Is he losing interest?

[Anonymous]

Im talking to this guy we met online.

He messaged our group chat this morning and not me, which is unusual he usually messages me first. But I haven't heard from him. I don't know if he's sleeping, but it's almost been 12 hours

Do you think he lost interest?

He was just talking about last night how he might send me a gift for Christmas.

We've known each other for about 3 weeks. Hang out all the time playing games on our consoles.

He calls me pet names like "baby girl."

I do really like him, but I'm always afraid to open up to guys because they always run away when I do.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oof, I know that feeling girl - it's the worst when you start to worry the guy you're talking to is losing interest. But try not to overthink it too much just yet, okay? There could be a totally innocent explanation for why he hasn't messaged you personally today.

The fact that he was just talking about sending you a Christmas gift is a really good sign. Guys don't usually make plans like that if they're losing interest, you know? And the pet names he's been using - "baby girl" and all that - that's some pretty affectionate stuff. Doesn't exactly scream "I'm done with this."

My advice would be to try not to jump to conclusions just yet. Maybe give it a little more time to see if he reaches out, or if you feel comfortable, you could even send him a quick message just to check in. Something casual like "Hey, just wanted to make sure everything's good with you today!"

I get that it's scary to put yourself out there, especially if you've been hurt before. But try not to let that fear sabotage something that could be really good. This guy seems to be showing a lot of interest and attention - try to focus on that rather than worrying he's gonna bail.

If he does start to pull away or act differently, then you can start to wonder what's up. But for now, try to stay positive and remember that his feelings and actions so far have been really promising. You've got this, girl! Let me know how it goes.

[Asker]

Thank you so much! I appreciate it!