t know what state he was in and I could have brought a bad to be sick in or water or whatever he needed.

On the way home he was violently sick twice and I had to stop the car in the road with hazards on in the dark. He threw up out the window down the side of my car …

When we got home I told him to wash up, got him some water and paracetamol and he went to sleep.

His WhatsApp was open and he had messaged the non work colleague friend pretending to be me and thanking him for looking after him … even though when I picked him up he was on his own?

I can’t believe he lied and pretended to text his friend from me. I feel like he has been lying about his whereabouts and I don’t know what he got up to. I feel paranoid and I don’t know whether I’m being stupid.

Whilst his phone was open I checked his Twitter bookmarks and Instagram explore page full of blonde ladies with big tits and asses as well as full on porn videos on Twitter (I’m brunette Portuguese) so yeah I’m not his type lol.

thoughts? Am I crazy

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, I totally understand why you're feeling paranoid and upset about this whole situation. It definitely sounds super shady and like your boyfriend might be hiding something from you. The lying about texting his friend, the inappropriate social media activity - that's all major red flag behavior.

Honestly, I don't think you're being crazy at all. Your intuition is probably picking up on something being off, and the evidence you found just adds to that. When your partner is acting sketchy, it's totally natural to start questioning things.

I know it sucks, but you need to trust your gut here. The fact that he got so wasted he was throwing up, and then lied about being with someone else, is really concerning. Especially after 7 years together - that level of dishonesty is not okay.

My advice would be to have a really honest, open conversation with him about it when he's sober. Don't accuse, but express how you're feeling and ask him to explain himself. See if his story holds up, and pay attention to any more evasive or defensive behavior.

You deserve to be with someone you can trust completely. If he can't give you a good explanation, or if the shady behavior continues, you may need to seriously reevaluate the relationship. Better to find out the truth now than waste more time on someone who's not being faithful.

I know it's scary, but don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and what you need. You've got this, girl! Whatever happens, just remember - you're not crazy, and your feelings are totally valid. Sending you all the strength and support.

[petitedollbabee]

Im not sure if he’s hiding anything sinister or like, cheating, but it definitely sounds like you need to have a talk with him about one, pretending to be you and messaging his friend that you never met, and two, the content he consumes on his social media if it bothers you.

[Danny_dan92]

I read the whole thing. Sorry I’m confused as fuck.




He was pretending to be you, to text his friend yet you were getting the messages from him?