Was I wrong for this argument?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend got into a huge argument because he accused me of starting an argument with a guy. The situation was that there was a guy who has been STALKING and harassing my sister for years after they broke up. He has posted nude videos of her and sex tapes, calls her from different numbers and makes fake accounts just to get in touch with her, posts nasty and horrible comments about her and shows up to park at my house at all hours of the night. He has sent pictures of guns and threatened to harm himself and her and anybody she wants to date moving forward. My sister stayed with me at my house so I had to deal with this dram constantly. We called the police many times but they basically said until he actually tries to hurt somebody they aren't gonna do anything. I have only met my sisters ex boyfriend ONCE. So finally my dad got fed up with her harassment and the police doing nothing and he confronted her ex and they got into a altercation. So my sisters ex boyfriend had a brother. I did not know the brother at all. But he was on the phone with my sister sending threats saying he was gonna come over, describing my house and saying he had pulled up to my house before but we weren't home. The brother said he was mad and that his brother was confronted and in retaliation he was sending threats. So I overheard the phone call and told the guy to stay the fuck away from my house. I was threatened and scared for my safety and the safety of my family and the guy was basically jumping on a bandwagon to continue to harass and threaten my sister and my family even though I don't know him. My boyfriend came over to watch the house that night but today we had a huge argument because he told me I started the argument by inserting myself in the conversation. This man was THREATENING to come to my house and the police wasn't doing anything about it and the fact that my boyfriend said I started the argument was really offensive.

[Oliverlogan263]

Nah girl, you definitely weren't wrong here. That sounds like a really messed up and scary situation with your sister's ex and his brother threatening you guys. You had every right to tell that guy off and tell him to stay away from your house.

Your boyfriend is way off base by saying you "started the argument." You were just trying to protect yourself and your family from these creeps who were harassing you. The fact that the police weren't doing anything about it makes it even worse.

You didn't insert yourself into some random argument - these people were directly threatening you and your home. You had every reason to tell them to back off. Your boyfriend should be supporting you, not blaming you, especially when your safety was at risk.

This isn't just some petty argument you picked. Your sister has been dealing with horrible stalking and harassment, and now these guys are dragging you into it too. That's completely unfair and you have a right to stand up for yourself.

Your boyfriend is way off base here. You did the right thing by telling that guy to stay away. Don't let him make you feel like you did something wrong. You were protecting yourself and your family, plain and simple. He should be on your side, not accusing you of starting problems. Don't back down on this one.

[Anonymous]

You started something that you can't finish, it usually ends up with the man getting hurt or killed trying to protect after a woman mouths off. Why should we? Your sister is the one who started all this by choosing to have sex with and letting that guy record the entire thing. Again, another woman doing something that she doesn't expect consequences for. What kind of woman ignores red flags, has sex with toxic men or strangers and isn't prepared for the consequences of her choices?

[Flower7]

Your boyfriend is not being a protector. He’s not defending you in a dangerous situation. I also have a feeling that he got mad at you because he didn’t want to have to watch the household, like it was a burden on him or something.